Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Signs Of Androgyny


Guest androgynous

Recommended Posts

Guest androgynous

Signs Of Androgyny

These are my personal characteristics that for me defines my androgynous nature. Of course, I'm not willing to say that it will be like this for every androgyne, so please consider it as a personal list I made. I thought it would be fun to come up with a list.

- first one is obvious I think: every gender has hormones of both genders, and they may vary. I believe I have both pretty much in balance most of the time.

- being able to think analytical as well as intuitively, switching on command or both at the same time.

- usually understand both male and female, their drives and their problems.

- knowing what male and females like sexually.

- you can switch moods very fast, and I mean lightning fast.

- You understand fashion, know exactly what to recommend to a girl OR boy friend.

- You have been mistaken for the other gender at least once while you were young.

- when having an argument with someone, 2 seconds later you could be smiling again to them (switch in or to another gender)

- your appearance is not 100% cavemen, and not 100% Pamela Anderson, hard to lay a finger on IF you change tiny details.

- you can get along with both males and females, talk to them if they were equal, but also as the other gender.

- you like to watch other people and how they interact with each other without interfering.

- being ambidextrous, or have the ability to become ambidextrous if you want too fast.

- cry at movies when born male.

- You like to draw, play music but also like to do complex things like thought exercises.

- friends or family like to come to you for advice regularly regarding relationships.

- You know exactly what to say to a male or a female, and not be afraid to get looks.

- ability to be very emotional, or in extreme be a drama queen.

- you like bright colors in your feminine part.

- You may like magic, or magic stories

- You take care of your looks, rarely you are looking like a bum.

- You NEED a mirror. it's life essential.

- You are quite as at ease, and easy to get along with.

- People rarely understand you, but most of the time you understand them.

- You like both male and female clothing and you can't decide what to wear

- You like to combine clothes from both genders

- You like to wear make-up at times, or all the time.

- Your bathroom has male & female products.

- It's unlikely that you have many enemies, since you can talk to pretty much any gender.

- You think metro sexuals are a bunch of androgyne wannabe's, only got the idea to hit on girls.

- sometimes, you just enjoy reading gossip (or do it yourself) depends on how you feel.

- You just don't like cars. You rather take a stroll or use a bike in your female part.

- Shaving your arms, legs feels way better.

- You have more girls and friends than males, or equal amounts.

- You like long hair, but being razor bald is something you would do too without regrets.

- Brows must be plucked, both genders agree, no UNIBROW!

- As a kid you like to do things girls wanted and what boys wanted, or better: do both!

- You made your own perfume as a kid.

- You dare to walk into a gay bar & 20 minutes later into regular bar without getting worried what people might think of you.

- When both genders are in balance you feel simply wonderful and really on top of the world.

- When not in balance, things get to you quickly and confuses you because of a sudden change in thought.

- Someone said to you that you are or have androgynous traits.

So what is you list? if you have any. :D

Link to comment

I kind of thought of metrosexuals as potentially androgynes and not even know it because they kind of mix genders and are quite open about it. which reminds me did you see the metrosexual South Park episode? I'm not entirely sure I've ever met a metrosexual though, so sorry I suppose.

I don't even know if I am androgyne. I like it here though.

Short list:

I think that it sucks that I am expected to conform to rules because I exist to others that do follow.

I feel somewhat ambiguously gendered mostly. lol I don't even know.

I want to do more to change my body to be more androgynous or neutral.

I like baking and video games.

and Placebo is epic.

Link to comment
Guest androgynous

Well the term metrosexual is a fashion statement, has nothing to do with actual gender identity. So it's something people hear in the mainstream and jump on that bandwagon. I think it's insulting towards androgynes, as well as other forms of transgenderism, it seems to toy with the idea just for the kicks.

Ah well.

Link to comment
Guest Elizabeth K

I hope this is appropriate. You know how opinionated I am and I do snoop around in all the forums. First let me say I am not angrogyne - I am a true transperson - and in therapy - and although I have investigated the possiblity of being androgyne and found out I was really dual natured' instead. Therapy has allowed me to integrate into my true self, and it turned out to be female, although I am in a male body.

