Actually, I had meant the advice for Ms. Kennedy.  I've edited the post to clarify that point.  But it's prob a valid point for everyone.    Carolyn Marie

How does the new friend actually stand on the overall subject of Trans and Non Binary people is the first question.  Your question there is pretty wide and there is no one answer to it or direction to take.  What will you need this person to help you do, and what support do you think you will need. Sounds like something to discuss with your Gender Therapist   Since the Cis Person was recommended to be included in your "OUT" circle of friends by other friends, poll those friends to see what direction to take.    As for the "How To's" we do have a complete forum here on Coming Out suggestions and stories from our members over time.

Now why would I read the comments on this??   As deaf as I am I have already heard the screams and moans of the damned in hell about this one.

update..latest is if you want relationship with your mom ..n I'm sure siblings are next, then you'll simply dress up as a boy 1 day a week.. it isn't that simple it's just not and it's a slippery slope of denying myself more n more to please others oh well..being alone means nobody else opinion f... matters.  hugs thanks

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Hiya,   May I ask as to what you mean exactly?

The Cloudflare refusal was based on a problem in the site server and was not IP based for any user.  The site server was not allowing access to its data based on a Site Certificate issue explained elsewhere.  Keep the Cloudflare problems separate from IP address issues.   As we have mentioned in other recent topics here people using VPN services that shift or assign floating IPs since those addresses are specific to the VPN service and not the user may be blocked by this site since in the past that IP has been used by spammers or other individuals who have shown themselves dangerous to this site and its members. 

Sarah Mc Bride has been extremely out and vocal about her status as a Trans Woman since her college years.  She and her late husband Andy were the first two Trans White House Interns under Pres. Obama where they met.  The story there is told in Sarah's biography Tomorrow Will Be Different  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tomorrow_Will_Be_Different.  Trans issues are NOT her sole running platform by a long shot and she has also been elected to a minor state office and now State Senator plus other direct dealings with her constituents who are Cis / Het / LGBTQ and even Conservative who value her direct attention to their needs for services.  I know this because I have several friends who live in her district and value her accessibility for all financial levels of the community she lives in and does what she can to represent all of them.  

Welcome, J!

Let's not get too off topic.     This statement has multiple sides, too. Yes, we should all just be humans and be allowed to thrive. Secondly, a person's background DOES bring different things to the table--different perspective. Also, while it's utopian to believe we all should live in a world where our creed/color/identity/sexuality shouldn't be factored, we don't live in that world. We have to be vigilant and keenly aware of the "colorblindness trap".   For people in the public spotlight, it's not likely going to happen that their minority status is obviated. Attention will be paid to who and what a person is, no matter if its disclosed or not. One can only hope that, when the person come from a minority segment of society that this is celebrated and not vilified--or objectified. There will be a day when it will be "no biggie" that a trans person is in office, but today is not that day.

My son sent me this video of another parent that is also transgender.I thought it was cool https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8Llc4atKUO/?igsh=MXR0ZGJ0dzljYmM3eg==

Drowning or driving a car off the cliff and I can go on. The point is that taking away one source of suicide other sources will pop up. The problem is the individuals need therapy and that is if they want to seek help. Even if you take away gun rights do you honestly think they won't resort to the black market? There won't be a punishment to them because they are going to kill themselves. 

Carbon manoxide poisoning is also easy. a knife to the jugular or the femoral artery, a knife to from the back of the neck to the brain. 

I suppose the thought is that guns make it easier to act impulsively.  But as you say, I can (and have) thought of many ways to accomplish this.

What is going on with Cloudflare, it keeps blocking my IP to this website when I know I didn't do anything wrong, or could it be an issue with the website connectivity?  

Our court system has come to the point where it is all a matter of the particular judge's politics.

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Once again my IP get blocked for posting or replying, even when I'm keeping my experiences PG rating.. the internet is not the same anymore.

Hi @DreamWalker, I’ve been lurking this thread for a while but haven’t replied yet even though I wanted to, due to lack of time. I am continuously dealing with an internal struggle, unable to judge whether the hints I throw to my wife are sinister in their intent to butter her up, or a cry for help to get her to just recognize me!   I have been growing my hair for two years now and she totally accepts it when I say that I love it and should have done it years earlier, all of which is true. About 6 months ago she growled at me for wearing it in a particular way which was ‘too girly’ but now she doesn’t care as much.   I started growing my nails over a year ago, nothing extreme, and started to experience some splitting and breakage, so after noticing an ad on TV for clear gel to prevent that, we bought some and both use it now, every now and then. But when we went on a short interstate vacation late last year and happened to stay near a nail salon and I cheekily suggested that I should get a proper manicure and some pink polish just for while we were away, it was a firm no, despite this being only an hour after we were eating breakfast in our room both dressed in nighties. No is also what I hear at home with my chest and leg hair, it has to stay on to remind her of the man she married. That’s actually okay, I don’t feel a compulsion to get rid of it, but I fantasize about the day that I might, in anticipation of her potentially positive reaction. Balancing that is knowing that the concept of her being a lesbian spouse enjoying my smooth legs and more feminine looking moobs is repulsive to her. On one occasion I playfully suggested to her that I was her wife and it didn’t go down well at all.   About two years ago, I actually remember it was early one Saturday morning, I got out of bed early and let my wife sleep in, which is normal. As per usual the first thing I did after getting dressed was open up all the blinds through the house. After I opened up the big set of verticals in front of the sliding doors to the deck, I caught my reflection and noticed that I was carrying a limp wrist. It actually shocked me, so I stopped it, but it then felt abnormal! I didn’t prevent myself from carrying that wrist at any time after that except in the company of others, but my wife only noticed it a few months ago and thought that I was dealing with an injury! No, I said, and gave her the story which I just wrote. Point is, it was an old issue for me but news to her, and she recoiled.   A few months ago, for the first time, I ordered some clothing that was clearly unisex to me but actually marketed as womenswear, instead of unisex men’s clothing such as baggy tees. I ordered a zip hoodie with sleeves longer than the hem with some bling on it and a tee that had side splits and a daintier neckline. Soon after that, I bought a women’s sweater which resembled a men’s one that I used to own. My wife has no problem with any of this, but then exclaimed, “You’re not going to buy women’s clothes all the time now, are you?” ARRGGHH! 😩   I continue to wear panties full time and bras or crops when I feel like it as long as I can’t be ‘made’ by others. I sometimes smear a bit of moisturizer onto my hair to control frizz and use the excess on my face; my first foray into skincare. I started shaving the back of my hands and fingers a while ago too.   These are just a few examples of how I have changed in recent years. I am different to you in that I am not dysphoric enough to compel myself to go ‘all the way’ but I am still needing to be seen as my inner woman sometimes instead of as my male mask. My wife knows that I am happier the more feminine I am. I tell her often enough that it just makes me feel lovely! But the newer things to her, like using moisturizer, or carrying a wrist, or wearing women’s sweaters or tees, just doesn’t gel.   Good luck.