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Thanks Kathy!
Some place where the peer pressure is to dress more feminine instead of less. Imagine that. I haven't left the house in fem clothing since an outing to a local LGBT club over 15 years ago.
She's also pointed me to some support groups so that's next as well.
And for those who noticed, yes, I committed a rather egregious grammatical error in my post, but I couldn't figure out how to edit it. That stuff bugs me to death. Geez Louise .
Everybody doesn't feel this way.
As a AMAB child (in the 50's) I don't think I questioned my body, but I was quite fascinated with girl stuff. When puberty hit I really wished I was a girl - but alas - I was stuck living as a guy. As an adult I had pretty bad homophobia, which was probably internalized transphobia, but I didn't really know what transgender was at the time. And by then I was locked into a marriage and family.
I lived like that for most of my life, and convinced myself (but not my wife) that I was happy. When we were in our 60's, the marriage fell apart. And I believe a large part of that was me resisting my feminine self. When I no longer had to live up to being a man, I dared to take another peek inside, and my egg cracked big time.
I still don't think I was "born in the wrong body." Maybe it just needed a little tweaking.
I think our "gender" is an internal thing.
I don't regret having lived so long trying to be a guy. But if I could have transitioned as a child it would have been awesome.
@Adrianna DanielleSeeing two different therapist for separate issues really helped me deal with the each of them on different levels. I hope this works for you too.
Hugs,
Mindy🌈🐛🏳️⚧️🦋
My life is back on track.I lost both of my parents at age 24 before I came our,dad to a heart attack and mom to drugs.Good thing is my other family members have been there support.The VA pays for my transition,did 4 years in the Army
I have been having issues from my past and going to get help for.It has been from my parents whom are deceased that forced me into being the person whom I really was not before I came out.Therspist I see for my transitioning said going to refer me a therapist that deals with ptsd and anxiety issues.
It was not that long ago that black people were banned from the University of Mississippi. Schools were segregated and the same excuse of protecting the women (or girls) of old miss. Times and many feeling have changed with time and federal intervention. Unfortunately politicians love to separate and divide to gain power.
Hugs,
Charlize
I agree @Birdieto just "fit in", is what drove us to therapy. I'm not fitting in just to please someone with a closed mind. At least you know who your fair weather friends are now.
Hugs,
Mindy🌈🐛🏳️⚧️🦋
Yesterday in the lobby some of the residents were talking with me. One asked, "how come in all the TV commercials at the centre you don't appear in any of them?"
I explained that, "I'm an embarrassment to the centre and they don't know what to do with me." I get edited out!
Quite the differing options with the ladies at the table as some of them said, "that's discrimination", while others said, "they can see why."
Another lady said, "you would fair better if you cut your hair and went back to overalls, you should strive to fit in!"
Their opinions are as meaningful to me as rubbish. I did 45 years of trying to "fit in", and not doing that again. 😉
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