I Can't Figure Out How To Walk Like A Boy.

[Guest Samurai_Kid]

I've always hated my gait, it's so..Attracting. My hips don't lie; I walk like a feminine girl. My family loves making snarky comments on my feminine nature, and it's embarrassing.

I wish I had a boy to teach me how. I'm just not good at mimicking honestly. I can watch and observe all I want, but that element just never changes.

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Is this a normal problem?

[Guest NatalieRene]

I've always hated my gait, it's so..Attracting. My hips don't lie; I walk like a feminine girl. My family loves making snarky comments on my feminine nature, and it's embarrassing.

I wish I had a boy to teach me how. I'm just not good at mimicking honestly. I can watch and observe all I want, but that element just never changes.

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Is this a normal problem?

Well first off some men just have feminine style of walking, so it doesn't make you any less of a man.

If you want to walk like a guy's guy though it really is as simple as keeping your elbows and knees further apart then you are now. The rest of the motion will follow all on it's own. So strut.

[Guest BrandonIThink]

First off, I just noticed you joined yesteday, so WELCOME TO LAURA'S!!

About your walk: Girls tend to walk with their hips and incorporate their whole bodies into it. Guys walk with their legs.

It's pretty simple: walk with your steps a little further apart than usual, and that will force your hips to not sway from side to side as much. Everything else will fall into place with practice! Sometimes it's good to practice in front of a mirror (like, at the end of a hall or something) just so you can see yourself and judge just how masculine you want to make your walk. Good luck!

[Guest kelise]

roll your pelvis back and slouch. Boys have terrible posture. when you walk pretend theres a big V on the floor in front of you and your feet are trying to follow it's lines, left going left, right going right, their paths moving away from each other rather that each step being lines up one in front of each other. It's easy to over-exadurate this. Don't. If it looks corny in the mirror, your trying to hard. you have to look like this comes naturally.

My gf always said my walk gave me away. Once I got my surgery, I realized that rolling my pelvis back where it always sat naturally put pressure on my neo-Vajay, which hurt. I soon realized that by rolling my pelvis forward into it now-comfortable position and walking one foot in front of the other, and keeping my back straight, my walk is much more femanine. I just reversed all that for you.

[Guest Lily B]

It feels odd saying this but slouch more, and pretend that your center of mass is at your shoulders.

[Guest kelise]

Oh, and let your arms swing freely. Don't hold them at an angle.

[Guest Miss_Construe]

My theory, I'm M2F so take this advice with this in mind.

round your shoulders forward like your really trying to brace for a punch. Now you should walk duck footed with the path of your leg following your feet. You will end up walking zig zagged instead of strait. knees at least as wide as your hips (like your trying to draw attention to your package without actually drawing attention to your package). tighten your core so that your hips can't sway, especially your outside obliques. turn your palms in so that they are facing your body when your arms are in front of you. To do this you will need to round your shoulders in towards your sternum. Put your weight closer to your toes (probably by only a quarter or half an inch, but it will help). Also, guy walk with their knees and shoulders while girls walk with their thighs and hips. In summary walk like you are always expecting a fight (and probably like you wouldn't mind one). This is over the top, but practice too far and just right will come when you don't think or try.

the holding your torso and core tight may make your chest bigger, but it will seem more 'pecs' than 'boobs' if that is a worry for you.

Also try the though "I am the %&$^* master of all that surrounds me, and I am the people's Rock" or something like that. Attitude plays a huge role.

Another thing to consider is your family sees you every day and see your progress every day. like growing your hair, if you see it every day then it won't seem like much.

Hope that sporadic and spastic advice helps,

Amy

[Guest kelise]

My theory, I'm M2F so take this advice with this in mind.

the holding your torso and core tight may make your chest bigger, but it will seem more 'pecs' than 'boobs' if that is a worry for you.

Also try the though "I am the %&$^* master of all that surrounds me, and I am the people's Rock" or something like that. Attitude plays a huge role.

Another thing to consider is your family sees you every day and see your progress every day. like growing your hair, if you see it every day then it won't seem like much.

Hope that sporadic and spastic advice helps,

Amy

Yes, exactly! Think of a gorilla or a professional westler, though aren't those interchangable?

Also, I think MTF's a perfect for teaching these things. The way FTMs are learning to pass as men now in their transitions, we had to learn at 5-6 years old. The same works vice-versa. Maybe the FTMs can give us pointers on female behavior!

[JJ]

When I was 12 my mother decided I was too boyyis and one thing she demanded was that I learn to walk like a girl. So I can tell you what se made me change-it worked too because I was soon getting unwelcome attention from boys and my moter quit attacking my boyishness once she forced me to raise my voice.

The one thing she stressed most was not to stride out freely. Boys are larger and more relaxed in their movements. Which causes less hip sway. Kind of walking from the legs and not the hips if that makes sense.

The biggest secret I think to all of these things is to feel like the guy you are when you walk -all the rest really comes from that. Your subconscious knows how men and women walk. When you feel like a guy you will walk like a guy. When alone, when hiking I automatically fell back into a masculine walking mode despite ears of repression. Just let go and walk .

John

[Guest Zig]

I agree 100% with what Amy said. Walk with your shoulders forward and looking like you're about to pummel something. A male's center of gravity is up their torso, while a female's is in their hips. This is why a woman can pick something up from a bent-over position without leaning back and a man cannot. I don't remember the precise details, but my sister told me about some experiment she did in one of her classes to this effect. >.> Also, walk with your legs, not your hips and feel free to swing your arms and "bounce" a bit. Women are trained to walk perfectly level and (in the "olden days") would practice walking with books balancing on their head. Men can just sort of bobble about however they like. Shoes might also be a factor for you, at least until you get more comfortable with your movements. If sneakers or dress shoes aren't quite cutting it, put on some steel-toed work boots. Really helps to accentuate the good heel-toe stomp you should have. XD

Just remember; the absolute most important detail is your attitude. Whether you walk with purpose or just mosey, make sure you are feeling manly and no one around you will doubt you for a second. ^.^

~Zig

[Guest seanjamie]

Everybody here is absolutely right - but one thing that as JJ said is very important is relax your doing fine just be yourself

[Guest harvester52]

One thing a drama teacher told a class I had in high school about walking in different gender roles:

For a male walk, lead with your feet, and keep them separated.

For a female walk, lead with your hips and step one foot in front of the other.

-BC

[Guest Samurai_Kid]

You know what..

Screw this.

If I can't walk masculine, then who cares? I'm not even masculine.

[Guest Opal]

Family members can be some of the worst critics, and make one feel terrible about themselves.

These things take time, and the sad truth is, sometimes certain family members will never be accepting.

Big Hugs,

Opal

[Guest Crossroads]

What I've noticed is that a female walk tends to consist of the legs crossing in front of each other a bit. I have a friend who is a feminine gay and we talked about it one day, and he comes off VERY feminine because of walking this way.

I started walking straight after this, keeping my legs out where my hips were and not crossing at all. I think this was when I started passing almost 100%.

Did that make sense?

[Guest MrAwesome]

Well, I started walking more masculine naturally when I started packing. You can sense it between your legs (at least I can.) and I naturally walk with my legs further apart. I don't know if it will work for you, but it might be worth a try. Also, I think my binding helps because it's uncomfortable to move my hips.