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ElissaMtF

Hello,

 

I am Elissa, 21 y.o, I am a trans woman from Belgium. I am on HRT since January 2016 so going on my third year of HRT now. I am pleased with its effects. 

I have not had SRS yet but plan to have it done in the near future. Researching surgeons currently. Leaning to go with PAI, dr Sutin. 

 

I am straight. Knew I was trans since childhood. Sadly couldn’t come out earlier than 2015 because my parents were unsupportive.

 

I am currently in college, studying journalism. Love it. I have always loved literature and languages. Mathematics on the other hand, ewww. 

 

What’s more to be said? 

Uhmmm, I’m a sensitive person. I love hugging and other warm kind hearted gestures. 

I would chose a quiet night at home over a loud night at the pub any time. I don’t drink and don’t do drugs.

 

I love educating myself about other cultures.

 

I’m into fashion, make-up and I love reading medical papers. 

 

I’m single (by choice, until I will be post-op), I have one pet, a dog. 

 

I am from Belgium, home of the lovely chocolates ;-) 

 

Anddd I’m new here :P 

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tracy_j

Hi Elissa

 

Welcome :)

 

Your chocolates - well what more does one need :D , except perhaps Belgian beer which is also very good. I too seldom go to the pub but do have the occasional beer.

 

Thank you for the introduction. Please do not hesitate to read, ask questions as you feel and join in. We are all here for each other.

 

Nice to meet you

 

Tracy x

 

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12 minutes ago, tracy_j said:

Hi Elissa

 

Welcome :)

 

Your chocolates - well what more does one need :D , except perhaps Belgian beer which is also very good. I too seldom go to the pub but do have the occasional beer.

 

Thank you for the introduction. Please do not hesitate to read, ask questions as you feel and join in. We are all here for each other.

 

Nice to meet you

 

Tracy x

 

 

Hi Tracy, 

 

thank you for the warm welcome message ☺️

 

Our beers are also famous, that’s true. I personally love Kriek Bellevue. It’s beer with cherries. The typical Belgian beers like Palm and Stella Artois are too strong for me, sadly. 

 

I’m especially here to connect with other trans people about the struggles in daily life we face. Especially since the ignorance of other people we are confronted with can be overwhelming sometimes. 

 

Nice to meet you too and I hope y’all will appreciate my contributions on the forums.

 

😘

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MaryEllen

Hello Elissa,

 

Welcome to TransPulse. :)  Thank you for sharing with us. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. :)

 

MaryEllen

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MaryMary

Hi :)

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TessaOKC

Hi Elissa and welcome.

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Charlize

Welcome Elissa.  Glad you've joined us.

 

Hugs,  (i love them too)

 

Charlize

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Timber Wolf

Hi Elissa,

Welcome to TransPulse. We are a friendly bunch hear who all love chocolates! Err, well, I do anyway LOL😄

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Gwen

Welcome, Elissa! Looks like your chocolate comment is getting lots of attention. I ate my daily ration an hour ago :)

You seem to be living a balanced life - this should help you in your journey. I'd rather have a quiet night at home instead of a noisy night out on the town too. And I'd probably be sitting in my living room with a small dog, if my landlord would allow it.

 

It's great to have you here.

 

Gwen

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Jani

Greetings Ellisa, I'm glad you joined us.  It's sad that your parents cannot support you, but college is a good place to spread you wings and fly!  I look forward to hearing more from you.  Please join in when you can.

 

Jani

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Elissa.  I hope you find here what you need.  Please feel free to ask any questions.  We'll be here for you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Cat Lady Kelly

Welcome!  Glad to hear your journey is moving forward.


I do have an important question.  What kind of dog do you have and what is their name?

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ElissaMtF
On 17/1/2018 at 8:19 AM, Cat Lady Kelly said:

Welcome!  Glad to hear your journey is moving forward.


I do have an important question.  What kind of dog do you have and what is their name?

AWW, I love that question, so sweet :)

my dog is called “ Noisette “ which is French for “ walnut / nut “ . He is 4 years old, kinda small but very fat. His race is a mix of a mops and a bulldog. 

I love him. He can be grumpy but he’s lovely :)

 

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On 12/1/2018 at 2:22 AM, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Elissa.  I hope you find here what you need.  Please feel free to ask any questions.  We'll be here for you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

Thanks so much. Your message feels very welcoming :) I don’t have a lot of  supportive people so thanks for offering me a place to share my feelings. 

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ElissaMtF
On 11/1/2018 at 9:01 PM, Gwen said:

Welcome, Elissa! Looks like your chocolate comment is getting lots of attention. I ate my daily ration an hour ago :)

You seem to be living a balanced life - this should help you in your journey. I'd rather have a quiet night at home instead of a noisy night out on the town too. And I'd probably be sitting in my living room with a small dog, if my landlord would allow it.

 

It's great to have you here.

 

Gwen

Hi Gwen,

thanks for the warm welcome.

I do have a balanced life but it’s especially because it helps me to get through the dysphoric days. I try to work a lot and do relaxing things to be confronted less with the dysphoria.

 

I love Godiva chocolate. Lindt chocolate from Switzerland is not bad either but I prefer my Belgian chocolates. We have a Leonidas on every corner here. Do you have Leonidas chocolate in the USA? :) 

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On 11/1/2018 at 2:23 PM, TessaOKC said:

Hi Elissa and welcome.

Hi , 

thanks for the warm welcome :) 

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On 11/1/2018 at 1:46 PM, MaryMary said:

Hi :)

Hi :) 

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MarcieMarie12

Hi Elissa! Welcome to Transpulse! My mom  took about a year to come around (sort of), my dad took about 3 months. Initially they were very hostile to it. I kept in touch, and basically showed them it was not the end of the world and it was what was best  for me.

 

Hugs,

Marcie

 

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