How to recover from surgery if your single and don't have a good relationship with family

[Transgirlkatie]

Eventually I want to get breast augmentation surgery, but beyond the issue of generating enough savings I also need some to take care of me during recovery. I know this is an easy surgery to recover from, but there's still the chance complications could arise. Currently I don't think I'm datable from poor social skills and my parents don't accept me. I don't think any of my friends could help me with recovery. How should I handle the issue of recovery during surgery and what happens if I run out of food or something like that. I had that happen while recovering from covid, and none of my friends could get me groceries, so I had to break quarantine.

[gemmalouise]

I don't know the answer, but hope you have a safe and successful outcome should you go through with it.

[VickySGV]

Prepare for the surgery by making friends in the LGBTQ community near you via an LGBTQ Center or support groups recommended by the surgeon you are going to for the surgery.  They can help you find "Chosen Family" that will support you.  Check on the availability of home nursing benefits from your health plan and simply check with visiting nurse agencies in your area.  Likewise check on your non-emergency medical transportation service benefits. (Medicare has those.) There is InstaCart and Door dash for bringing groceries and prepared meals.  Waiting a little bit to save up for those services may well be worth the wait.  

[Transgirlkatie]

9 hours ago, VickySGV said:

Prepare for the surgery by making friends in the LGBTQ community near you via an LGBTQ Center or support groups recommended by the surgeon you are going to for the surgery.  They can help you find "Chosen Family" that will support you.  Check on the availability of home nursing benefits from your health plan and simply check with visiting nurse agencies in your area.  Likewise check on your non-emergency medical transportation service benefits. (Medicare has those.) There is InstaCart and Door dash for bringing groceries and prepared meals.  Waiting a little bit to save up for those services may well be worth the wait.  

I tried doing that, but I never found anyone I got super close with. It also doesn't help there's a lot less trans support groups in my area post covid. One of them lost their space during covid, and the other one died out after covid. I currently feel like I've mostly exhausted all options for trying to find new friends. I feel like after covid it's almost impossible to find new friends. I lost contact with almost all of my friends during covid and only kept a few. So far I haven't found any new close friends 3 years after covid

[Vidanjali]

On 10/6/2023 at 1:43 AM, Transgirlkatie said:

I tried doing that, but I never found anyone I got super close with. It also doesn't help there's a lot less trans support groups in my area post covid. One of them lost their space during covid, and the other one died out after covid. I currently feel like I've mostly exhausted all options for trying to find new friends. I feel like after covid it's almost impossible to find new friends. I lost contact with almost all of my friends during covid and only kept a few. So far I haven't found any new close friends 3 years after covid

 

Hi there. You may consider joining a church community depending on your sensibilities or religious background. For example, doing a quick search I see there is a Unitarian Universalist church in the next town over from you. Unitarian Universalist churches are well known to be inclusive and attractive to the LGBTQ+ community & their expression of spirituality is generally interfaith meaning it draws aspects from many belief systems to adapt to the needs of its community - in other words, as far as churches go, it's rather user-friendly, lol. Good church communities are driven to serve and uplift. If you found one that resonates with you, you will find supportive folks eager to help. Here's the UU church near you: https://www.uucil.org/ 

[Ashley0616]

I can definitely see where you are coming from. GRS, Mommy Makeover, double chin and removal of Adam's Apple will be left on me. GRS is going to be really tough because when I get back home my help won't be able to stay. I will also have to take care of two boys. Sometimes I even wonder if it's possible. All my family members are busy. I'm hoping to get GRS next summer. My oldest won't be in school so I'm hoping he can help with the youngest but a lot of things he won't be able to do.