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By Willow · Posted
Happy Mother’s Day I have to be at church earlier than normal for a mic check. I have been going over what I am to say, both silently reading and reading it aloud. My concern is that my voice will freeze as it sometimes does. I felt I was honored very highly yesterday by my minister and supporter on my journey. He and another minister are Standing together to become the next co-moderators of the Presbyterian Church (USA). They included me to receive an advance copy of their initial submission. I was one of only 6 people listed on the email to receive this. Later this week it will go out to all the voting commissioners that will be in Salt Lake City for the meeting. I have asked to be allowed to attend the meeting to support him and Rev CeeCee Armstrong, whom he is standing with. We’ll time to get ready . Willow -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
Nup. Not an option. You need to keep going and keep us all in the loop, and we need to keep seeing your beautiful smile! Party, schmarty. I'm 61 and haven't had a birthday party since I was 30. Even that was just a crummy meal at the pub with a few friends who we have since lost contact with. Don't sweat it. -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
On behalf of everyone reading your entries here @Sally Stone, THANK YOU for creating such an informative thread. But there is one thing you might have neglected to say at the end, and that is, "And they all lived happily ever after!" ❤️ Reno sounds like a pretty good place to call home. I understand the attraction of living in a place that is not too big but not too small. I look forward to reading your subsequent posts about specific aspects of your journey. -
By Betty K · Posted
Hi and welcome. A few things... 1. You're right, you can't trust your friends w/r/t the question of passing. How would they even know if you pass or not? My sister used to do the same thing, telling me that no-one knew I was trans and that to her I just looked like a cis woman. I still don't know if she was serious or just trying to make me feel good, but I learned to not listen to her on that topic. 2. Buuuut, having said that, I thought I looked good, and I think that is all she was really trying to tell me, that she liked how I looked as a woman. Maybe this is obvious, but I feel it gets overlooked: passing and looking good are not the same thing, not even remotely. Your friends (I presume) are trying to tell you that you look good as you are. 3. Having said all that, I think non-passing transmascs have a harder time than us non-passing transfemmes. All I have to do to get gendered correctly 95% of the time is wear a dress and makeup and only a few seriously ignorant folks and diehard transphobes misgender me. For you, it's much harder to find signifiers powerful enough to send the same message. So in short, I don't have any answers, except that you're right, it sucks, and I hope the situation improves over time. But passing isn't everything. Maybe you're right, and in a less conservative state it wouldn't happen so often, because you'd have more people like you surrounding you. I know that where I chose to live while transitioning has been a big part of making the process a positive experience. I'd hate to be in Texas atm. -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
Thank you, ladies. At the time I went from euphoric (my normal state) to not euphoric in an instant, and the lingering thought was one of self-doubt, manifesting itself with the unsolved question that maybe I never really felt like I had the soul of a woman, I just thought I did. I know I'm not the only one to ever feel this way. All part of the ride on this roller coaster I guess. Yep, and yep. Makes sense now. -
By Mmindy · Posted
Good morning everyone, I’m sitting at my gate waiting to board a jet ✈️ home. Happy Mother’s Day. Hugs, Mindy🌈🐛🏳️⚧️🦋🏳️🌈❤️ -
By Birdie · Posted
@Ladypcnj, I found finding a doctor with a good understanding of "intersex" is quite challenging. My current doctor lectured me about the dangers of the testosterone treatments I underwent as a teenager, yet I had no choice in the matter as it was orchestrated by my parents and a sports doctor (I would have never done it in my own). Having "extra parts" inside and their first suggestion is to remove them because they "might" become cancerous. I'm sorry, but no one is going to remove my uterus unless there is a clear reason to do so. Then being referred to a psychiatrist to "treat" my gender dysphoria? Other than a diagnosis of intersex, I find most doctors today are quite vague in understanding how to treat things. It's not something that need fixing, but rather understanding, and each individual case is special. I know who and what I am, my current care team fails to grasp that. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
Welcome. I know the pain of misgendering, the best way to feel better is to work on yourself and self-acceptance as we still have the curse of the body not matching the brain and although we can make some physical changes we still have to work with what wee have. I also agree that you are still young and you have not gone through all the changes yet your body will. So hang in there. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
agree with the ladies above. Comfort and trust are important, especially with health care. If you don't feel comfortable even if it isn't with a specialist, although that would be preferred. -
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By Heather Shay · Posted
Fear of emotions, also known as emotion phobia, is when someone is unsure how to understand, regulate, or comfort their emotions. Some signs of fear of emotions include: Developing a pessimistic outlook, Avoiding activities or people, Experiencing big outbursts of anger or tears, Struggling to sleep, and Being irritable to be around.Although there are many reasons we might suppress our emotions, one of them is that we are afraid of our emotions. Fear of emotions is called “animotophobia. It is not an official term in the DSM-5-TR. Still, fearing your emotions can have a significant impact on your well-being. -
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By Heather Shay · Posted
Even if you are estranged - think kindly of your mother today- because of her, you are here today. -
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