What has been you happiest revelation since you accepted who you are and told others?

[Heather Shay]

What has been you happiest revelation since you accepted who you are and told others?

[Maddee]

My family have had a lifelong struggle accepting me.  Every time I came to them, they acted hurt and surprised like they’d never been told before.  Crossdressing ir being trans or “gay” are like the worst most hurtful crimes ever

 

Last Nov my mom went sick and died quickly.  On her deathbed the last words she spoke to me was that she liked my outfit and that I have good taste.  

[KathyLauren]

1. That life is so much easier when you don't have to pretend all the time.

 

2. That people here are mostly good, and, if they don't understand you, will at least be polite.

[StephieGurl]

How everything seems so natural. It is like it has been this way my whole life. Freedom of express that reflects the inner me

[StephieGurl]

2 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

A whole lotta Truth right there.

Thanks

[Jani]

There was more fear in my head than I ever needed to consider.  People are nicer than I expected.

[MirandaB]

@Maddee  I love that story about your mom!

 

Just that you can have a resting baseline of happiness, if you have a day without any major issue happening you can just be happy?

[Ivy]

I definitely feel freer now, and have not met with as much hostility as I had expected.

And I have grown closer to some of my adult children - particularly some of my daughters.

[Marcie Jensen]

Personally, my happiest revelation has been very similar to @Ivy. Also, i find I'm a lot calmer and less angry than I was before.

[Vidanjali]

I feel myself as more expansive, whereas before I was so very constricted. But, I didn't know how small my world was until realizing it retrospectively from this more expansive perspective. Everything in my life now seems brighter and richer. I feel more integrated with life itself as I let go of the fears and assumptions that bound me. 

[Ivy]

17 minutes ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Also, i find I'm a lot calmer and less angry than I was before.

Ah, I had forgotten this one…

All my life I had an underlying feeling of anger - although I kept it repressed for the most part.  When I accepted myself it went away.

[Heather Nicole]

For me, the happiest revelation so far was simply the revelation that I am trans. It meant that I didn't necessarily have to be cursed to live the rest of my life as my assigned gender after all. It genuinely felt like winning the lottery, or like falling in love with myself.

 

Also, and maybe this might sound strange, but I'm also surprised to find just how at home I feel being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, and how much I like not feeling like some outsider who couldn't possibly know how to be a good ally without "invading their space" or otherwise messing it up and offending people. Of course, the ironic thing about that, is I realize now firsthand just how much the allies are appreciated.

[Davie]

26 minutes ago, Heather Nicole said:

This might sound strange, but I'm also surprised to find just how at home I feel being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, and how much I like not feeling like some outsider who couldn't possibly know how to be a good ally without "invading their space" or otherwise messing it up and offending people. Of course, the ironic thing about that, is I realize now firsthand just how much the allies are appreciated.

This surprised me, too, but I'm also happy to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. We do need allies.

[Sol]

That no matter what, I'll always have people who support me. It's been pretty helpful in accepting myself and being okay with expressing that.

[stveee]

Transing is probably the most difficult challenge of my life, and yet most of it was the fear in my own head.

Sure, there's the surgeries bit and legal and the possibility for real losses...but now that I did it, I know I can accomplish anything I put effort into. Possibilities can be realities.

[Spencer Phoenix]

That the people who I thought wouldn't support me absolutely had my back, even if they don't fully understand what I'm going through.