I don't know if I'm trans or something else

[Frenchfry89]

So, I've been a serious tomboy my whole life. Like play with trucks, wrestle the dogs, make mud pies type tomboy. I use to only wear cloth from the boys section. As I got older, I started wear girl pants but I still only wear shirts and jackets from the mens section. A few times in the past, I've thought about what it would be like to be a guy. And its always seem nice and easy. But I've never been uncomfortable with my body, just extremely self conscious. I've never really cared if people called me sir or her/she, but I've always hated being called ma'm and a lady. I'm hoping this online community can help me find some answers. Every time I dream/daydream I've exclusively been a guy. This has been constantly on my mind amd its starting to frustrate me. I dont know what to do.

[tracy_j]

Hi Frenchfry

 

Welcome

 

Please feel free to ask questions and read around here as you feel. You will find many others with similar experiences. We are all different but there are common themes. You will learn and begin to understand, There is much informaation here which will help you plan and progress

 

Tracy

[Dev]

Howdy and welcome!  As Tracy said, you're welcome to peruse what's been written here in the past, as that can help you on your own path.  I should say specifically that no one else can tell you with certainty whether you're transgender - that's a determination only you can make.

 

One thing you may find helpful is our resource locator - with it, you can find therapists in your area who work with transgender folks.  Meeting with one could well help you sort out your feelings and help you determine who you are, one way or the other.

[MaryEllen]

Hello Frenchfry,

 

Welcome to TransPulse.

 

MaryEllen

[Jani]

Hello Frenchfry and welcome.  It does seems as if you've reached an inflection point in life.  I will second Dev's suggestion of seeking out a therapist to speak with.  I found the experience to be enlightening.   Take a look around past postings as you may find knowledge that helps you as you make your way. 

 

Jani

[VickySGV]

I will throw in one small consideration to this, and that is simply that if you are questioning your gender at all, you are not cis-gender but need to find your own niche over here in Trans* Land where we can go from scary to fabulous in two strokes of eyeliner or eyeliner remover!!  Being different is fine to us and will not get you a funny (yuck) look from any of us but if you mean it to be funny, we can laugh with you.

[Charlize]

Welcome French Fry.

 Trans* folks came in all kinds of degree, shape and sizes.  I have a friend who wears plaid shirts and a baseball cap and sits somewhere in the space between genders.  I think we all live with a bit of both within us.  When i went to a gender therapist it did help as i could relate past experiences with an impartial party.  Just being open and honest with another person helped me a great deal.

 Glad you are here as well.  Reading and posting here helped me to know i wasn't alone and to get back to my own phobias about gender.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Frenchfry,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us! I can only repeat what others have said that a therapist can help you to clear the fog of confusion. Reading and participating here can help loads as well. Enjoy your journey of discovery!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[Guest Rachel Gia]

Much Love and if you can find the January 2017 edition of National Geographic on GENDER there is a lot in there that may help you.

A friend bought it for me and even though I knew a lot, I found out even more and it explained pretty much all the terms.

My copy is now in circulation with a few friends as they were most interested.

My friend also gave me a book called Middlesex which you might find interesting and in the few pages I read I found it to be a good read.

XO