Ok so I don’t know if this is good or bad but I just came clean with one of my friends. He was not prepared. Neither was I. But there it was. Vomit. All over the place. I couldn’t help it. He is a very close friend and one that I hoped would last thru this journey. But his wife and my wife are friends. Good friends. And now I may have crossed lines. Not intentionally. Ugh. Didn’t think that till just now. What did I do. Ugh. Well I was happy like 10 minutes ago. This stinks. It’s so hard to think of my wife right now. Should’ve like an hour ago. I suck.
You know I thought about erasing this like every second I bet till I post it. But gees this was stupid. I may be beyond excited about this but my love isn’t. And I just threw her under the bus. Omg. I suck. Well at least I know I suck. This took 2 hours to write too. 😔
So this was about 9 years ago now. I used the tri top binder from underworks (no idea if that is still one they sell) and I used another pullover one from another site I can't recall the name of a couple years later. I liked both. I'm non binary (though I was FTM back then though). It felt correct to be flat. I actually may even buy a new binder soon.
Have you read up on safety precautions with binders?
You have to do what's best for you ultimately. My suggestion would be to bring up the topic of trans people without having the focus be on you to test the waters. To see what her thoughts are on trans people. Depending on her response, then talk to her about your own personal feelings about trying to figure out what your own gender is. It can take a long time to figure everything out if you're not able to explore. So I hope things go well for you.
Welcome to Trans Pulse, Hendrix. It's nice to meet you. I like collecting rocks (and fossils) when I can, too. Please look around the forums, ask questions, comment in threads, and have fun!