Yup.   I saw this already, and had a freak-out moment - Atlanta?  Oh No!   Oh, that Georgia.  But yeah, no surprise. Of course, considering our current political scene… not that far fetched.

DreamWalker, you did not choose to be gender incongruent, so you do NOT deserve this! Hormonal variations during our pregnancies likely caused our incongruence from birth, and we can't change this. We need to deal with the resultant dysphoria or it can can have tragic outcomes. I tried to fight my dysphoria and would up in serious medical trouble with my systems starting to shut down, so I know how serious it can get.    Explain to your wife that you were likely born with part of your brain female, and though you have tried to ignore it, it is beginning to overwhelm you. The you she fell in love with has always been part female, and she probably liked subtle elements of what makes you unique. Let her know that this does not mean you need to transition, but both of you need to work together to find ways to keep you healthy. This might only mean some minor underdressing, or maybe a girls day every now and again, whatever it takes to reduce your dysphoria.    Show her this diagram from the fine folks at Harvard showing a critical part of our brains which develop opposite to our assigned sex, so she knows this is legitimate. My wife and I managed 20 years of happiness while managing my strong dysphoria, and she had the same initial reaction as your wife. Assure her you want to find a way to be with her, and that you both have time to work this out, because even if you transition, it is a slow process.   Don't give up, it will be hard, but it can be done!   Hugs,   Allie    

What you are describing was the hardest period of my transition.  I found that while i did the best i could to comfort and support my wife i also could no longer lie about what has always been a major part of my life. Time will help you both.  Acceptance and decisions will be made.  It was a difficult time for me and i'm sure for most of us. You are not alone.   Hugs,   Charlize

Computers without internet my happy place

Well, Windows 11 should put us back to work making more computers.  Gotta have something to do with our time.  Is this really happening?  I'm going back to Excel '97!  Excel 2010 is just too powerful for me.  Always reminds me of Darth Sidious "For a safe, and secure, society!"

Another lost treasure I found today from 1970. Especially after the first couple songs - good vocals, nice guitar work, good percussion.    

Good morning @DreamWalker   Welcome to TransPulseForums, I’m glad you found us, and hope you find the forums as helpful as I do. Feel free to join in on any of the threads that interest you. You can also start a thread on the topic of your choice. Many of the people here have started blogging about their experiences.    Best wishes,    Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Strange how life is mixed bag.

I wanted to go, but felt sick. Sad. I went last year. It looked like this here in Boston:   —Davie

Richard Thompson - "The Day That I Give In" from Thompson’s new album, ‘Ship to Shore.’

Thank you. This was the push I needed.    We spoke last night. It went absolutely terrible. I really don’t want to go into depth about what was said other than she made it very clear she doesn’t want to be with a woman, and definitely not a “trans”.    I did try to explain I’m not making any choices. That I have been this way since I can remember. I completely respect her decision.    She is still sleeping. I haven’t slept at all.  I know when she gets up, she is going to want to talk about “so what next “.    I feel helpless. You reap what you sow. I deserve this. 

Facing difficulties yet making some progress.

Emotional stability is a personality trait that describes how a person is able to regulate their emotions and respond to challenges. It's the opposite of neuroticism, which is a tendency to experience frequent negative emotions when stressed. Emotionally stable people are often calm, composed, and stress-resistant, and they're generally confident and not easily discouraged by setbacks. They're also able to maintain their composure and balance in the face of adversity, tolerate distress, and be productive.

Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude. You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream. Every day may not be good… but there's something good in every day. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude. You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream. Every day may not be good… but there's something good in every day. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude. You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream. Every day may not be good… but there's something good in every day. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

How important is PASSING" to you?   I wish I could and each time I'm clocked - HURTS - but at least I am me. I can't afford FFS and hair replacement which would help - so I'm at least living as me whether noticed or not.

Welcome, Andi! Each of us is unique, yet we often have many similarities. Like you, I felt tremendous guilt from hiding my feelings, my true identity, from my wife. It took a near melt-down from the dysphoria and depression to finally tell her the truth. We had some difficult days but remain together and in love.   You'll find lots of information here and many wonderful people who will help and support you.   We're glad you found us.

Welcome @Alisa Anne, It’s a pleasure to have you here on our forum. Your description above is one I experienced as well as many others here r. My eyes opened after 2 trigger events made me realize I needed to do something about living as the person I had always felt I was inside. Like you, I suddenly felt a change was eminent. I had never felt comfortable living as a male. I also realized my own mortality after a death in the family and making that change soon became just as important. So soon after, I came to the place you are now….looking for answers, figuring out who I was, and I came to the same conclusion you did. I had to stop living as a male and be myself.   I came to this forum and found a lot of support and friendship that got me pointed in the right direction. You’re among friends here who share common backstories and have a desire to help you any way we can. I wish you luck on your research and your personal journey, whichever direction it takes you. If you have questions, feel free to reach out or post a new thread. I look forward to reading more as you feel comfortable sharing.   Warmest Regards, Susan R🌷