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Hi you can call me Jayden. My pronouns are he/him/they/them. I am genderfluid. I am from Georgia US. I am 30 years old.

 

I came out to my mom as nonbinary a few months ago. I am only out to my mom and my online friends. 

 

My mom won't use my name or pronouns. She still calls me her daughter. But she is allowing me to get a haircut soon and wear men's clothing. 

 

I have depression and anxiety and  dysphoria. I have been questioning my gender since I was 19 or 20 years old. 

 

I would like to try to go to a therapist.

I would like to try to wear a binder in the future. 

 

My hobbies are drawing, creative writing, watching anime, reading, playing games on Nintendo switch lite. 

 

 

 

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2 hours ago, Nekoguy said:

Jayden. My pronouns are he/him/they/them.

Hey there Jayden,

 

Welcome to TransgenderPulseForums, give your mom some time to see that your presentation is masculine, and she will come around. At thirty years old no one is allowing you to cut your hair however you want to cut it. You do need a therapist, and a Gender Therapist would eventually be a better fit. I feel the same way about your wanting to try a binder as I do about your hair cut. If you're living on your own, fly be free. You've found a supportive and helpful website here, and I hope you find it as beneficial as I do. 

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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1 hour ago, Mmindy said:

Hey there Jayden,

 

Welcome to TransgenderPulseForums, give your mom some time to see that your presentation is masculine, and she will come around. At thirty years old no one is allowing you to cut your hair however you want to cut it. You do need a therapist, and a Gender Therapist would eventually be a better fit. I feel the same way about your wanting to try a binder as I do about your hair cut. If you're living on your own, fly be free. You've found a supportive and helpful website here, and I hope you find it as beneficial as I do. 

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

Hi thank you 😁 

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Jayden.  I really hope you can achieve all the things you want.  Sometimes it just takes patience, which I know at your age is hard to come by, especially when you feel depressed and dysphoric.  If you need to talk to someone urgently, our Chat Rooms are available to you if you have the Discord app.  We have folks trained who are all trans themselves.

 

Please look around, ask questions, and let us know how we can help.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hello Jayden, I am Alessia and I am new here too, I am in my 30s too and can relate to the depression anxiety and dysphoria you are describing.

 

You are very brave to have come out already to your mom I havent even told anyone in my private life, but this will change soon I hope. Just wanna welcome you too.

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Hi Jayden,

 

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Welcome Jayden! Glad you're here! My diagnosis is very similar, depressed, anxious & dysphoric. But great news, this forum, a workbook on gender & an amazing gender therapist have done wonders! I hope you find the wonderful advice, support & acceptance here as I have!

 

Hugs!

Delcina 

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Welcome, Jayden!! I'm glad you found us here. Join is as you feel comfortable. There is a lot of information for you to look at as you find your way though this journey.

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