What are some of the ways you are validated?

[Heather Shay]

What are some of the ways you are validated?

[missyjo]

1. attended Keystone conference a celebration of genders with 700 other lgbt friends. it was wonderful, other lgbt folks, hotel staff n town all welcoming n that felt great.

 

2. part time job in ladies clothing store, bring missy n helping women dress n relating to them as one 

 

3. folks here

 

4. creepy guys trying to hit on me..laughs..wrong audience but something must be right

 

your turn friends

[awkward-yet-sweet]

The usual social ways, of course.  Taking care of my partners and stepkids, being involved in my community.  That makes me feel good about my role.

 

As for physical validation and gender... probably the most euphoric experience is sex.  I grew up with my mother telling me that my flat and boyish body was strange, that my intersex anatomy was shameful, that no man would want me. So experiencing what I was told I could never have is physical proof that I'm actually worth something.  

[RaineOnYourParade]

Basically my only source of validation is from close friends who know I'm trans 😅

 

I'm not a very masculine-looking guy in general, and I've had to stop binding due to pain, so strangers and physical validation aren't things I can get. My family still uses she/her pronouns and female terms with me, so there's not much validation at home, either.

 

I'm grateful I have friends that are willing to use my pronouns and such, though. It makes me feel a lot better.

[missyjo]

I used to include going ti worship but no longer 

 

awkward good fir you. enjoy. :)

 

raine  sorry. my family is pretty lousy at support too. my part time job helps alot. hope it gets better fir you n all

[RaineOnYourParade]

22 minutes ago, missyjo said:

raine  sorry. my family is pretty lousy at support too. 

 

Nah it's fine, I'm past the point of really blaming them most of the time. I've gotten used to it, and they could be a whole lot worse.

23 minutes ago, missyjo said:

my part time job helps alot. hope it gets better fir you n all

 

I'm glad you have a good place, though <3

[missyjo]

thank you dear. I'm constantly working at adjusting n writing off other people's judgment or input.

 

thank you n good luck