So my androgyne friend Mia and I had many conversations on what we are. She is truly androgyne and has a different path from mine, and is comfortable in her own skin - but says she is both femiine and masculine. My arguement was she is both female and male, with which she did not agree.

But I explained I was very androgyne myself by her definitions. She said that was because I was both feminine and masculine... so we never got that defined. But I always wanted to compare.

We are both gender dysphoric, androgyne and transsexual. I know that. And I am 'androgyne' right now by default as I am in transition. I get 'ma'm' almost as much as 'sir.' It's a fun place to be for me because I am working toward ALWAYS getting the 'ma'm'. But androgyne don't go much for that and prefer to be what they are - both and neither gender.

Or am I wrong?

Here is the list you wrote.

I have BOLDED in what I share or have comments on - left what I don't share, I left as it originally was. Now personality differences account for some of the differences, but it might be useful to see where androgeny and transsexuality match.

- first one is obvious I think: every gender has hormones of both genders, and they may vary. I believe I have both pretty much in balance most of the time. I agree on both sets of hormones in all of us - but by definition of HRT - I am am not in balance a with both - and don't want to be.

- being able to think analytical as well as intuitively, switching on command or both at the same time. One of the best advantages of being dual natured

- usually understand both male and female, their drives and their problems.

- knowing what male and females like sexually.

- you can switch moods very fast, and I mean lightning fast.

- You understand fashion, know exactly what to recommend to a girl OR boy friend. yes - I select my wife's clothes for her

- You have been mistaken for the other gender at least once while you were young.

- when having an argument with someone, 2 seconds later you could be smiling again to them (switch in or to another gender)

- your appearance is not 100% cavemen, and not 100% Pamela Anderson, hard to lay a finger on IF you change tiny details.

- you can get along with both males and females, talk to them if they were equal, but also as the other gender.

- you like to watch other people and how they interact with each other without interfering. - BIG TIME

- being ambidextrous, or have the ability to become ambidextrous if you want too fast.

- cry at movies when born male.

- You like to draw, play music but also like to do complex things like thought exercises. - BIG TIME - very much the artist - also do sudoku like a fanatic

- friends or family like to come to you for advice regularly regarding relationships. Opinionated Lizzy? You think?

- You know exactly what to say to a male or a female, and not be afraid to get looks.

- ability to be very emotional, or in extreme be a drama queen. - BIG TIME

- you like bright colors in your feminine part. - BOTH GENDERS

- You may like magic, or magic stories

- You take care of your looks, rarely you are looking like a bum. Female presentation usually - less so in male presentation - donno why

- You NEED a mirror. it's life essential. Now I do

- You are quite as at ease, and easy to get along with. NOT in my male presentation

- People rarely understand you, but most of the time you understand them. BIG TIME

- You like both male and female clothing and you can't decide what to wear - I don't like male clothing anymore

- You like to combine clothes from both genders Do it at work and when presenting male but it's for a different reason

- You like to wear make-up at times, or all the time.

- Your bathroom has male & female products. Always has

- It's unlikely that you have many enemies, since you can talk to pretty much any gender. A few male friends more female friends - no enemies - just sort of a weird person to most people

- You think metro sexuals are a bunch of androgyne wannabe's, only got the idea to hit on girls. FUNNY , never thought of that!

- sometimes, you just enjoy reading gossip (or do it yourself) depends on how you feel. BIG TIME - love the gossip magazines - love the girltalk in the office

- You just don't like cars. You rather take a stroll or use a bike in your female part. I love walking - I LOVE cycling - but I love cars

- Shaving your arms, legs feels way better.OH YES - but for a different reason - I am supposed to do it.

- You have more girls and friends than males, or equal amounts. Yes - always have been that way

- You like long hair, but being razor bald is something you would do too without regrets. NO NO NO! Not my beautiful hair!

- Brows must be plucked, both genders agree, no UNIBROW! OH YES - again, but for a different reason - I am supposed to do it.

