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Hi  everyone. 

im not new as such but was here when it was a different name. feel like i am newbie seeing the changes that have happened. 

i have been absence for too long i am sorry. 

i am some what struggling again with meself. 28yrs male that has a mind set of a female since i was single numbers. 

over this past week i have found myself thinking of wearing females clothes but seem to be coming up to a brick wall :(

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Hi Alice, Welcome home!  We all struggle at some point so don't let it get you down.  What's been happening in your life thats caused this brick wall? 

Jani

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hi. I have just had quite a big op and got a puppy. married last year. 

moved house and i think its mental games. cos i know the wife was ok for me to wear her close (im that skinny) but say a remark like ooh your wearing a bra ..  

idk why i have this block in my head. everytime i go to putting some clothes on to get comfy something stops me

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Congratulations on your marriage.  I hope the op went well.  A puppy can be a handful!

 

You're wife knows about you dressing and is OK with it but you feel guilty.  Is this a new feeling?   Is she surprised when you do, indicating she's questioning and you don't want to disappoint her?  If you have a therapist, you might want to speak with them to go over this feeling. 


Jani

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Welcome back Alice.  After living in a society where acting or looking feminine was grounds for ridicule and worse it took me time to find myself able to accept and be myself.  Therapy as Jani suggested certainly helped me find that freedom.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Welcome home, Alice.  It's nice to have you back with us.  As always, we will be here to support you whenever you need us.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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its. good to be back.. 

i'll try and. answer all.

yes its a new. and recent feelinghaving this guilty side.

however female side of me has been.  with me from birth  with my recent diagnose of adhc and on the autistic spectrum.

 

operation went very well thank you. had a chunk of gut remove due to crohns

i read what your all saying but dont feel brave enough to go to my. doctor to be referred to one.. cheeper option. 

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I'm glad to hear you had the surgery.  Crohn's can be bad.  I understand it may be stressful to speak to your doctor but it's only one visit and its done.  Isn't there an option for you to self-refer?  

 

Jani

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Hi Jani. i will have to have another look into that. i hope there is. 

hello tracy j its been a while since our last communication.

 

thank you everyone who i do not know yet. the support is great and hopefully will be more active on here this time

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Yes please do check it out.  Be bold for YOU.

 

Jani

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really struggling to find a self referale form of anything. everytime i look into it i get other forums coming up with other people like me. 

 

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