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Hi everyone I'm Madison and I just joined.

 

I have been post-op for five years and things have gone really well and I feel lucky to have been just accepted as female as nobody around here knows the old me (I moved not long after my surgery) but really want to connect with the transgender community more, online and in person, since all the anti-trans bigotry is going on right now.

 

But I also worry that opening up to the local transgender community more will subject me to prejudice as well, as I have seen that happen even here, in a progressive place.

 

But I am glad I found this space and want to help our community and sisters as much as I can!

 

Madison

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With the idea of "opening up to the Trans Community", that is one thing you do at your own pace and in your own way, as much or as little as you feel comfortable doing.  I would go through your local LGBTQ Community Center before hitting the club scene directly.  Most of them have small groups, many now at least on-line via a video chat platform that can at least help you hear what is going on and if you are interested, get involved at your speed.  Certainly if you have a good circle of friends who just accept you for "come-as-you-are" and you feel safe and get the friendship you need, go for it.   

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1 hour ago, Madison_1990 said:

But I also worry that opening up to the local transgender community more will subject me to prejudice as well, as I have seen that happen even here, in a progressive place.

Welcome, Madison! Here where I live, too, in a progressive city, the welcome mat is one day out, the next day pulled back in. It can be quite crazymaking. I, for one, feel perfectly safe right now, but that can change in a heartbeat. Here, however, in this online community, I have felt safe from the get-go. Make yourself at home. Wander around. Check out the topics on this forum. I'm sure you'll find several of interest. Cheers! ––Rianon

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Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums Madison.

 

Congratulations on reaching many of your goals, and stopping by to add your insight on transgender issues, and joys. I know the experience isn't always negative, or saddening. I know it has been my experience that everyone here on TransPulseForums are supportive of one another.  

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Hey there Madison welcome to the forum!

 

This is really an awesome place to interact with our community but keep your anonymity if you need to.  A decent number of people around me (especially those I work with) know I'm transgender and they totally accept me but I also know about people who have lost their jobs, or really had people turn against them when they found out they were transgender so I understand the hesitation.

 

But I think it's awesome that you are reaching out to help right now when suddenly we are enemy #1 in so many people's opinion.  

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Welcome Madison! I'm glad that things are going well for you. I haven't even started on hormones yet but looking forward to it. I just opened up a week ago so I'm starting to discover myself at 38 years old. I guess it's better to start now. Looking forward to seeing your posts. Take care! Hugs

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Welcome to the forum, Madison! Thank you for being part of our community and sharing your insights to help those of us who are just beginning the journey.

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Thanks everybody.  Just wanted to be clear to everyone, I am not really "out" as being transgender to my friends and coworkers here, and I think the only people in this area who know that about me are my doctor, my gynecologist, and the guy I've been dating for a few years.

 

But I also want to be helpful in our community in any way I can be with the rash of anti-transgender sentiment and laws going on right now.  But also don't want to open myself up to that bigotry either.

 

I appreciate everyone's advice though, it's really appreciated.  I am thinking of seeking out a local group to possibly attend meetings and offer anything that I can to the group.

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