- As a kid you like to do things girls wanted and what boys wanted, or better: do both! Sorta - whomever would play with me.

- You made your own perfume as a kid. No I made pipe bombs.

- You dare to walk into a gay bar & 20 minutes later into regular bar without getting worried what people might think of you. Never thought about it.

- When both genders are in balance you feel simply wonderful and really on top of the world.

- When not in balance, things get to you quickly and confuses you because of a sudden change in thought.

- Someone said to you that you are or have androgynous traits. Well I don't know if it really counts now that I am on HRT

Add - people look at you and then judge your gender by who you are with - a group of girls (agirll), a group of guys (a guy).

Or with a group of couples, and your wife comes in from using the bathroom (oh - a guy).

Does this help?

Lizzy

Link to comment
Guest androgynous

Nice Lizzy! Interesting!

It seems plenty of it counts for MFT/FTM as well, I think it's because I'm constantly shifting from MTF/FTM in a circle (for practical reasons) but rather be both at home or when I'm alone. The scales tip sometimes to extremes but I don't consider it gender fluid, more of not being able to be myself all the time, and everywhere. So I think some androgynes are MTF/FTM but never go all the way, or just be neutral: like being both c.q. neither.

Link to comment
Guest Mesingw

first one is obvious I think: every gender has hormones of both genders, and they may vary. I believe I have both pretty much in balance most of the time.

Well, I'm really not sure what to say about this one.

- being able to think analytical as well as intuitively, switching on command or both at the same time.

Yeah I do it all the time...especially in a debate class (which kinda makes the class think I have a few issues going on upstairs).

- usually understand both male and female, their drives and their problems.

Yeah...all through highschool I was the one everyone went to for issues ranging from possibly failing out of school to teen pregnancy

- knowing what male and females like sexually.

Not sure how to comment on this one :P

- you can switch moods very fast, and I mean lightning fast.

Definitely.

- You understand fashion, know exactly what to recommend to a girl OR boy friend.

Although im not into designers or anything like that, people do tend to come to me asking for advice regarding fashion

- You have been mistaken for the other gender at least once while you were young.

Yes because of my long hair. What happens more often (and it even happened on the chatroom here) I get mistaken for a girl.

- when having an argument with someone, 2 seconds later you could be smiling again to them (switch in or to another gender)

Depends on the argument and the person involved...there are some people I would never smile to regardless to which mindset im in.

- your appearance is not 100% cavemen, and not 100% Pamela Anderson, hard to lay a finger on IF you change tiny details.

Depends on if I shave or not. If I shave I look like the in between...if I don't shave, I look like a caveman.

- you can get along with both males and females, talk to them if they were equal, but also as the other gender.

Although I think I get along better with females than with males, I do get along with both more or less equally.

- you like to watch other people and how they interact with each other without interfering.

Yes and this is one of the reasons I decided to be a sociology major in college (and one of the reasons I tend to have an opinion on just about every human behavior imaginable).

- being ambidextrous, or have the ability to become ambidextrous if you want too fast.

If not for my mild CP, I would have to agree because I notice I do some things better with my left hand and other things better with my right.

- cry at movies when born male.

I've learned to fight back the tears, but yeah...i get the urge during certain scenes.

- You like to draw, play music but also like to do complex things like thought exercises.

I can't draw to save my life but I do take pictures a lot (and have been published for it). As for thought exercises, Im constantly thinking about some complex thing be it politics, history, religion, or whatever.

- friends or family like to come to you for advice regularly regarding relationships.

Family not so much. Friends definitely...especially regarding dating. Im also famous for being able to ask a girl for a number without looking like an idiot...which is apparently a rare skill for a male.

- You know exactly what to say to a male or a female, and not be afraid to get looks.

See above

- ability to be very emotional, or in extreme be a drama queen.

At times yes...but for the most part im somewhat emotionless.

- you like bright colors in your feminine part.

Yup and you can see it in the way I dress on a feminine day and in the fact that my favorite color is purple

- You may like magic, or magic stories

I read way too much fantasy lol

- You take care of your looks, rarely you are looking like a bum.

