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By VickySGV · Posted
@Mirrabooka@Abigail Genevieve Let's not neglect the severe divisions within the Trans and NB sector as well along those lines. Where we have Non Op & Non HRT and Cross Dressers, Gender Benders, Gender Fluid, Agender et al VS. the full surgical route takers with GCS, FFS, BA and vocal surgery, Which of those segments gets to speak for the others? How do we turn them into a cohesive force for good just among those nominally under the Trans shade tree?? -
By Cynthia Slowan · Posted
Hi, I am Cynthia, 62 year old lifelong crossdresser. I have been dressing off and on for as long as I can remember. In the last ten years or so I have noticed that my dressing has become a major part of my life, I went through all of the purging and confusion and I came out feeling more like a woman every day. Self acceptance is very powerful if you truly accept who you are. Over the last few years I have built a nice wardrobe and now spend about 80% of the time as my true self. I only wear male clothing when visiting with family and running errands. I don’t know if I am trans or not, all I know is that I absolutely love myself as a woman and that’s how I feel about myself, that I am Cynthia. I love wearing makeup, dresses and jewelry, it feels so good and natural to me. I am thankful to have found this special place and look forward to being a part of this beautiful community!! I hope to learn about myself and also to participate and interact daily and to help others in their journey as well. If I could I would absolutely live full time as a woman and hopefully with help and encourage I will one day fulfill this dream. I love being a woman and thinking of myself this way. I’ve never thought much about my pronouns but I definitely like she/her for myself!! Thanks for reading and I look forward to being here and sharing with you all!! 💗 Cynthia -
By Mmindy · Posted
Good morning Felix, I don't know how aware you are of the motives behind Military Boot Camp, but the most important thing it's designed to do is break you down, physically and mentally, weeding out those who can't make it. If you really want to be a Marine after you graduate high school? Stop believing you do things better when you're high. Clean your lungs by filling them with the fresh air of cross country running. Start small, run around the block, then around the track, then from your house to the track. Run everywhere! Run, run, run, and then when you can't go any further. Run some more. Do this feeling like you're going into Boot Camp in top physical condition, and your training will still break you down. That's what it's designed to do, and you'll earn the right to be called a Marine. The best thing about your wishes to become a Marine, is that it's something you can surely do with a proper mindset. Yes, it's very physical, but most of all it's mental. My brother-in-law is a retired Marine, and I love his stories ranging from his time in boot camp, to his time as a drill instructor. These conversations are not started by him. They're usually started by my nephew who is also a Marine. I can't say enough how proud I am of my family and friends who have or are currently serving in the Armed Forces. I will be equity proud of you too. Best wishes, stay positive and motivated, Mindy🌈🐛🏳️⚧️🦋 -
By Finn_Pioneer · Posted
I was always playing the boy in house, and I HATED wearing dresses. I used to dress up super masc and go out to dinner to just make sure I could still pass as a boy. I thought of it as a game but.. uh.. nope. -
By Timi · Posted
I took Maybelline's quiz https://www.maybelline.com/babelline-makeup-personality-quiz and I'm "Perfectly Practical" when it comes to makeup. I carry three things in my makeup bag in my purse that I use any or all depending on my mood. 1) Maybelline magic eraser/concealer. Pretty much a liquid foundation/concealer in lipstick-sized package with built-in sponge applicator. It rules. 2) Maybelline mascara primer. It's the subtlest of enhancements, yet makes me feel confident in my eye communication. 3) Subtle lipstick in a natural/nude shade. Very slight enhancement that again, is mostly for how I feel. -Timi -
By April Marie · Posted
Thank you!! I finally gave up and dropped the t-shirt. Working in the skort and sports bra was much cooler! -
By April Marie · Posted
Welcome to the forums! Another very late starter here and still haven't made the HRT move. So, I can't help much with your questions. But, you are among friends!! -
By Sally Stone · Posted
I love makeup. Firstly, I need it to help feminize my facial features, and I'm fascinated by the way it transforms. I love trying new techniques and new products. I think the best thing about using and wearing makeup is that helps me feel more feminine. -
By Sally Stone · Posted
I support everyone's right to say what they think, even when what they say is hurtful or hate-based. Quite simply, those people should have that right. However, just because I support a person's right to free speech, never means I have to agree with it. We should never stifle free speech, but when it is hateful or hurtful we should exercise our free speech right to say how inappropriate their speech is. The best way to fight hateful and hurtful speech is through discourse. Sadly, our society has lost the ability to debate. We have assumed the position that "if you don't agree with me, you must be against me." This way of thinking prevents discourse and all the good that comes from it. -
