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If You Had A Choice...body Or Brain


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:rolleyes: I ask this question because even though I’m now totally at peace with my minds eye ie my true self, in the past I wished I could just be a ‘normal’ male-my mind matching my birth sex.

I have no regrets and I’m content with who I am now-but when I first became aware of my dysphoria [questioning my gender identity] if I ‘d had a choice I would have preferred to feel ‘normal’ in my original body form..

Now I realise some trans people might be thinking how could I say that…I suppose there are different levels of Benjamin’s Syndrome and for some from a very young age they were totally convinced they were born in the 'wrong' body…However for myself I didn’t feel this…I just felt different-not feeling like a bone fide boy-but not knowing why. :unsure:

Puberty for me was no big deal-I was a late developer and perhaps being somewhat androgynous well into my late teens might have eased my gender dysphoric state.[at the time my mind was also pre-occupied with my mixed race identity...a double whammy] :banghead:

So my ‘food for thought’ question is…If you had a choice in the form of two magic pills ie, one would change your mind the other which would change your body…which one would you choose or would have chosen…your brain sex or your birth sex?

Metta jendar :)

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Guest Sophie Jean

I too was a late bloomer, and I have thought about, even considered if I could just forget being female. But if I changed my brain sex, I would not be the composite person I am today. Erasing the female me would leave a grumpy, easily angered man. I'm sorry, I would rather die. On the other hand, changing my birth sex would cause me to lose everything. I don't care about my job, except in the sense of security, and maybe having a purpose in life. But I would lose my partner of 10 years, and quite possibly my children too; not a process I want to accelerate.

So if I had to take one, I would choose the one that changed my birth sex.

Sorry I had no positive upbeat answer for you,

- Sophie Jean

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Guest Cassandra_s

There is no doubt in my mind that I would choose the pink pill (if that's the one that changed my birth gender!)

Even if that meant that I would be a completely different person than I am today, which I'm certain it would have. Mind you I'm successful enough that I don't need to work any more, so I now "work" at my "dream job." I have a beautiful wife who I dearly love and two great kids. Given the opportunity, with the two pills in front of me - I would do it now, and throw everything away and become the woman I believe I was meant to be.

It was made clear to me in my late teens - by my mother, my sister, and my biology teacher (yes, in front of the entire class) that there was nothing I could do to change my gender. I was told the choice was to be a man or be a freak. Oh, how I look back with such resentment. How I wish I had counselling at an early age to deal with my dysphoria - someone who could have been open and honest with me that there ARE other choices!!

Yes, with every fibre of my being I know which pill I would take.

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I can't but answer thus:

I am Kiera... Kiera, a woman born in a man's body... soooooooo the choice is really, would I change who I am to reflect the physical shell I have now, or change my physical shell to match who I truly am.

Either choice would make me "acceptable" to society, but one is a death of my true self. I would never willingly choose to lose myself in an effort to match an outer covering.

I would choose and am choosing to change my body to match my true self...

Huggles and Loves

Kiera

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There's no question in my mind either. I would and am changing my body to match my brain.

MaryEllen :)

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Heeeeeeeeeyyyy,

I like this question!!

I would like to make one thing perfectly clear(Ala Ricard Nixon)

I had a GREAT LIFE with my ex,Eighteen Years Of ups and downs....MAny Many More Ups Than Downs.

It was my Inner Woman Awakening that spelled the end of our life as a couple.

Even Knowing and acknowleging my true self at an early age...I Was Very Happy.

A Huge Circle Of Good Friends.We were very popular as a couple.We Were Lisa And D........

Sononimous With One Another.My girl was under control and life was very good indeed.

I have two beautiful daughters and really three wonderful loving grand children.

So....I Do Not Regret \that Part Of My Life One Iota.

But given a choice....

Like it was said earlier.......I WOULD TAKE THE PINK PILL.......I CHOOSE GIRL...HANDS DOWN.

If i had been born GG....I would already be a Mother And Probably a Grand Mother in that life.

Never being Bi Gendered.Just happy being my birth sex.

Yes It Would Most Definently Be The Pink Pill(Hmmm...Pink,My Favorite Color)

Smile Girls Be Happy,

You Are Getting To Be Her.

It Just Took A Long Time Getting Here That's All......

Hugs And A Real Big Smile :D

Angie ;):P:rolleyes::D

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Kia Ora all,

Interesting replies so far...but I must admit I did had an inkling that most would opt for the birthsex pill...To justify the means.

:rolleyes: I guess I've always been quite rational in my thinking 'If it an't broke don't fix it'...wait or do I mean irrational :rolleyes: ...For twenty odd years I was given small yellow pills that neutralised my brain sex...then all of a sudden I stopped taking the yellow pills and switched to white and light blue ones that started to morphed my birth sex and one day out of the 'blue' I took a different MAGIC pill called GAS -_- and woke up the next day completely morphed into my mind's eye... I've been on both sides of the pharmaceutical fence and I can safely say for me the BRAIN SEX PILLS BACK THEN JUST DIDN'T WORK THE MAGIC I HAD HOPED THEY WOULD...and being rational at the time didn't get me anywhere fast.

metta Jendar :)

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Hey Girl....

YA KNOW THE G.A.S. PILL WAS PINK...Jus Look At The Finished Product.

A Happy Healthy Feminine Girl.Hmmmm....

LOL -And A Big Ol Smile Too My Pretty.

