I'm Confused, I Wished That I Knew What I Was 100%

[Guest ericc]

Before I identified as Androgyne / Bigender Male that's attracted to Women who identifes as Masculine, but now I'm just tired and sick of people looking at me as a MAN. I don't like being called a Man! I don't feel like a man. I'm not Masculine! When I looked at Women who identify as Masculine, I feel that they are Men, not me. I want to start cross-dressing because at night, I feel like I want to be a women. During the day, I'm just Androgynous, I don't feel like I'm either. I don't know, I'm confused. I don't feel like I'm 100% a women trapped in a man's body. It's almost like I feel like I'm both an Androgyne male and a Women. It's hard to figure out. It's not like I have multi-personalities, maybe multi-gendered. That's why I picked Androgyne Bi-gender. But like I said, I have feelings that I want to cross-dress and wanting to be a girlfriend for a women who identifies as Masculine. It's like I'm a couple of idenities.

[Guest Zabrak]

Well, would YOU like to be a masculine woman? You seem to talk about them a lot.

[Sally]

And what is wrong with being you? We don't believe that everyone has to fit into a neat little pidgeon hole, life isn't like that.

Look around and explore you will find where you fit best.

A gender therapist would make a very nice companion and guide on your journey of self discovery.

I love you, just the way you are, (Thak you Billy Joel)

Sally

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Eric

You post so well - but this post shows a lot of confusion.

Baby, just be what you are, don't worry about labels. Your mind is trying to talk to your heart. Turn that the other way around.

There is nothing wrong with being any of those things you mentioned. Just try on what you feel is needed, and be happy. If it becomes too hard and you REALLY want some guidence (and options) then find a good gender dysphoria qualified therapist. That's the only way to know what you are, for sure.

Usually cross dressing just happens gradually - it is rare someone suddenly decides to "become" a cross dresser, because that isn't really possible. You either "are" or you "aren't" a cross dresser, from birth. It may not hit you until later, but you can't chose it as a life style. And if you are TS you can't chose to suddenly be a cross dresser either, because the motivation is different, We transsexal (I am in transition by the way so I know) dress to assert our femaleness. True cross dressers dress to express their feminine side for a while. I want to be female totally, cross dressers don't want to alter their genitalia.

You are probably not multi-personality, just gender dysphoric identified - my therapist taught me that. Multi-Personality Disorder is very rare and it keeps a person from functioning in this world at all.

Androgynous is a valid option - and therapy can help you with that. It is really a good place to be these days it seems, as today's world seems more tolerant than when I was younger.

I hope this helps.

Liz

[Guest Christy.dancer]

Before I identified as Androgyne / Bigender Male that's attracted to Women who identifes as Masculine, but now I'm just tired and sick of people looking at me as a MAN. I don't like being called a Man! I don't feel like a man. I'm not Masculine! When I looked at Women who identify as Masculine, I feel that they are Men, not me. I want to start cross-dressing because at night, I feel like I want to be a women. During the day, I'm just Androgynous, I don't feel like I'm either. I don't know, I'm confused. I don't feel like I'm 100% a women trapped in a man's body. It's almost like I feel like I'm both an Androgyne male and a Women. It's hard to figure out. It's not like I have multi-personalities, maybe multi-gendered. That's why I picked Androgyne Bi-gender. But like I said, I have feelings that I want to cross-dress and wanting to be a girlfriend for a women who identifies as Masculine. It's like I'm a couple of idenities.

I can't get inside anyone else's head 'cept my own, and I'm barely familiar with all the nooks and crannies in here. BUT, I don't think ANYONE is 100% sure of who they are. My guess is the most confident people you see are in the 75% range.... you get it?

[Guest Evan_J]

Baby, just be what you are, don't worry about labels. Your mind is trying to talk to your heart. Turn that the other way around.

First, Lizzy, you really are a mother deep down aren't you? lol you even talk like one.

Eric,

I can't get inside anyone else's head 'cept my own, and I'm barely familiar with all the nooks and crannies in here. BUT, I don't think ANYONE is 100% sure of who they are. My guess is the most confident people you see are in the 75% range.... you get it?

I couldn't have said it better.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Before I identified as Androgyne / Bigender Male that's attracted to Women who identifes as Masculine, but now I'm just tired and sick of people looking at me as a MAN. I don't like being called a Man! I don't feel like a man. I'm not Masculine! When I looked at Women who identify as Masculine, I feel that they are Men, not me. I want to start cross-dressing because at night, I feel like I want to be a women. During the day, I'm just Androgynous, I don't feel like I'm either. I don't know, I'm confused. I don't feel like I'm 100% a women trapped in a man's body. It's almost like I feel like I'm both an Androgyne male and a Women. It's hard to figure out. It's not like I have multi-personalities, maybe multi-gendered. That's why I picked Androgyne Bi-gender. But like I said, I have feelings that I want to cross-dress and wanting to be a girlfriend for a women who identifies as Masculine. It's like I'm a couple of idenities.

dear ericc,

Yep, thats right! You are actually more right on to your gender identity than you realize. Being feminine, and crossdresing (like I do) doesn't neccessarily mean that you are not attracted to women. Quite the contrary, women are what you are most attacted to (regardless of their gender affiliation). I too don't identify myself as male (at anytime of the day), but I am attracted to females, especially females that make me feel even more feminine. Go figure.

Anyway, there is nothing wrong with you! I am practically the same way, and I am at peace with the way that I am!

You are OK!!!

bernie