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Lolly80

Parent with a ftm child all new to me

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Lolly80

Hi my child is 12 and has for the past 10 months been living as a boy. I am 100% behind him and have been to the school and have things in place to support him. We are on the waiting list for Gids. Just looking to see how many others are going through similar and what they have found useful/not useful especially with him being so young . Thanks 

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VickySGV

Welcome to the Forums.  I am not a parent of a Trans child, but I do work with parents and Trans children in my community.  I have a Trans God Daughter who is now 17.  The T children I know are so fully alive and are "just happy children" when you meet them and if you did not know about the birth assignment of gender would have no question over their identity.   I have to laugh a little that they are singularly unimpressed with being Trans, or even with my being Trans.  Thank you for coming here to support your child.

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Lolly.  Thank you so much for being a support for and ally of your son.  He will need that so much as he goes along this journey.  You may already have all the info you need, but please do let us know if you need a hand in finding information or resources.  There is much online to help the parents of trans kids.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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EvanC

Hello Lolly, I also have a trans son, although he didn't come out to us until he was older, at 16. What I think was most useful to him was getting a therapist. That and the fact that he had been a member of the gay/straight alliance (a school student club) for several years before coming out to us. Both of those gave him help in figuring out when and how to come out to the school, how to work with them about pronouns, etc. 

 

As parents, finding out as much as we could about what it is to be transgender was most helpful. There are lots of books out there, plus forums like this one where you can ask questions. 

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Timber Wolf

Hi Lolly,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you came!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Jani

Greetings Lolly.  It sound like you're trying to be as supportive of your son as possible.  Great!  It can be hard so the support of a parent is encouraging! 

Cheers, Jani

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