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Gynecologist Exam, What??


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Legally, (as an adult) your mother cannot accompany you during an appointment unless you specify that she can. And if your mother starts grilling you about the exam afterwards, you can politely tell her, "That's private." That may sound cold, but it is really just asking her to respect your boundaries in an assertive manner. And if your mom is anything like my mom, you might have to repeat that several times. :rolleyes:

I would tell the doctor about your transgender status. If you do not think that you can speak those words to the doctor, then write your thoughts down. Write the doctor a letter to hand to him/her when you arrive for your appointment. That way, you have a little bit of control over your own care and you can spell it out ahead of time before you find yourself in the heat of the moment.

Good luck. Remember, prepare ahead of time.

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I told my mom about why I was scared to go to gynecologyist exam, I told her because I hate thoese parts of my body and want them gone, not grabbed at.

She said "you must be watching too much TV, looking up too much on the net about transsexuals and boy/girl things; you need to just get your mind on something else like getting a job!"

"I want to work as a man"

"Why is this one little thing keeping you from your goals?"

"It IS my goal, it IS who and what I am, want to be, everything! I want to live as a man, be seen as one and never be a woman again. No more periods or leering or boob jokes or skirts or annoying girl friends. I want to be a guy, and live as a happy guy. I can't be happy as a girl."

She got mad. She said god gave us these bodies to live with and respect and be happy in, and that going to a gynecologyst was proof of a healthy female body.

I cried for a while (I'm sick btw) and she just said "Right now, I don't see ANYTHING on you that is male. Nothing. At. All. Pajamas, fluffy hair, big eyes, soft skin skinniness, shortness cuteness adorable daughter."

I don't know what will happen. I'm just..... numb, she said there's no way I can be male. She'll never see me as a son,

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Guest Leigh
I told my mom about why I was scared to go to gynecologyist exam, I told her because I hate thoese parts of my body and want them gone, not grabbed at.

She said "you must be watching too much TV, looking up too much on the net about transsexuals and boy/girl things; you need to just get your mind on something else like getting a job!"

"I want to work as a man"

"Why is this one little thing keeping you from your goals?"

"It IS my goal, it IS who and what I am, want to be, everything! I want to live as a man, be seen as one and never be a woman again. No more periods or leering or boob jokes or skirts or annoying girl friends. I want to be a guy, and live as a happy guy. I can't be happy as a girl."

She got mad. She said god gave us these bodies to live with and respect and be happy in, and that going to a gynecologyst was proof of a healthy female body.

I cried for a while (I'm sick btw) and she just said "Right now, I don't see ANYTHING on you that is male. Nothing. At. All. Pajamas, fluffy hair, big eyes, soft skin skinniness, shortness cuteness adorable daughter."

I don't know what will happen. I'm just..... numb, she said there's no way I can be male. She'll never see me as a son,

sorry, man.

i can't really say anything comforting, since i'm one of those who's too afraid to come out to my parents...

just hang in there, eventually, when she realizes it's not a phase, she will come around.

till then, just keep being honest and trying to be yourself.

peace&love

leigh

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I told my mom about why I was scared to go to gynecologyist exam, I told her because I hate thoese parts of my body and want them gone, not grabbed at.

She said "you must be watching too much TV, looking up too much on the net about transsexuals and boy/girl things; you need to just get your mind on something else like getting a job!"

"I want to work as a man"

"Why is this one little thing keeping you from your goals?"

"It IS my goal, it IS who and what I am, want to be, everything! I want to live as a man, be seen as one and never be a woman again. No more periods or leering or boob jokes or skirts or annoying girl friends. I want to be a guy, and live as a happy guy. I can't be happy as a girl."

She got mad. She said god gave us these bodies to live with and respect and be happy in, and that going to a gynecologyst was proof of a healthy female body.

I cried for a while (I'm sick btw) and she just said "Right now, I don't see ANYTHING on you that is male. Nothing. At. All. Pajamas, fluffy hair, big eyes, soft skin skinniness, shortness cuteness adorable daughter."

I don't know what will happen. I'm just..... numb, she said there's no way I can be male. She'll never see me as a son,

:(

It's hard for parents to accept things, sometimes they come around, sometimes they don't, sometimes they're somewhere in the middle of it all.

I'm so sorry, Michael.

If I could take every burden off your shoulders right now, I would.

Like I have said, you are like the awesome big brother I never had, and all I wish is for the best for you and for you to be happy and try your best everyday.