Unless im camping...then I look like I walked out of a Vietnam war movie (which is gonna happen in 2 weeks when I do my annual AT hike with my friends)

- You NEED a mirror. it's life essential.

Except in the circumstances described above. then im pretty spartan

- You are quite as at ease, and easy to get along with.

So I'm told

- People rarely understand you, but most of the time you understand them.

Its creepy...sometimes when I first meet people I can tell 99.9% of their personality right off the bat.

- You like both male and female clothing and you can't decide what to wear

I actually tend to push the limits of what my birth gender (male) is allowed to wear. Therefor, I cannot say I cross dress exactly.

- You like to combine clothes from both genders

See Above

- You like to wear make-up at times, or all the time.

Only around halloween...unless we count black nail polish. Jewelry on the other hand, I always wear a ton of.

- Your bathroom has male & female products.

Yup. Always has.

- It's unlikely that you have many enemies, since you can talk to pretty much any gender.

Oh I have enemies...but they are few and far between.

- You think metro sexuals are a bunch of androgyne wannabe's, only got the idea to hit on girls.

I have no opinion on this

- sometimes, you just enjoy reading gossip (or do it yourself) depends on how you feel.

Once in a blue moon

- You just don't like cars. You rather take a stroll or use a bike in your female part.

Idk...i like cars, but its not like I'm obsessed with them. A bike ride or walk though I find good when im in either gender.

- Shaving your arms, legs feels way better.

Ehh...not really

- You have more girls and friends than males, or equal amounts.

More girls...at least at college

- You like long hair, but being razor bald is something you would do too without regrets.

Long hair yes...bald no (I have a scar on my head from an accident i had when i was a kid and i kinda want to keep it covered so ive never had a buzz cut)

- Brows must be plucked, both genders agree, no UNIBROW!

Yup lol.

- As a kid you like to do things girls wanted and what boys wanted, or better: do both!

Yup especially at preschool. I also had a little mermaid and Aladdin play set (Jasmine and Ariel where my favorite figures in it) as well as a cabbage patch doll.

- You made your own perfume as a kid.

Can't say I remember doing that.

- You dare to walk into a gay bar & 20 minutes later into regular bar without getting worried what people might think of you.

Too young to go to bars...il get back to you on this one in a year or two :P

- When both genders are in balance you feel simply wonderful and really on top of the world.

So true :)

- When not in balance, things get to you quickly and confuses you because of a sudden change in thought.

Nah...i just get depressed and cry

- Someone said to you that you are or have androgynous traits.

Yes...i remember when I first came on this site I exchanged photos with another member and they had to ask what I was XD.

Link to comment
  • 2 months later...
Guest praisedbeherhooves
Signs Of Androgyny

These are my personal characteristics that for me defines my androgynous nature. Of course, I'm not willing to say that it will be like this for every androgyne, so please consider it as a personal list I made. I thought it would be fun to come up with a list.

- first one is obvious I think: every gender has hormones of both genders, and they may vary. I believe I have both pretty much in balance most of the time.

- being able to think analytical as well as intuitively, switching on command or both at the same time.

- usually understand both male and female, their drives and their problems.

- knowing what male and females like sexually.

- you can switch moods very fast, and I mean lightning fast.

- You understand fashion, know exactly what to recommend to a girl OR boy friend.

- You have been mistaken for the other gender at least once while you were young.

- when having an argument with someone, 2 seconds later you could be smiling again to them (switch in or to another gender)

- your appearance is not 100% cavemen, and not 100% Pamela Anderson, hard to lay a finger on IF you change tiny details.

- you can get along with both males and females, talk to them if they were equal, but also as the other gender.

- you like to watch other people and how they interact with each other without interfering.

- being ambidextrous, or have the ability to become ambidextrous if you want too fast.

- cry at movies when born male.

- You like to draw, play music but also like to do complex things like thought exercises.

- friends or family like to come to you for advice regularly regarding relationships.

- You know exactly what to say to a male or a female, and not be afraid to get looks.