By missyjo · Posted
I'm sure you look smashing in it I'm just working so denim mini n white sleeveless top..maybe I'll change for hair appointment later hugs -
By Abigail Genevieve · Posted
There has been discussion before on this. Not all the TG goals are the same as the LGB+ goals. We can agree on some things, but some gays reject transgender and some transgender reject homosexuality. I think it is a case of we can work together on some things, but there are limits. -
By Ivy · Posted
Welcome Kati. I was 68 when I realized who I was myself. As far as hormones go, Planned Parenthood does work with trans people. I don't think they do the therapy though. As of now, NC is an informed consent state. You can get HRT by signing off on it. If you have a doctor or therapist that is trans friendly, it might be good to work with them. In NC the urban areas tend to be more trans friendly, but you never know, you might get lucky. -
By MaeBe · Posted
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By Vidanjali · Posted
@FelixThePickleMan your post reveals a lot of insight, but also mixed with denial. Your desire to strengthen your relationship with your mother is admirable, but it cannot be the sole motivating factor to your giving up an addictive behavior. However, your love for your mother and desire for her love will help strengthen your resolve. But that resolve needs to come from your own will. You say you smoke because you have nothing else to do and you believe you are a better person when you're high. You must come to understand that the creative and charismatic energy that drugs seem to unleash is potentially in you at all times. Make it your project to figure out how to tap into that and channel it without using drugs. Make that your thing to do. It's a challenging and exciting thing to do. I started smoking cigarettes at age 15. In my late teens, a good friend observed that smoking was the only time she ever saw me calm. That was profound for me. It took a few more years, but eventually I had the epiphany in which I saw my life as nothing but a string of tedium in between each cigarette. It seemed so pathetic to me and that motivated me to give up smoking and learn to live life differently. My story of addiction is much longer and more entailed, but I will focus only on smoking here as it is relevant. And as I reflect on it, I also should comment on your belief that you have to stop liking the habit before you can quit. That is not a necessary condition for one to quit. In fact, if that were so, hardly anyone would ever quit any bad habit. More accurately, you come to dislike the person you have become while in the grip of the bad, addictive habit. Not in a self-loathing kind of way, as that will not motivate you, but rather depress you. In other words, you come to a place where you are able to take a subjective view of yourself and your life and decide that you want something else, something better. And sometimes that only happens when you hit the lowest point in your life and there's nowhere to go but up. Don't let yourself get even close to that state, if you can help it - and you can help it. Weed seems to imbue all your activity with a kind of a magical quality. This makes the world, your activities, and yourself much better with weed. But all that is an illusion. Your proof is that it's artificially invoked, only temporary, and destructive to your relationship with your mother. If I may be so bold, frankly, it is a cop out. You have the potential in you to see your life, the world, and yourself as beautiful, captivating, and wonderous without altering your mind. In fact, it is in clearing your mind that you are able to glimpse this. You want something productive to do? Develop a workout routine. Take up meditating. Learn mindfulness techniques which you can practice throughout the day. The magic is in quieting the mind and being present. There is no instant intensity like you get with weed. But you gain power within yourself, and you are the very source. Become addicted to that - that is a good addiction and you will progressively see your life and relationships in a new and brighter light. -
By EasyE · Posted
I had a pretty serious porn addiction for awhile (thankfully broken about 12 years ago), and so my wife sees my "trans-ness" tied into that ... to her, it is all one ugly thread of sexual sin and dysfunction... sometimes, I do struggle with it, too. Is this just another branch of a sexual addiction thing? Am I looking for a substitute for the porn? When I sift through everything it seems much deeper than that. And if anything, the HRT has lowered/changed my libido and it hasn't lowered my desire to move in a more feminine direction with dress, etc. It can be confusing, especially when you are in a very religious/moralistic environment... To get back to the main topic, the fear of change and the unknown is huge. And like others have said, folks on the fringe of just about any cause tend to be what gets played up in the media and what folks see the most. Not many people see good ol' regular transgender people who are just trying to live their lives, hold down jobs, take care of their families, etc.
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