Not being able to or desire to have any kind of Trans* Med treatment

[StephieGurl]

These surgeries can be a serious as a vaginoplasty to having an orchiectomy for transgender woman. Top surgery or bottom procedures for transgender. Those who are nonbinary may even have a mix of surgeries. Hormonal treatments of any kind. Hair removal. Or anything that would make someone more comfortable in their own skin and so calmer in their minds. This is not by any means exhaustive.

 

Please feel free to post what your going through, how are your feeling. If offering help please be sure you do not make matters worse for them. Example: "Don' worry lot's pf people don't have any . . . "

 

Above all be respectful at all times

 

Thank you Stephie 

[LaurenA]

I have recently decided to have an orchietomy  I'm 72 YO and should be worried about surgery, but I'm not.  I look forward to it because it helps me feel more like a woman.  I am planning to have vuloplasty, FFS, and FVS in the future.  I do these to make myself more who I know I am.  I have already gone through extensive electrolosis and plan to have more done.  I have also been on HRT for almost 2 years.   All of these things feel positive to me.  I can't tell you how happy I was when I found I could have an orchiectomy at a price I could afford.

 

I agree that all of this is very serious business.  If you're not absolutely sure of who you are and where you're going they I would strongly suggest not to do any of it and do some social transition first to see how it feels to you.

[Carolyn Marie]

Someone close to me has socially transitioned but has had no medical procedures or electrolysis or LHR.  They are happy in their skin and live as a woman, with name change and the whole enchilada.  Just nothing medical.  So yes, it is doable and for some preferable.  To each their own.  Or as someone said years ago, "Different strokes for different folks."

 

Carolyn Marie

[stveee]

Another aspect is a person's financial situation and access to resources, which may require some compromise and still living with some degree of discomfort or inconvenience.

I just can't afford completing electro RN. Laser has kept most dysphoria at bay and been able to fit it in budget. Shaving sucks, but it's not as intensive. Orchy is scheduled and I may be ok with that only IDK, it's a process.

No FFS, again, not in budget. If insurance covered FFS and hair removal, I would probably have them all done. 

My degree of feeling femme changes day to day. And HRT effects go in spurts in seems like being a place for awhile like I hit a wall and then like recently obviously no we are far from done yet and I suspect that's why my appetite is ravenous and I need more rest.

Agree, NONE of this is HRT or surgery required to hold a "Trans Card". We give a lot of attention to it because most of these things are irreversable and there is an amount of risk involved.

That being said, I ran across an online post of a young transwoman who claimed she has 8 FFS surgeries and was going for another and...well, good for her I guess, hope she finds a place where she feels whole.

[StephieGurl]

So, I am basically happy as the woman I am. I have been on hrt for 2 and half years and I am please with my results. My problem is my genitals because of neck surgery in March, and the pain and the pain meds, everything was a mess. I don't want to put myself through all of that again with a vaginaplasty. I thought of an orchiectomy but that brought on such dysphoria as I had never before experienced with my genitals. My latest reframing (a CBT tool) had went out the window. But eh ship has righted itself with itself by its own technique as before with an addition. "So who put that there," like as a bad mistake, 

 

I'm alright as long as the people around me are not talking about a vaginoplasty, Funny that I should start a topic where such discussion is bound to happen. 

 

We do all need are own separate compass to guide are transition goals

[LaurenA]

On 11/2/2022 at 6:46 PM, stveee said:

Another aspect is a person's financial situation and access to resources, which may require some compromise and still living with some degree of discomfort or inconvenience.

I agree! I decided to go to work in a factory just to raise the funds to cover my future treatments.  It will be years until I save enough to have all of the surgeries that I hope to have.  I will be close to 80 before I am done.