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hi all people here. i am 52 yrs person who is a closeted trans. the reason why i am closeted is my own brother doesnt like the way i am feeling. he told he would diszone me if i keep acting this way. ever since the age of 11 yrs old is when i felt different inside. i wore my moms dress and stockings. as i said i am 52 yrs old now and i am more happier dressed and feeling like a woman than being a man. i like talking to non judgemental people. by the way i am from canada (the east coast)

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Welcome to the Forums, others will be along soon to join in the welcome.  Your story is typical of stories we have heard and in some cases even told.

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ty vicky noone understands me in the town i live in canada. the town is a catholic town and there are alot of judgemental people  in this town.

 

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TRANS is something we do understand and have experienced here.  Be yourself and enjoy.

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Hi, Abbie. 

 

I am sorry you do not have support from your family and neighbours.  We will do what we can to support you here.

 

I live just outside of Kentville.  It is not all bad in this province.

 

Regards,

Kathy

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ty kathy i like making new friends that i can talk to about things dealing with transgendered.

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Glad you have joined us Abbie and welcome.  Each of us seems to find our own best path but knowing that we are not alone certainly helps.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hello Abbie,

 

I'm 52 and just started transitioning a couple years ago.  I've had some ups and downs with it.  It's been great though and the people on this site are wonderful.  Welcome to TGP!

 

Hugs,

Lydia

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On 2/1/2024 at 8:19 PM, abbieS said:

hi all people here. i am 52 yrs person who is a closeted trans.

Hey there Abbie,

 

I'm glad you made it to Transgender Pulse Forums. As you've noticed this forum is full of kind helpful and understanding people.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Welcome, Abbie! You'll find lots of resources here and amazingly wonderful people, as well. Feel free to ask questions or jump into the conversations where you feel comfortable.

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hi april and thanks for that. there are so many judgemental people and so much hateful in the world. i wish there was more kindness and caring people.

 

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9 minutes ago, abbieS said:

hi april and thanks for that. there are so many judgemental people and so much hateful in the world. i wish there was more kindness and caring people.

 

I think we all feel that way right now, Abbie. The news is often filled with anti-trans articles and reports of anti-trans policies and laws being put forth. As others have said, though, it appears to be mostly the vocal majority that is getting all the coverage and traction.

 

There are still many supportive, caring and helpful people out there willing to accept us for who we are.

 

Hang in there. 

 

Have you considered working with a gender therapist? Most of us have found much help in finding our way through transition through working with a therapist.

 

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Hi Abbie and welcome. You will find support, encouragement, and understanding here. Glad you found us.

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hi there i am seeking conselling on the secret i have inside my myself and i meet her once a month and than come may or april i will be seeing someone on a regular basis

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In my opinion you need to live life for yourself. I waited 32 years to come out. Mostly in self-denial. Happiness won't come from anyone but yourself. Self love is far more important than most people think. You're never going to tap into your true potential if you keep it bottled up.

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