Plenty of things are legal, but not right.  And plenty of things are right, but not legal.  Just because a few overpaid folks in black robes said it, or just because "society" says its a crime, doesn't mean as much as folks think it does.  Go to Russia or China, and you'd find that plenty of things you value are illegal, and many laws are worthy of complaint.  The relevance of "law" ends when you're out of sight of a policeman.     I think this topic is more an issue of philosophy than law.  For me, free speech is an absolute natural right, and natural rights are gifts from God (not from government) and not to be regulated in any way by man, regardless of ill use. 

Technically, you're correct; solicitation to commit an act of violence will only get you half the sentence of actually committing the act.  But it's still a crime.   https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/373   Carolyn Marie

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.  GF woke me up by trying to tease me and tickle my nose...bad choice.  Husband told me I've been kind of nippish all day.  Not quite to the point of being foul-tempered, but I'm having more of those days lately, not sure why.   And now its midnight and I can't sleep. 

No.  Violence is physical, even though people want to redefine that these days.  Misgendering is not physical.  And I disagree with the idea that provoking violence is the same as doing it.  Words are not actions, they are just thoughts given volume.  Next thing you know, we'll be talking about "thought crime."

I was always Me! Just like my shoulder and knee needing surgery because they give me grief, I also needed other treatments and surgeries because part of my brain was giving me grief. I am still the same person, think the same, and have the same values. I personally (which means I do not expect others to feel similarly) never saw myself as needing to be someone else, but simply that I had a condition I needed to treat. Gender treatment done, now to get my frozen shoulder fixed!   Hugs,   Allie

Hair is getting longer. The volume is good enough to cover the ears. Length Is way too slow! I'm taking hair supplements and think they are helping. It might be long enough to do hair extensions. Breast feel like they grew again which is awesome. I could have G's and still be happy! Everything else is just doable for now. I can't wait for SRS! 

I believe that is the LGBT Pride Tartan.  Pride Tartan  

That's awesome! Thank you for the update.

Ha!  I had the same thoughts.  But the nation of Georgia is no surprise.  I mean, its nearly a Russian satellite country.  Its also where Joseph Stalin was born and lived the first 25 years of his life.  It is a republic in the same way that each member of the USSR was nominally a republic. 

I have been open with my wife for months and had another long conversation with her today. Though our situations are different, I really understand the stress you’re in.    I have been slowly transitioning away from masculinity and there have been things that I once thought and told her weren’t in my plans but have come to be and, when they do come out, it’s as if I’ve been withholding. Those revelations seem to come out of the blue for her, like she has this definition of me and I keep rewriting it on her—even though I have said that I don’t know the full extent of my journey. So, things like taking on a feminine nickname and using it on job applications along with my legal name catch her. I did it because I needed to be authentic to hiring managers, but I’d never told her that I was going to do it—though I did show her my resume before I’d ever sent it out. We’d never talked about it though.   So we’ve resolved to chat regularly about us and, while it’s hard material, it’s good for us we’re doing it. I count my lucky stars though, she’s been great through all of this and I feel bad that I’m changing the game on her.

My heart goes out to you. It is a tough position and I've been there. I was married for 30 years before I told my wife. She didn't take it well and after 2 years of - maybe she'd leave and maybe she wouldn't she came to learn through HER journey that it was not my fault I was trans nor her fault and that she accepted me and our marriage is even stronger now. As hard as it is, you need to talk to her and if you want for her to remain your soul mate , listen to her and be compassionate and loving and expect for her it be upset and say things like you lied to her, but in fact you've been lying to yourself all thias time and most likely you thought getting married would fix the problem and it didn't. I built my self up as well if she didn't want to stay together, I had toi realize even if you love her, you can't change anyone except yourself and being kind and knowing it is a long process, hopefulloy things will work out.

Thank you all so much. She took the kids to her mother’s for the day. Told me she will be back and feels a little different about it now and wants to talk more tonight . So I’m going to keep my mind off it for now and stay busy.    thank you again. I actually overall feel better now that she knows. Like a weight being lifted off my chest.     

Hi Dreamwalker! As you mentioned telling her, we don't choose to be who we are, it just is. I hid what at the time I thought was crossdressing for decades. When it came time to get honest with myself, or die I explained to my now ex my secret, asking for time to talk to a therapist. She consented, I did. My therapist suggested my ex & I meet her (my therapist) as a couple. She refused saying she didn't have a problem. We are still amicable after the divorce, there definitely was a very rough period. Some here have survived the rough part & are still married, so there's hope. If she is willing maybe some sessions with a gender therapist are worth trying.   Hugs! Delcina 

A good one for Sunday, in the mood I'm in     

Hello guys, how are you all doing, hoping all is great with everyone?   I am hoping 'Dillon' sees this thread and can chime in since living in NY and if I remember correctly is a truck driver so has been around NY.   To refresh, my 24 year old MTF [Mike] identifies as Bi-Gender. Now that he's been living on his own for a few months I miss him and would like to spend more time with him outside of my home too. So I am looking around for more safer places when we both can go spend some time together and would appreciate any recommendations which we can look into.   I understand guys, that no public place we can visit can be 100% safe but I am trying to narrow down the better places where we both can go have some fun in a relaxing peaceful environment. I think most of all my main fear tbh will be for myself, whether I will be able to maintain my composure if someone should ever say anything negative towards my child. I wouldn't want to get arrested and especially traumatize mike with experiencing such as ordeal.   So guys, what Mike and I have in common is being near the water and animals. I am thinking of Queens Farm and maybe the Rockaways [Beach Channel] areas for those two situations, any recommendations please? Thanks.

Good morning everyone,    I hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday.    Things are going well here at the moment and I hope they continue. My wife and I are getting a different camper tomorrow just in time for us to depart for our first trip of the summer. We’re attending a Bluegrass festival in Beanblossom, IN. It will also be our first trip with Parker our Boxer puppy.    Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Glad you where able to make it to your service today, @Willow    Well wound up yesterday just picking up the bike. The shop was booked, but made an appointment for the 18th. Not sure if I'll take it in though. Was able to look up some information. Once home I cleaned up some stuff. Took it for a ride around town. no leak so far. If it starts again I'll dig a little deeper.   Thankfully We have our other bike. As we plan on riding to our concert in a couple weeks. I'm getting the modified saddle bag painted. So I'll have two matching saddle bags. Finally got the stereo figured out. The wiring instructions are terrible.   Thing with my wife have been smooth lately. Even joking about boob size. She mentioned about her boobs getting in the way. I came back with mine are not that big yet. She is concerned about my well being, with not working. Saying the longer I am unemployed the more depressed I get. While maybe true. I believe that it just maybe that I am just bored and my mind starts going. Who knows.   Have a good Sunday everyone.   Hugs, Kymmie

@Birdie yes, unfortunately we are in the Bible Belt and some people just can’t accept that others just don’t match THEIR idea of normal.  For me at work I’d say it’s close to 80% are accepting and the rest call me sir.  It my voice which always sounds like I have a cold or something because of mt cancer treatment and some days are worse than others.  Some ask me if Willow is my real name or birth name but since it’s none of their business I say yes.  I had one person ask if that was my real hair and I answered it was my hair.  I mean I own it, it’s not borrowed so it’s mine, right?   but there are people who perhaps take things too far too soo.  There is a young person that comes into our store frequently whom I really believe is transitioning but I dot ask out of politeness I mean what if I’m wrong. But his hair is getting longer and better styled and his chest is definitely early teen girl.  But he still dresses male.   Willow