Just for Kicks,

Angie.

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I like to say I could, it would be easier, it's tearing me apart, I just wish I had been born female right from the start. I need to let myself be who I am and stop living this lie.

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Guest GoldenKirbichu

I'd pick to change my body to match my brain. I suppose if the changing brain sex pill is pink, then I will take the blue one.

My brain is me. It's who I am. Get rid of that, and I'm not me, and this question no longer applies.

Get rid of everything that happened to me and I lose so many things that make me a better man.

All I want to change is my body. I am happy with my brain. My brain needs no fixing, only my body is wrong, and only the genitalia and secondary sex characteristics of that body need to change.

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I'd pick to change my body to match my brain. I suppose if the changing brain sex pill is pink, then I will take the blue one.

My brain is me. It's who I am. Get rid of that, and I'm not me, and this question no longer applies.

Get rid of everything that happened to me and I lose so many things that make me a better man.

All I want to change is my body. I am happy with my brain. My brain needs no fixing, only my body is wrong, and only the genitalia and secondary sex characteristics of that body need to change.

i agree. id do the same.

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Guest Ryles_D

No touchy. I ain't doing anything that might effect my brain, and my body doesn't feel attached so I don't care. I'd complain about my body and fantasize about taking the pill that'd make me match, but I wouldn't. Especially with the way I draw myself. I'd end up with a tail...

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Guest savagedm

I would choose neither... I enjoy this path I am going down. Though I wish I could appear more feminine. I would hate to give up some of my great experiences in this life that would most definitely not have happened if I were born a girl. I simply am now beginning to look for a way to do something about continuing life as I feel is right :P

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i'd change the body because in my opinion(this is just my opinion so no one get offended)there would be nothing worse than living my life as female.

I agree.

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There's so much that's happened in my life, good and bad, to make me the person I am today, that I'd hate to reverse time and loose it all. Now, if it was certain that I'd turn out the same internally, well, then I'd down the whole pink bottle like James Randi with some "Calms Forte" :lol: . At this point, I think I've come far enough and like who I am personality-wise, so give me the pink pill and change my body.

J.

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for me? no doubt the pink pill. it took me ages to develop myself...i don't wanna take it away. :P hands down the pink one. i used to dream something like that when i was young. lol.

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This is kinda funny, cause late last year (November or December I think), I asked myself this very same question, and the answer came almost instantaneously. I even went as far as framing the question in the form that if I took the brain pill, it would erase all memories of me wanting to be a girl, so all that turmoil and stuff would disappear as well. Anyways, I took the girl pill. My mind is, to one degree or another, fine enough, but my body could seriously use some improvement. So scrap the messed up physical and keep the slightly less messed up mental :P I mean, even with the way I framed it, where I wouldn't have any memory of all this afterwards if I changed the brain, it still seems horrifying. Not to try and insult any guys out there, but I just see it as the less attractive option. To me it is like picking the busted up old Jeep over the brand new shiny car from the future ^^; Even if this busted up old Jeep is actually pretty good looking as a guy, it's still not the frame or parts that I want.

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:rolleyes: I ask this question because even though I’m now totally at peace with my minds eye ie my true self, in the past I wished I could just be a ‘normal’ male-my mind matching my birth sex.

I have no regrets and I’m content with who I am now-but when I first became aware of my dysphoria [questioning my gender identity] if I ‘d had a choice I would have preferred to feel ‘normal’ in my original body form..

Now I realise some trans people might be thinking how could I say that…I suppose there are different levels of Benjamin’s Syndrome and for some from a very young age they were totally convinced they were born in the 'wrong' body…However for myself I didn’t feel this…I just felt different-not feeling like a bone fide boy-but not knowing why. :unsure:

Puberty for me was no big deal-I was a late developer and perhaps being somewhat androgynous well into my late teens might have eased my gender dysphoric state.[at the time my mind was also pre-occupied with my mixed race identity...a double whammy] :banghead:

So my ‘food for thought’ question is…If you had a choice in the form of two magic pills ie, one would change your mind the other which would change your body…which one would you choose or would have chosen…your brain sex or your birth sex?

Metta jendar :)

Hmm.. I feel as many do that I was born this way and that my brain reflect male as my sex is accurate and my body just happened to defy it... there for since my body is the visable contradiction I opted to correct it to the best of my ability to reflect the true status. I havent changed "sex" that was predetermined and accurate all along... I'm just correcting the physical defects that made me appear female. Sex and gender...two different things..

My genetic sex wasnt the defect my body reflecting female was..

However if somehow i could go back and choose to make myself able to feel "normal" and connected to my body and life as a female I would choose to.. Just wasnt possible...

I cant quite put it into words.. my thoughts, feelings and opions about this.. hopefully it makes sense enough

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Guest kunoichigoddess

my dad actually asked me a question like this, and honestly i can not picture myself a man, but i would like my mind to match my birth sex im a girl and i should always have looked like one

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Guest kathy sue

good question, one i've often asked myself in one form or another. change my brain to match my body or change my body to match my brain?

i choose the pink pill to change my body. i just can't see changing my brain and going backwards to the "good olde dayz" of drinking to excess and doing to many drugs and having "urinating contests" just to see who is the manliest man. came close to killing myself this way before and i'm sure i would if i had to do it again.

so yes i'll be using that energy i wasted before to be the best woman i can.

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