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Hi,

I've been looking for a site like this one, where, as my therapist says, I can talk about the real me.

I have known since I was like 3 years old that I was supposed to be born a 'boy'. I AM one! But, since I was born in the female shell, I have been forced to live life as a girl :(

I am VERY happily married to my husband for what will be 24 years, soon. And yes, he knows. I told him about my trans situation about 3 years ago. He said as long as I don't have a sex-change, its fine, jokingly. I'm bi-sexual so no leaving this guy, either way. Love him!!!!! But I prefer men 10 to 3, I'd say.

I dress in more manish ways when he is off working, and have a haircut that I'd still wear as a man.

I am 46 years old and am SO envious of the modern FTM's because they are actually changing their bodies and lives to fit who they are. Lucky, lucky.

I can just see if I did that. My family would flip out, and as I'm in Education, there goes my job.

I see young gay guys, or straight ones, who look similar to what I'd like to look like and it makes me so sad, and I feel cheated. I want to look like that!!

My gay friends are an awesome way for me to sort of live viacarioulsy through them. Don't get me wrong, I'd be friends with them even if I were the girliest girl alive. They just bring me a bit of peace.

Are there others out there in a similar situation?

I love music, men's pro tennis, writing, reading, travel, shopping, and animals.

Thanks for the therapy and without the fee, too :D

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Guest Donna Jean

Welcome, Sweetheart..

And there IS a fee for all of this free advice....

Well, let me give it to you in reverse...

I'm MTF and 59 years old...

It can be a hard road...My wife and I will have been married 30 years this September...

So, see???

You are not alone....

We can have relationships that are "Non traditional" and still have a wonderful life....

Thank you for coming here , Sweetheart....

Now...it's time to pay up!

So...Post some more.....OK?

Love...

Donna Jean

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi Vick(hope thats ok)

Welcome to the playground, so happy to meet you.

I see Donna Jean forgot the cocoa and cookies (she's always so busy I can see why) :P

Umm unfortunately I only have soda and chips, your more than welcome to :D

Hope to hear from you

Jean Davis

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Guest LightNebula

Welcome. It's nice that you're very happily married to someone, especially with the high divorce rate in our country. I hope we'll be able to help and provide decent free therapy for you.

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Hello,

I am so sorry that Donna Jean forgot to bring out the refreshments, well better late than never I have the cookies, cocoa and I also have some pizza - a great late night snack unless you start having Sci-fi dreams like Evan's - read that topic foa an interesting time. :D

We have a lot of the same interests and I used to be a teacher.

So welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest NeverSayNever

Hi, welcome to Laura's!

There are a lot of people here who are in the same situation as you, and all of them are willing to give advice and tell you about their experiences.

I hope you enjoy your time here, :D

- James

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  • Admin

Welcome to Laura's! You are joining a wonderful group of people who

are all here to support one another. As Sally and Donna Jean have

said, there are a lot of us here in the "slightly older" group, many with

spouses and families just like you. It does get complicated for us, but

that's why its so great to be able to talk about all of it with friends.

I'm so glad to hear that your husband is supportive and caring. That's

something to cherish. :)

Carolyn Marie

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Guest vickrey
Welcome to Laura's! You are joining a wonderful group of people who

are all here to support one another. As Sally and Donna Jean have

said, there are a lot of us here in the "slightly older" group, many with

spouses and families just like you. It does get complicated for us, but

that's why its so great to be able to talk about all of it with friends.

I'm so glad to hear that your husband is supportive and caring. That's

something to cherish. :)

Carolyn Marie

Thanks you for the kind words and warm greeting! I'm glad to know that I am not alone.

I am looking forward to talking with others like myself.

Vic

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