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Happy pride month! I'm new to this site so I'm throwin' my hat in the ring here! I'm Kevin. From southeast Texas, US, but I'm hoping to move to California soon. Despite all its faults with LGBTQA+ troubles, it's hard to hate some of the good things about my home state haha. Some of my favorite things will always be the texmex food and the weird Texas-shaped cheeses. (I'm a lover of food if you can't tell) :o]

I'd been guessing who I was since I was thirteen, and by my twenties finally accepted myself after a grueling teenagehood of attempting to be as feminine as possible. It didn't work, and I had a perpetual constipated-face full of makeup, but y'know, hindsight is 20-20 and all that. Added ba-dum-tsss sound here: I was 20 in 2020.

That year was one of the worst and best years of my life, from the pandemic, to coming out, to meeting my partner. Life never gets easier, but in some ways it's better: I'm a happily taken man who looks and feels like myself years later. I've dealt with allergic-reactions to HRT injections, had ups and downs medically, gone through top surgery; am about to receive a hysto very soon before any new laws are put into place this year (good ol Texas). Finally feeling comfortable in my own skin. It took a lot of work, medically, mentally, socially, legally, to get where I am now, and I'm real grateful for it.

As for what I'm into, I'm a digital artist, I like playing video games (specifically casual stuff like Sims), cartoons, punk and metal music, and I've dabbled a bit into front-end web development (a fancy way of saying making goofy lil websites). Tattoos and body mods are a huge love of mine too! I tattoo myself for fun on occasion. Lastly I got a fascination with McDonalds. 🍔 Can't explain that one.

That's pretty much it for me. Thanks for readin'!

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Hi Kevin,

 

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Hi Kevin,

 

What Sims game is your favorite? Do you prefer the newer ones or the older ones? Nothing wrong with McDonalds I love the McRib! I completely understand about Texas it's how it is in Mississippi too. Once my boys are grown up and out of the house my soon to be girlfriend will be moving to Raliegh, North Carolina or Durham. It won't be anytime soon but I like to prepare in advance. The only downside is that it's expensive there but they are friendly with LGBTQ people. I haven't had much trouble here but they have mountains and cooler weather. Apart of me is hopping that Mississippi will become very friendly. It's not too bad though because there are two bars that are friendly. I'm going to try one out this weekend. 

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Welcome to the forums, Kevin!! There are lots of amazing people here to interact with - and many who share your love of Tex-Mex food, too.

 

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Welcome Kevin! Glad you're here! Yes it seems life if full of both happy & sad, easy & hard, huh, kinda sounds like balance. I hope you find the wonderful advice, support & acceptance here as I have! It sounds like you have some of your own to share helping others along the trail.

 

Hugs!

Delcina 

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On 6/5/2023 at 6:08 PM, hamburglar said:

That's pretty much it for me. Thanks for readin'!

Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums Hamburglar.

 

I was a Cowboy most of my life, and always wanted to Cowgirl Up. I'm so happy for you and your partner that you have a plan for the future. The best thing this old gal can say to you is: Your future is not written, and you can be yourself, and do whatever you want to do.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated.

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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