Hi

[violet r]

.my name is violet.

I'm new here and thus is my first try at forums. I'm 45 and just recently having came to terms of who I really am. Thought a lot of self discovery since I stopped drinking. Drinking was my coping mechanism to hide a lot of thing. There were plenty of signs though the years. As I look back. That i hid inside. Now really sure what made all of this bubble to the surface at this time in my life.  Mabye it was waiting for me to be open minded and ready to accept that I am trans. I have a very unhealthy environment at home that is anti trans. I really don't know what else to say but hi. I hope everyone here will be accepting of me and me work through my journey of finding the real me. I know that since I accepted it I have been much happier than I can remember. Being to real me makes me happy. I hate having to hide this all the the time at home. I work retail management and have no idea if I could even stay in this business if I am to fully come out. Wow that was scary saying all that. It's a first for me

[April Marie]

Welcome to the forums, Violet! We glad you found us! No one here will judge you. Each of us is unique yet we all share some similarities. And many of us are in the relative early stages of self-discovery.

 

Take time to wander the sections of the forums. You’ll find lots of information and ideas.

 

Ask questions if you feel comfortable. You will find lots of people willing to share their experiences.

 

Is it possible for you to possibly work with a gender therapist? Many of us have found that to be extremely helpful in finding our identity and out true selves.

 

Just jump in. We don’t bite! We’ve all been in some version of where you are.

[Abigail Genevieve]

Hi!

 

That was probably hard to write and then read and say, did I really write that?  Been there.

 

I'm glad you call it a journey.  It is.  One step at a time, and sometimes two steps forward, one back. 

 

Abby

[Heather Shay]

Welcome. Love your photo. Glad you are here and see you've already met 2 of the amazing people here.

Hugs

[Charlize]

Welcome Violet.  It's been awhile since i found this space with so many who understand the struggle to simply be ourselves in a society that often disapproves,  It isn't an easy path but being together we can share all the bumps and the joys.

You are not alone.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Mirrabooka]

Welcome aboard, Violet. What a pretty name!

 

You are among friends here. We are all on a journey, with things in common despite our individual uniqueness. I hope that makes sense! 

[Mmindy]

12 hours ago, violet r said:

Wow that was scary saying all that. It's a first for me

Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums @violet r

 

I think we all were scared with our first post here on TPF. I hope you come to find this site as welcoming as an old friend. Not knowing the type of retail you're in, it is hard to know how they will react to your coming out. I would hope that if it's part of a larger corporation they may have corporate policies supporting/protecting you once you decide to come out publicly. No one here will rush you, or try to slow you down, once you've decided to come out. Some of us are secret sisters, and others of us are as flamboyant as they come. The cool this is you get to choose. You be you.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Abigail Genevieve]

4 hours ago, Heather Shay said:

Welcome. Love your photo. Glad you are here and see you've already met 2 of the amazing people here.

Hugs

The photo is great.  Software is phenomenal but it also is sort of a promise of things to come. Years ago this sort of thing took a photographer and Photoshop and all sorts of things and you would say, "I can look like THIS??"

 

Me, I am a duck.  That's from my driver's license.  Just kidding.

[Timi]

Hi @violet r! 

 

Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so glad you found this place. I hope you find as much comfort and support here as I have. 

 

-Timi

 

 

[Susan R]

Welcome @violet r! Glad you joined our forum and got through the hardest part…that first post. As many have mentioned, we are more than accepting here as we affirm your gender identity and hold no judgement, whatsoever. There’s so much here on this forum, I think you’ll find very helpful. If you have trouble finding an answer just reach out, try the search but starting a new thread is usually best to get some quick answers. Many are here for various transgender related issues but many, if not all, are here to help one another if we can. It’s great to have you onboard.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

[LC]

This is your journey and no one here will judge you or bully you. This is a very accepting, non-judgemental place and you can process at your own speed. Having said all welcome Violet, we are glad you found us. I know we all look forward to hearing from you.

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Violet,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

I remember how scary it was for me as well when I first came here and made my first post. But it was even scarier not to for me. You'll soon find it very comfortable amongst us.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf 🐾🌺

[violet r]

Than you everyone. You all are so kind.