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hi all from canada. my question to you all is it strange for the woman inside of my body to have a crush on a woman. or is it wrong to feel that way.

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Hello Abbie,

 

In my opinion the answer to your question is. No it's not strange to be trans and lesbian. I'm trans and married to a woman for 47 years now. I'm questioning that I may be bi in some ways. I'm open and will see where it goes.

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Hi, Abbie! Gender and Sexuality are two different parts of our being. It is not at all strange that you might identify as a woman by gender and be attracted to women sexually. 

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so sorry if that is a strange question to ask. i am just learning about things like this.

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3 minutes ago, abbieS said:

so sorry if that is a strange question to ask. i am just learning about things like this.

Not a strange question at all, Abbie. It is an aspect of transgenderism that is often misunderstood. And, never be afraid to ask questions! We've all been where you are now and most of us are still finding our own ways. 💕

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ty april i like making new friends who are understanding and non judgemental. by the way i live on the east coast of canada .

 

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Then you live in a beautiful part of the world. My wife and I had planned a trip to drive the Cabot Trail...in the fall of 2020. Of course, we couldn't make the trip but it is still on our bucket list.

 

I live in the northeast US...hoping for an early Spring.

 

Again, welcome. You'll find friends here.

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thats cool april i live in antigonish ns. 

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1 hour ago, abbieS said:

have a crush on a woman. or is it wrong to feel that way

It sounds like you are another Transbian person. (Trans-lesbian)
There are lots of us around. Being a Transbian does seem to confuse some folks who do not think of sexuality and gender identity being distinctly different parts of a person's makeup. I have had some people ask me why I had to have genital surgery when I am attracted to women.....  Well, thats something that they need to sort out in their head. I am quite fine with my sexuality as a lesbian, I am also very content being myself.
 

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There's no weird feeling at all. The hormones have made me see guys in a different way. I would consider myself bisexual. Of course, when I do get in a relationship it will be closed but things feel different. On the Brightside if I were to go out with a guy, I know for sure that I would be queen. The mind is so complex and so many more mysteries about it that we are still discovering. I'm still discovering things about myself and have been on HRT for 8 months. I don't think you honestly do stop learning about yourself.

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4 hours ago, abbieS said:

hi all from canada. my question to you all is it strange for the woman inside of my body to have a crush on a woman. or is it wrong to feel that way.

You like who you like... nothing wrong with how you feel! 

 

I'm guessing you're AMAB, so in your male form you'd have been considered straight.  In your female form, that'd make you a lesbian.  (Transbian, I guess some here call it.)  But the labels don't matter - just be you! 

 

Some folks find their attraction changes during transition, or perhaps they become more aware of who they've always been attracted to.  I've ended up bisexual, I guess.  I think there's more "social discord" around a perceived male/male pairing than a transgirl/cisgirl pairing or a cis female/female pairing.  I'm AFAB, and I started out as a lesbian.  But life changed on me and my attractions broadened a bit.  I've been living mostly in my boy form these days, so there's been a few "gay" comments about me and my husband....but not even all that many for the conservative rural area where we live.  

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just be yourself and if u are happy with yourself that is what matters.

 

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Gender and sexual orientation are 2 different things and being attracted to women is perfectly fine for you.

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On 2/8/2024 at 5:51 AM, Heather Shay said:

Gender and sexual orientation are 2 different things and being attracted to women is perfectly fine for you.

This has always baffled me about myself ... Glad to hear I am not alone ... I am utterly attracted to and enchanted by females and yet part of me yearns to be more feminine myself... 

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