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Hello everyone.  I am Gail.  I started wearing my mother's clothes at a very early age.  I told my parents i was a girl.  This caused problems for me and my poor parents.  This was Not acceptable behavior in the 1950's. I will bypass my gender dysphoria/crossdressing in secret/suicide attempts.  Gail would never go away.  I was a senior citizen when i realized i was actually a transwoman and when i did everything fell into place.  It's weird but the understanding of who and what i was made me feel so much better and happier as a person.  Now i am a woman at home (in thought/dress/actions) and a man outside of home.  My wife wants it that way and we both feel much safer too. I now identify as bi-gender.  I will be moving to Nevada soon.  If anyone can tell me about any local support groups or safe places

for Gail and wife to be out in public i would appreciate it.

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Welcome Gail!  I'm sure that there are support groups in Nevada.  In the meantime please feel free to join in here.  Perhaps you might also look for a gender therapist near your future home.  They can not only help you and your wife in this journey but will know local resources.

 

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Charlize

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Welcome to the forum, Gail!!! I am another late bloomer, just 3+ months into becoming me in my late 60s. You are so fortunate to have the support of your wife - having that space at home to grow, experience, experiment and learn about yourself is so very wonderful. Like you, I am so blessed to have a supportive and encouraging wife.

 

There are so many wonderfully supportive people here who can offer help, guidance and encouragement. For me, I found that having a qualified therapist was really key to overcoming the years of suppression, fear and guilt.

 

I look forward to hearing about the move and your journey - especially your experiences as you begin to get out of the house. I am so anxious to do that, yet still fearful of coming out more openly. 

 

Welcome!!!!

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Hi, Gail. And welcome! Another late bloomer here, too. I was not so much a late bloomer than  a misdirected bloomer. Puzzled as a teen and young adult by my "weird" feelings, I convinced myself I was gay –– and went on to try to live a happy gay life. Sadly, I made a disaster of my few longish-term gay relationships. It wasn't until only in the past 10-15 that I figured out those "weird" feelings I had as a youngster weren't trying to tell me I was gay but instead trying to tell me something else entirely. 😊 Glad to you with us, Gail! ––Rianon

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thx ladies for your support. Charlize-yes a therapist is in my future.  April i have the same problem with clip ons-they hurt my ears but i love the feel of dangling earrings when i move around. Rianon i also had those weird feelings and thought i was gay.  It was Caitlyn Jenner's story that made me realize i was a transgender woman.  

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I finally decided it was time to stop the pain of clip-ons and had my ears pierced a few weeks ago. O can't wiat to heal and shop for hoops!!!!

 

 

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Welcome Gail! Glad you're here! Yes! The understanding led to acceptance then the self loathing faded as they arrived. I hope you find the wonderful advice, support & acceptance here as I have.

 

Hugs!

Delcina 

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On 4/14/2023 at 4:25 AM, Gail said:

This was Not acceptable behavior in the 1950's. I will bypass my gender dysphoria/crossdressing in secret/suicide attempts.  Gail would never go away.

Hi @Gail, Welcome to our forum. It’s nice to have you here. It’s taken a long time for measure of acceptance to enter the mainstream. Societal acceptance has been somewhat cyclical recently but overall I think we live in much better place today.

 

You seem to have a very understanding and affirming home situation and that’s an amazing thing to have after all the years of what you described above. Like you, I too was a late bloomer and had never felt truly comfortable until accepting who I was. I’m happy you’ve made it this far and have finally found some peace and happiness.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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Welcome Gail I knew that my family wasn't supportive in that. I wore my sister's clothes and cut one of my shorts down the middle so it was a skirt. My Mom found it and hit me. I also wore her clothes too. I got tired of living in secret and can't wait to show off who Ashley is. 

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