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Rishaya

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Sooo,Cheryl here.   I’m a 72 years old trans woman in the process of transition but my wife says she’d leave if I go fully time

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Welcome. You aren't alone. I started transition at 68 and am 71+ and nearly lost my wife of 30+ years but luckily we survived. It's hard but can be done and a long partnership will help. Be compassionate as she is just now learning and experiencing something you've lived with for a LONG time.

TP saved me and gave me community. 

HUGS

Heather

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Oh, Heather.  I’d walk out the door tomorrow as myself.  The issue with my wife if what’s holding me back.

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Hi, Cheryl! Welcome to the forums. I'm a late bloomer myself - just under a year of acknowledging my true self at age 68 and working through what transition will ultimately look like for me. You'll find lots of info and supportive people here. Jump in where you feel comfortable.

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Hi Cheryl! Another late bloomer (64) just at the very beginning stages of transition and coming out to my wife. It feels so good to me to meet other people here with similar stories. I hope it will for you as well. 

 

-Timi

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Hi Cheryl, and Welcome!
 

On 12/7/2023 at 6:52 PM, Rishaya said:

my wife says she’d leave if I go fully time

Others here have been through similar challenges ... myself included.  But after 4 years I am now (finally) on HRT and my wife and I are still together ... for now.  She's not happy ... but we're still together.

I agree with what @Heather Shay wrote.  Be compassionate, give her some time, and I hope you stick with us on the TP Forum.


Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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Welcome Cheryl

I'm 73, been out about 5 yrs now.  My marriage tanked before my egg cracked, but I'm pretty sure me not communicating my struggles was a major contributor to that.  Hope things work out better for you.

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On 12/7/2023 at 4:52 AM, Rishaya said:

Sooo,Cheryl here.

Good morning Cheryl,

 

Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums. I came out to my wife 3 years ago, and she said the same thing. We're both 67 years old married 47 years, and she's still here as I slide through the androgynous scale towards the feminine. The best part about coming out to her is that we're having open honest conversations now. I'm no longer stressed about hiding my real feelings.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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