As for me, in your pictures I see nothing but male.

Heck, you can look almost 100% male and your parents will still always think of you as their little girl or boy, .

Wether they come around or not, right now all you need to know is that you are male, in your heart, in your mind, and that even though your parents seem to not take this well, they love you and I'm pretty sure they are not looking to upset you.

I love you, man, I really hope everything goes well...

I'm worried about you like always. :(

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Guest Neuro

It's OK Miskai no need to worry.

I hoope just riding it out is OK, I plan on leaving the country within the year anyway.

You are my little brother too, I wish you the most of happiness. we are all family here at least ;w;

--Michael

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It's OK Miskai no need to worry.

I hoope just riding it out is OK, I plan on leaving the country within the year anyway.

You are my little brother too, I wish you the most of happiness. we are all family here at least ;w;

--Michael

I just want you to be happy, just want the best for you.

Sorry for oveereacting sometimes.......

*hugs*

Don't worry, I won't write nymore..

'Cuz I can barely see straight.

0___0

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We already talked elsewhere so... I just wanted to wish you good luck today! I know you'll do fine- you're strong and you'll get through this.

Good luck oniichan!! Be strong.

愛 Eth

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Gynos know everyone hates going in for an exam.

I had to get one and I hated it. I just went to my happy place the entire time. I also kept reminding myself "it's only an hour of my life...it's only an hour of my life.." My doc was really nice though and she talked through the entire thing about what she was doing and why.

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Guest Neuro

I'll be going in about 10 minutes, so I'm crossin' mah fingers that nothing goes disturbingly wrong >_____>

See you all on the flip side!

--Michael

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You're going to be fine!

Let us know if you survive! :lol:

We'll be here if you need to talk.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Neuro

Lollollollol I had to wait for.... FOUR hours............. in that darn office.

=_____=

I didn't have a pelvic exam. But they gave a sonogram, and everything was normal. BUT. They wanted to blood test me for anemia because I 'have no color.'

They tried to, but I almost passed out twice like a pansy from the needle so they were all "nah...... you'll be okay."

=_=

And my therapist said I have a 98% chance of having a learning disability.

SO.

The ONE thing that I went to the doctor for nothing was wrong ( "just take more pain meds" ) but there are two unrelated things I need to get taken care of >____< LOL it's kinda funny XD but very disheartening >_> *mutter mutter* I guess I was worried about nothing. But the only people in the office were pregnant women, it was so awkward hunh.

Learning disability, pff....... I wish! XD my mom said "that's just an excuse to slack off" HA.

Now I want some pizza o3o

--Michael

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Guest MrAwesome

OMG I'm sooooooo happy for you not having to get the icky pelvic exam. :) That was a big load off. You just made my WHOLE NIGHT! :D I've been sooo worried about you. ^_^

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Guest My_Genesis
Lollollollol I had to wait for.... FOUR hours............. in that darn office.

=_____=

I didn't have a pelvic exam. But they gave a sonogram, and everything was normal. BUT. They wanted to blood test me for anemia because I 'have no color.'

They tried to, but I almost passed out twice like a pansy from the needle so they were all "nah...... you'll be okay."

=_=

And my therapist said I have a 98% chance of having a learning disability.

SO.

The ONE thing that I went to the doctor for nothing was wrong ( "just take more pain meds" ) but there are two unrelated things I need to get taken care of >____< LOL it's kinda funny XD but very disheartening >_> *mutter mutter* I guess I was worried about nothing. But the only people in the office were pregnant women, it was so awkward hunh.

Learning disability, pff....... I wish! XD my mom said "that's just an excuse to slack off" HA.

Now I want some pizza o3o

--Michael

lucky you!! i hope if i bring my erm issue up with my doctor (which im still thinking abut wimping out of lol) thats the most ill have to go through...although i really dont mind blood tests. i think theyre kinda cool. lol

i think my life would be a lot easier if all i had to deal with were prostate exams. <_<

learning disability? what is your therapist basing this off of? :huh:

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Hey oniichan!! I'm glad everything went (pretty much) good for you!! It's great that it wasn't as horrible as you thought it'd be. I hope you're doing better now!!

And .. learning disability... LOL - I wonder if that's based off of the modern school system. Personally, I think it's the students there who tend to have "learning disabilities"- modern public schooling is all a memory game. People who use abstract thought and try to apply information everywhere are too busy learning to be memorizing. Gotta wonder...

*hugs*

愛 Eth

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