Failed at first contact.

[Maisy]

Recently I tried to contact therapy clinic to help me, I was told that they were full. Maybe they were being honest,  but I feel for some reason it might had something to do with my letter, I tried to be as honest in it I could in the initial letter, but I  didn’t say anything about my gender dysphoria issue, as I wanted know for sure that my family won’t know anything about it, so I asked about that first before saying anything about it. I also feel it might be when I said I was autistic, I know some places don’t want to deal with autistic people. I also feel might had something to do when I tried to discuss about insurance, in that letter. I said in the letter I didn’t know much about insurance, but I did said I have it, maybe that scared them. I asked them if they know any resources that I could help me, but all they did is point to website that made me found them in the first place. I know I shouldn’t feel discouraged about what happened since it was my first attempt, but I feel more trapped and I was before. My only choices is continue looking, or take a chance with my local therapist. I already tried that once before, but I got scared, as I didn’t feel like I can trust them. I really wish I could talk to my family, that hurts more then the GD. 

[Heather Shay]

Know this - it is hard to find therapist who can help with GD and those who do are usually swamped. That was my experience. You might try opening up your search to those who offer remote help as they can be anywhere. Be patient (easier said than done). I honestly don't think it has to do with you as any good theripest won't find your conditions nor insurance something they won't deal with. Also check Psychology Today website - they have a great listing of therapists and their specialities in each step and types of insurance they take.

I understand you fear and being scared. It is something that is difficult to deal with.

Hugs,

Heather

[KymmieL]

My thinking in general is If they don't want to see me. F them and look else were. They may have been a bad match anyway. Keep looking you'll find the one that clicks with you. One the genuinely cares about helping you. That is what I found.

The therapist that I previously had was good. Yet, she seemed the paperwork was more important. My current one is fantastic, really cares about me, I look forward to each appointment.

 

Keep looking you'll find the one.

 

Kymmie

[April Marie]

As Heather Shay mentioned, I would recommend looking online. I found my therapist through an on-line provider and eventually just moved to her private practice in a totally on-line format. She turned out to be a perfect match for me, is always available and responsive. She's literally been a lifesaver.

 

I'm happy to provide you with the name of the on-line provider  or the info for my therapist, if you'd like them. My therapist has told me she's open to taking on new patients. Feel free to PM me if you'd like any/all of the info or more detail on my experiences.

 

There are good therapists out there!

[KayC]

Hi @Maisy, I am sorry for your troubles finding Gender Affirming Care -

 

I am not sure where you are in the U.S. but, have you checked online for a Planned Parenthood in your area?  They provide gender care services.  I know, because I just went to my first visit to one in my area.  They were great!

 

Here is a link to what they provide.  If there is not one nearby, @April Marie's suggestion to search more online may work for you.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/get-care/our-services/gender-affirming-care

[Maisy]

I made contact with a therapist, I’m meeting with them next week. They don’t specialize In transgender issues, but their profile said they had experience. For me, I think this will be good enough for me to trust them to open up about the subject. Though I’m still not sure if I should talk about it on the first meeting or I should wait and meet them a few times. I’m scared about talking about it, though I’m still going to try. I told myself so many times to stay calm and don’t worry. I hope everything gos ok.

[Mmindy]

Good afternoon @Maisy

 

Once you do bring it up and talk about it, the subject should get easier. I know it did for me. Also chatting about it here helps you practice for the real life conversation.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Ashley0616]

@Maisy only bring it up when you feel comfortable about it. The nice thing is the sooner you talk about it the sooner you can get to the bottom of it. Not trying to tell you to just something to maybe motivate that's all. I wish you good luck with it. They work on your timeline not theirs. Take care. 

[KayC]

Just now, Maisy said:

I think this will be good enough for me to trust them to open up about the subject.

I'm really happy to hear you have a therapist @Maisy!
My two therapists were not 'gender' specific therapists either, but they have both been wonderful in helping me find my 'true self' and move forward.  A good therapist will do that, regardless of their specialty.
My first meeting with my first therapist I just un-corked 60+ years of gender dysphoria and let it 'all out'.  Poor woman was scribbling notes so fast 😄

 

But as others said, you must feel you are in a safe and secure environment to be open and honest.  Whether that's on the first visit, later, or with a different therapist.  It's up to you.

The most important thing is you are getting started and making a determination to move forward.  Congratulations on that point.

Deep breaths ... One step at a time