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Hey to everyone I'm Chloé and I'm 19 years old and live in Vancouver WA just across the river from Portland OR.

I have lived full time about a year but really started earlier as I was always petite and effeminate and hideously teased and even beat up about it a few times in school, though I started really connecting with the girls even before I officially transitioned as I was more one of them then one of the boys.  I even started learning makeup and fashion from one of them which was a great help.

My family is generally not supportive, they just can't see me for the real me I guess.  They refuse to call me by my new name.

I work as a barista at a coffee shop and am generally accepted as female by everyone which is so nice.

I just don't know any other trans girls around my age and it's nice to have people to talk to about things sometimes.  A post-op woman in her 50s that I know has sort of unofficially adopted me as her daughter but she suggested I find a place where I can connect with girls of my own generation so I am giving this a try!

Nice to meet you all and look forward to chatting more! 😀😁🤪

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Chloe!  It's nice to meet you, and a big Congrats on your transition!  Please have a look around and post questions, comments or random stuff anywhere you wish.

 

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Carolyn Marie

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Hi there Chloe,

 

It's nice to see someone from the same area on here!  And it's also great that you have a mentor to help you answer some of your questions, but I do understand the need to talk to other girls who are closer to your age.

 

I can put you in touch with my daughter, who is 28 and post-op and the two of you might connect.  She said she registered for this site but she hasn't posted yet, possibly because she can be terribly shy.  But I'm sure she'd be happy to exchange private messages with you.  Let me know if you'd like to connect.

 

Bur I'm glad you joined the site.  There are many nice people here and I'm sure a lot of your questions will be answered!

 

Donna

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Welcome Chloe.  Sorry that i'm not young but i hope you find the support here that i did some time ago.  Hope your parents come around soon.  I know many accept over time.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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18 hours ago, ChloeL said:

I'm 19 years old and live in Vancouver WA just across the river from Portland OR.

I have lived full time about a year but really started earlier as I was always petite and effeminate

Welcome to our forum, @ChloeL!  It’s a pleasure to have you here. I hope to read more about your journey as it develops. You’re very brave at this age to get as far as you have especially with the lack of parenting support and affirmation. I’m glad that you have reached out here. i hope you find the support and friendship you deserve.

 

Thank you for sharing a bit of your story.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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Thanks all I appreciate all the kind words!  As for the lack of support from my parents yeah that made it really hard but I hope they will realize how much happier I am now!  But I was very lucky to meet the post-op woman through a support group and as I said she basically took me on as her daughter as she doesn't have kids of her own and she's helped me through a lot of my questions and struggles and we occasionally go out to lunch or shopping together and everyone just accepts us as mother and daughter which is really sweet. I feel so lucky to have her in my life.

 

And I feel lucky that I found this forum because all of you are really nice too and it makes me feel so much better just to have your support as well!  🥰

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Welcome Chloé

I'm a bit older myself.  My youngest daughter lives with me and she is a barista too.

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Thanks for the nice thoughts everyone!

 

Can you send me a private message Donna?  I can't message you yet apparently, but would love to connect with your daughter!

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Welcome ChloeL! I'm 38 and I wished I started earlier. I knew for sure my family wouldn't be supportive and I hid it from them until 20th of April and lost a lot of support but I have found plenty of it here. 

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Thanks Ashley.  Yeah I know families can be tough but it's their loss if they can't accept us for who we really are.  I hope some day they will accept me, we'll see.

 

And definitely lots of support here, I am so happy to connect with so many of the girls here!  😀

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37 minutes ago, ChloeL said:

And definitely lots of support here, I am so happy to connect with so many of the girls here!  😀

I have found so much affirmation here and help here. I'm so thankful to have found my way here so early in my journey. 

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I agree April!  It's so really awesome to have someplace to talk about real issues that apply to us because though I work with a lot of girls around my age that are accepting of me, they don't really understand the issues we go through and I only have a few transgender friends in real life.

 

I'm so glad this forum is here and thank you again to everyone who keeps it going!

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