Submissive Crossdresser

[Guest Marlane]

I'm not sure where I stand on sex. I used to be a very open sexual person, but the more femme I become, the less I think about the sex and the more I think about how I feel.

I have never been with a man. Not that I haven't thought about it, but it's really not priority one. I think I'm more concerned with making sure my lipstick isn't smeared. I'm so pathetic. :-)

xoxo

Shelly

Shelly,

I am so glad that you brought this to everyones attention. The further along the road I go the less I see it as a Sexual Transition and more as an Identity Transition. I ,like you , am more excited by the fact that I found something nice to wear than the thought of taking it off to have sex. (Pathetic X2) This thing we called Transgender is a wonderful experience. Something I never want to take for granted.

[Guest shaver]

I too crave submissive anal with a man, I really feel it is the ultimate in feminimity. As a newbie reading posts, it surprises me somewhat that dressing is not a turn on sexually. I also suffer from teen boy in an undie shop problem as soon as the items are donned!!!!!!

[Guest alexiaannalise]

when i dress yes i love to feel my gf behind me pulling the male dominance role but on the flip side of the coin she likes to be submissive also but i have found myself attracted to males also i also aligned myself with being bisexual cuz i do have real strong feelings towards men dressing to me makes me feeling like i am being girlie and helps me understand what girls go through alot of who i am as a male still carries over when im all dressed up with no where to go

sry for the rant

kk loves

Alexia Annalise

[Guest MrMxyzptlk]

Well, lets see if we can keep this PG-13 as mods have requested....

Yes, I feel very submissive when I dress. I am normaly a very dominant male. I am a sales and service person who pushes thousand dollar survailence systems and access control products for a living. Not exactly a submissive profession. But as soon as I get some alone time and slide on a pair of stockings I get this urge to be taken in a rough manner. I often go so far as to practice a bit of self bondage while dressed. It's not the end all of it, I really enjoy just sitting in a chair dressed up doing girly things like looking at clothing cataloges or watching shows on Lifetime. I'm hoping to have the house to myself this Saturday for an opportunity to wash my clothes and sit around in something "a little less comfortable" and do some chores around the house. Washing dishes in heels is something I enjoy for some reason. It makes me feel like a submissive 50's housewife I guess. Makes me want one of those calico dresses like June Cleaver wore.

But will the submissive side take over at some point? Probably. Will I want that kind of rough treatment and fantasize about it? Most likley. I will try to get my stimulation from another source, maybe one of my wifes romance novels will do that for me. Not sure. Never tried reading one before.

[Guest MrMxyzptlk]

I too crave submissive anal with a man, I really feel it is the ultimate in feminimity. As a newbie reading posts, it surprises me somewhat that dressing is not a turn on sexually. I also suffer from teen boy in an undie shop problem as soon as the items are donned!!!!!!

I can't say how long the first part will last, I still am guilty of using our adult toys for my own stimulation and I'm in my 40's. The second part will pass with time and frequency or dressing up. I have to work at it to pleasure myself while dressed these days. But then I am in my 40's and I have to work at it whenever pleasuring is called for... Maybe time to talk to the doc about the little blue pill...

[Guest Eve Caillard]

This is an interesting line of talk. I am not bisexual - purely straight though, if I am ruthlessly honest, I suspect I would be tempted in certain circumstances.

In my short cross-dressing history I found I am fairly androgynous in outlook (gender-wise I drift between male or female attitudes and approach) and my femme side is part of my daily character. For years I have been extremely submissive when making love with my wife. I always have been. When she takes charge I just melt and feel amazingly femme as she takes me. Sadly, I am rubbish at being "masculine" in-charge male. Fortunately, my wife has no issues with that. In some respects it seems to help because we have a very reciprocal and honest approach to each other.

I do not cross-dress in those times. She does not like it. But your messages regarding 'submitting' strike a chord because even in male mode, I love nothing more than submitting, being made love to.

I'm very curious to know if others among you feel the same way as I do?

Eve

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

I was just talking to my spouse about my being more submissive now. Not sexualy, she's not ready for that talk yet. I was telling her that I need to have her in a more controlling role over me because I make poor choices because of my issues. I spend money frivilously to make myself feel better. I do stupid things to impress men so I can get attention. This is most likley because I was all but raised by my mother, my father was rarely in the picture. I really don't know how to be a dominant male in a relationship. I fake it, like a role an actor takes on. Really all want deep down inside is to be June Cleaver. A duitiful wife who cares for her spouse and the children. Well, a June Cleaver who is smokin' hot in a pink spandex dress and five inch platform sparkly heels after the Beaver has gone to bed. Which I think happened after the cameras turned off... She was a MILB (Mother I'd Like to Be).

[Guest gg_br_alex]

As I have recently commented on other thread...I am hetero and have never felt any desire for other men. Dressing up is like a sexual fantasy for me, and that's it. The ultimate fantasy for me, in a dream world, would be able to switch bodies back and forth. Dressing up for me is getting closer to what excites me the most - which is, all things feminine, clothing, breats and everything.

As being a sexual thing, I love having sex while dressed. I have a girlfriend who supports my needs and who's bissexual, so it's awesome. Have never been so happy sexually as I am right now.

[Guest Jocelyn]

Great thread, I'm bisexual and have been quite comfortable with my sexuality for a couple of years now. I have a strong desire to be take by a man and be his submissive while dressed. This is actually the role I have been most comfortable with both women and men. it feels so good to have a place to be able to talk about my feelings

thank you