- ability to be very emotional, or in extreme be a drama queen.

- you like bright colors in your feminine part.

- You may like magic, or magic stories

- You take care of your looks, rarely you are looking like a bum.

- You NEED a mirror. it's life essential.

- You are quite as at ease, and easy to get along with.

- People rarely understand you, but most of the time you understand them.

- You like both male and female clothing and you can't decide what to wear

- You like to combine clothes from both genders

- You like to wear make-up at times, or all the time.

- Your bathroom has male & female products.

- It's unlikely that you have many enemies, since you can talk to pretty much any gender.

- You think metro sexuals are a bunch of androgyne wannabe's, only got the idea to hit on girls.

- sometimes, you just enjoy reading gossip (or do it yourself) depends on how you feel.

- You just don't like cars. You rather take a stroll or use a bike in your female part.

- Shaving your arms, legs feels way better.

- You have more girls and friends than males, or equal amounts.

- You like long hair, but being razor bald is something you would do too without regrets.

- Brows must be plucked, both genders agree, no UNIBROW!

- As a kid you like to do things girls wanted and what boys wanted, or better: do both!

- You made your own perfume as a kid.

- You dare to walk into a gay bar & 20 minutes later into regular bar without getting worried what people might think of you.

- When both genders are in balance you feel simply wonderful and really on top of the world.

- When not in balance, things get to you quickly and confuses you because of a sudden change in thought.

- Someone said to you that you are or have androgynous traits.

So what is you list? if you have any. :D

Hey! I'm a metrosexual and I'm an FTM.

Link to comment
  • 4 weeks later...
Guest Lionheart12

My signs of androgyny was not wanting to be a boy or girl when i was both masculine and fem. Um... I guess anohther sign was saying girls are just like boys just with out the genitalia. Um another is acting how you treuely feel without anyone careing and dressing in a way that people would say you dress like a girl and don't care.

Link to comment
  • 2 weeks later...
  • 1 year later...
Guest stranger

I used to get mistaken for a guy all the time when I was overweight and had short-short hair, and it helped contribute to my low self esteem.

But now it bugs me when I instantly get pegged for female.

Gah, gender dysphoria is yucky!

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   5 Members, 0 Anonymous, 294 Guests (See full list)

    • Layla Marie hay
    • Mmindy
    • Susie
    • April Marie
    • Ivy
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      770k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,090
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Kai P
    Newest Member
    Kai P
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Britton
      Britton
      (53 years old)
    2. chipped_teeth
      chipped_teeth
    3. james-m
      james-m
    4. jenny75
      jenny75
      (34 years old)
    5. KASS13
      KASS13
  • Posts

