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Guest Timothy-Kimberly

I know that some people must have the same problem as I do... for dress it is easy enough to access clothes and accessories, cloth, nylon, and all of that stuff fits, but shoes are barley made wide enough for a genetic woman's feet that it can sometimes feel impossible to get them if you were born with wide male feet. Any suggestions?

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Guest Donna Jean

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Yeah, I've always had that problem, too....my feet are short, but, wide...

Don't make the mistake of buying shoes that "barely" fit and hoping they stretch out....

It will kill ya!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Karen K

My two favorites are:

Barefoot Tess

Zappo's

If they can fit me, possibbly they can fit you as well.

Laura Jane

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Guest DanielleD

A general rule that i was told is to add 2 sizes to you normal male foot size and that will be your size in women shoes. If you wear a 10 in mens, u would need a 12 in womens. And also in the proper width. One of my fav's online is desiginershoes.com. Have fun shopping.

Have a Fabulous Day!!

Danielle:)

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Guest Elizabeth K

A general rule that i was told is to add 2 sizes to you normal male foot size and that will be your size in women shoes. If you wear a 10 in mens, u would need a 12 in womens. And also in the proper width. One of my fav's online is desiginershoes.com. Have fun shopping.

Have a Fabulous Day!!

Danielle:)

Doesn't seem to work on women's larger sizes. I once wore 12 medium men's. I wear women's 12 W or 13 M

Lizzy

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Guest kimberly c

Hi, try Payless stores they carry up to size 12w.Its nice to be able to try the shoes on before you buy.

Love Kim

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Guest Angelgrlsue

Try 6pm.com, they have large sizes and widths in womens shoes. Kimberly Payless only has 12w shoes online, at least in my area anyhow. I have tried many Payless shoe stores where I live and none carried any womens shoes past a size 10. I wear a size 12w as well.

Hugs,

Susan

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Guest Elena

Gojane.com is nice too, but they don't carry anything over size 10. Works for me, but I can wear shoes a bit small because I've been rock climbing for 20+ years. Climbing shoes make heels feel like slippers by comparisson. I have narrow feet too though. Probably due to having been cramming them into climbing shoes for so long.

Lots of cute stuff there. Also, you can usually go 1/2 size smaller with open toe or sandal styles. I'm probably not the best person to ask come to think of it. I can usually find shoes anywhere :) The whole size 10 ceiling for women's shoes isn't a problem for me.

Famous Footware is my fav shoe store and I like Payless too.

Cheers,

Elena

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Guest NatalieM

Hi, try Payless stores they carry up to size 12w.Its nice to be able to try the shoes on before you buy.

Love Kim

12w and larger. I've seen 13's and I think even 14's at my local one. I tried the whole "add 2 sizes" thing, making me a 12, but they weren't quite right (I'm closer to an 11w) so I don't think it'll work for everyone although it is a very great starting point.

Best of luck in your hunt!

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Guest Deena

Also, when wearing heels, your feet are pushed forward (by gravity) and you'll probably take a smaller size than in a flat. I'm almost 2 sizes smaller in that type of shoe.

Deena

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Guest Drewbie

I'm FTM, but I used to have this problem back when I would wear girls shoes. I have huge feet for a 'girl', so whenever I could I would wear mens shoes. Right now I'm a 10.5 in men's shoes, and a 12 wide in women's. If they don't have wide, just go up a size or a half size and they should fit.

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Guest Robyn G

In larger sizes going up two sizes might be too much. I wear a 10 mens but I've noticed I can do a 10.5 women's if the heel is at least 3.5". On a smaller heel I need an 11.

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Guest Lauren~

But what happens when you get way up there like with me and my Mens 13s?

I thought it was go up half-a-size, at least that's the way it works out for me. I'm a 9 1/2 in mens, and a 10 in womens.
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I bought my heels from Exotic High Heels and had a pleasant experience. They have a good return policy where they'll pay shipping on an exchange pair if you need to adjust sizes. And as for me and the 2 size rule, it didn't work in that I normally where a 10.5 mens and had to go 15 in the heels. I might have been able to squeeze into a 14, but that's what I ordered first and it felt like I was wearing a pair of vises.

I've heard others say not to buy from Pleasers, but that's what I currently have and have had no problems with them, so I guess the bottom line is sizes and makers aren't consistant. Like Dee Jay (I think) said, it you can try them on first, do so. And I've heard that if you're going to go to a store, wear the nylons or socks that you'll normally be wearing since they can make a difference in the fit. And if you're embarassed to go into a store, now is the time to do it since you can just say that it's for a Halloween costume you're putting together. Good Luck.

dk

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Robyn G, where is the shoe in your avatar from? It is fabulous!

Xoxo

missy

This is a Valentino shoe I found online at Saks Fifth Avenue's web site. If only I had the $800 to afford it. :wub:

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Guest MeredithL

I'm really pushing it. I wear a mens size 14. I'll never be able to find anything to even try on if I have to go 2 even 1 size higher. Annoying big ol feet!

Meredith

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I'm really pushing it. I wear a mens size 14. I'll never be able to find anything to even try on if I have to go 2 even 1 size higher. Annoying big ol feet!

Meredith

Try Barefoot Tess. They carry over a hundred and fifty in women's size 15. And they tell you on every one if it's a true size, or to order a size smaller. You might have some luck with that place.

http://www.barefoottess.com/

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