G.a.s Expectation

[Guest AshleyRF]

Why didn't this include "your expectation of HRT" ? That's always a good topic.

[Guest Zenda]

Kia Ora Ashley,

You could always start a separate thread "Your expectations on HRT!".. you're right I'm sure there would be a lot of interesting responses...Go on- I dare you to start a thread>>> ... Seriously it's a good idea Ashley...

Metta Jendar

[Guest AshleyRF]

well, I'm sure there are a lot of us out there who had way unrealistic hopes for HRT. I am one of them I'm sure. It would be interesting to see the responses. I think I will start one.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

I've just rerooted/copied this post to this forum because in the last place I posted it for some reason there was little interest ie. response. Angie one of the two responders suggested to me it might best be posted in this forum...I'm not too sure whether this topic has already been aired here. This sort of topic is better aired in an open forum than in poll form. In poll form one is restricted somewhat in their answers which can at times be quite complex.

How realistic are you when it comes to your expectations surrounding Real Life Experience and Gender Affirming Surgery? Or has R.L.E or G.A.S changed your life for the better-not really or it's worse than before ?

Because many transsexual people have similar experiences regarding family circumstances- marriage-children-church and or their appearance-height -weight-looks etc prior to and after gender affirmation. It's important to be open and honest about your personal experience. Your experiences might help others who are in a similar position you were prior to affirming your gender identity.

Bear in mind experiences will be right a cross the board from…Transtastic-transfabulous-to transcontent-transnormal-transmundane- transregret and sadly in some cases transhorrific . An example of what I mean by being realistic [or unrealistic in her case]-a trans person I know was convinced that after her GAS others would start to refer to her as 'female' with correct pronouns when addressing her etc. She had been living fulltime for around a year prior to GAS… Sadly this was not to be…she has since told me she does not 'regret' having surgery- [after transitioning and surgery she has really come out of her shell], but at times she still gets annoyed when being addressed as male.

Are you being realistic or were you unrealistic in your expectations?

Metta Jendar

Jendar, I dont know what to think about how GRS will affect me since right now I am not eligible and may not ever have the money to do it so mentally I have removed that option from the table. As far as RLE goes, it has changed my life and for the better, since I settled into the RLT which ended on Aug 12 when I got my hormones finally I have ceased to need my antidepresants, barely use any of my sleeping pills, my manager and the hotel owner as well as the other staff say I am calmer, and happier. My therapist remarked that I am happier than she has ever seen me. I think its just being allowed to be who I am supposed to be that has done it. 

Like most of us my transition has nearly destroyed my family, my SO lyne is not my wife but my GF; she and I relate better as girlfriends than we ever did as man and wife, guess thats because i never really was male.