    • Nonexistent
      I have the same problem as you, my face is the main reason why I get misgendered I'm pretty sure. I think it's mostly up to genetics how your face will look (T can help, but still genetics will determine how you end up). You can't change your facial structure really, you can get facial masculinization surgery but it's expensive so not an option for most unless you're rich lol.    Experimentally (I haven't done it but want to), you could see if any plastic surgeons around you will give you Kybella in your cheeks. It is an injection that removes fat, and is usually used underneath the chin/on the neck below the jawline, but some may use it off-label on the face. The only potential problem with this is that if your face would naturally thin out at an older age, it could thin out extra and make you look older (though I'm not certain on this). Another option is to get filler in your jaw/chin, which would make your jawline look more square and your face more masculine. I want jaw filler but I'm poor lol, it only lasts one year up to a few years depending on what kind you get, so it would have to be done every so often and can get expensive. I did get chin filler once, only 2 small vials so it didn't make that big of a difference. I would recommend going for the jaw if you can only choose 1, I wish I had done that.   Those are the only options I know of that will bring legitimate noticeable changes.
    • April Marie
      Welcome to the forums, Blake!! We are happy that you found us!!
    • Mmindy
      Good evening Blake.   Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums.   Best wishes, stay positive and motivated.   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you.    Trans men and trans women each have their own struggles for sure, but I agree, it can be a hard time to be a non-passing trans guy. There is no specific "man clothes" that only men wear. People could just think I'm butch (which sucks to think about, if people think I'm a lesbian when I'm a dude!!). I mean I would feel better if I got gendered correctly even if I don't fully pass, it would maybe raise my confidence to think maybe I do pass well lol! Instead I'm just reminded I don't.   Though I may just focus on the times I don't pass and ignore the times that I do. Because I rarely remember getting gendered correctly, but I hone in on the times that I don't. 
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you, I'm glad to be here. :)   I have been in therapy for 9 years but still can't seem to accept myself. I think it has to do with growing up trans in a world that hates us, especially in the south. I mean I was discriminated against by adults and ostracized as a kid/teen due to being trans. My family is accepting, but the rest of the world is not. I realize now a lot of people are accepting (even unexpectedly, like my partner's conservative republican Trump-loving parents lol), but it feels like my brain is still in survival mode every time I exit the door. I am a very fearful person.   My body still may change over time, but it feels like I haven't met the same 'quota' (don't know the right word) that a majority of other trans guys have on far less time on T. Most trans guys pass easily 1-3yrs on T, I'm double that and still don't pass well except my voice.
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you. I am just used to seeing trans guys who pass at like... 6 months to 1 year, at the most 3 years. And I just don't meet the mark, all the way at 6 years. It is possible with time I will masculinize more, but it's frustrating when I'm "behind" and may never catch up. It threatens my mental health mostly, possibly my physical health if I'm visibly trans (though I don't ever go out alone). 
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Boss is happy with everything with me and said I will be the only one that works on one customer's truck.This customer saw me clean a small grease spot in the inter of his Kenworh last week,on the steering wheel.A new customer too,saw me walk out with my tub o' towels wiping that grease stain off.This one,he cannot stand a grease spot in the interior.
    • Nonexistent
      Yeah, I am grieving the man I "should" have been. He will never exist, especially not in my youth. But I don't know how to healthily go about it instead of fixating on the life that could have been.
    • EasyE
    • VickySGV
      Going to the conventions has been one of my ways to deal with this stuff. 
    • Nonexistent
      Sorry it took me a while to respond!    I would like to get to know you. :) I only have mental disabilities. Schizoaffective disorder, depression, and anxiety. The last two are severe and very treatment-resistant. I did have physical problems for some time, but it was caused by an antipsychotic medication (Invega). It basically crippled me, muscle weakness/fatigue, basically could barely walk (used mobility devices) and doctors were useless since they didn't suspect the medication I was on! I've finally ditched antipsychotics (hopefully for good, unless my symptoms come back). I usually don't share like this, especially in person, but hey, I'm anonymous. :)   I'm not expecting reciprocation at all btw, these things are personal. There is more to us than disabilities, so tell me about yourself if you still wanna talk!
    • EasyE
      thanks for the insight ... good to know things are being well thought-out ... it is no easy topic for sure, as many of us on here have been wrestling with this stuff for years and decades...
    • Ashley0616
      @KymmieLWOW! He is absolutely horrible! Definitely one of the worst boss's. 
    • KymmieL
      Well the boss is at it again. They misplaced a work order thinking I was the last one who had it, yesterday morning. I know where it is. Last thing I did with it was put it back on the counter. He accused me a couple times of having it last and put it somewhere. Come to find out, the other boss (his wife) had taken it. she put the work order paper in the recycle box.   Has he apologized about the accusations. He!! no. I am waiting for hadies to get frost bit.   So that was my morning.  But it is finally warming up here. currently 63 and windy.   Hugs, Kymmie
    • MAN8791
      I am gender fluid, leaning heavily towards trans masc. My eldest is male and despite all the "stuff" we deal with with him (autism, speech delay, etc) I found him to be easy to raise. When my middle kid (female) was born, literally the first words out of my mouth were "I don't know how to raise a girl!" And I really felt I didn't know. She showed me. She's still showing me how to exist as comfortable and completely secure in her gender expression. It is entirely awe inspiring to see all three of them feel so settled in their bodies in ways that I never, ever felt or feel to this day.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...