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Delcina B

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Not all Moms …

Were there the moment you were born

Are the one you gave a Mother's Day card

Share the same color eyes

 

I am one of these other Moms

I love you as if you were my own

More than life itself

I love you when you laugh

Even when you cry

I love you when you succeed

More when you don't 

 

I don't want you to see me cry

Because I love you so 

I really don't want you to go

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So true @Delcina B.

 

It's also good to see you hanging out here again @gennee

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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My parents totally disowned me when I transitioned, but I sent my mom a mother's day card this year.  It just said:

 

"I know you don't want to be my mom anymore, but for me you always are.  And I am your child. I love you"

 

Never heard a word back.  I guess to some moms (and dads), being transgender is just too much of a sin to be worthy of remaining in the family.

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43 minutes ago, MissNicole said:

I guess to some moms (and dads), being transgender is just too much of a sin to be worthy of remaining in the family.

MissNicole,

 

I’m sorry your biological parents have disowned you. This is why some of us here believe that found family can love you more than biological ones. Don’t give up hope, but also connect to others through your local LGBTQIA community and people there will love you unconditionally. 
 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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To Nicole and everybody who has gone through this with your parents, I agree with Mindy.  My family really doesn't accept me as Chloé, only as my old male self, but if parents can't see you for who you are, others will, and yes you need to connect with those who see you as you truly are.

 

I have been unofficially adopted by a local post-op woman who never had children herself but accepts me as her daughter and we go out together and I do family outings with her and her husband and she shows me all the love and acceptance as her daughter that I could ever imagine, and I'm so lucky to have connected with her.

 

I'd love for you to meet her, and the few other girls from the local community I know.  It really goes a long way when you feel that love from "family" who loves you for who you are, even if your own genetic family can't see the real you.

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My Mum was god fearing and did not understand when I told her in 1958 that I was really a girl. But her maternal instinct overrode her background, and she made me keep my gender identity a secret to keep me safe. I was never allowed to talk to her about it, and she passed away over 20 years before I came out. I lamented to my brother that my Mum never knew her daughter, and he hugged me and said he and her had had many conversations about my gender identity, and she could see from the way I lived my life I was female inside. 

 

I cried as her acceptance would have meant the world to me, but she was protective in not talking to me about it as she didn't want to encourage me to pursue gender change. Her way to love me was to encourage me to hide from my gender identity..I guess a lot of Mums are scared and just want to hide from things they don't understand.

 

hugs,

 

Allie 

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