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Hannah Sunai

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Hannah Sunai

Hey everybody, it's nice to be here. 

 

My name's Hannah. I just put the pieces together that I'm a trans-woman a couple of months ago. I'm on hrt, and feeling pretty good right now. I'm a computer programmer, married to a very supportive woman, and I'm struggling a little with the identity issues that come with being trans. But, you know? Overall, the whole experience is a real adventure. My body's been changing for a while, and I'm happier with it than I've been for a long time. I am taking baby steps to live more authentically, and I feel like that's going pretty well. For the most part, I'm blessed by having supportive thoughtful people around me, I think. 

 

But, the problem is, while the people in my life are very supportive, and they try to be understanding... none of them really have much of a frame of reference to understand what I've been going through. I'm usually pretty positive, but sometimes it gets dark in here, and it helps to be able to reach out to other trans people who get the experience a little more. 

 

Really looking forward to being a member of this community.

 

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VickySGV

Welcome to the Forums Hannah, we try to provide what you are looking for, so jump on in.

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Josie Beth

Welcome Hannah! It’s good to have more new members here to share this experience with. I’m new at this too, and I’m finding it much easier to cope with everything just because this place exists. 

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Susan

Welcome hannah. There alot of people here that are more than willing to give you advice. I hope you enjoy the site to. Hugs!!! 

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Susan R

Welcome Hannah, it's a pleasure to meet you.  I believe you'll fit right in with our little group here.  You sound like you're experiencing a very positive start in your transition.  I hope to hear more about you and how you got to where you are today.  Thanks for sharing.

 

Susan R🌷

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Cyndee
2 hours ago, Hannah Sunai said:

But, the problem is, while the people in my life are very supportive, and they try to be understanding... none of them really have much of a frame of reference to understand what I've been going through. I'm usually pretty positive, but sometimes it gets dark in here, and it helps to be able to reach out to other trans people who get the experience a little more. 

 

 

 

 

Welcome to Trans Pulse forums Hannah, I so get this above, that's why we are here to help share things that might just fly right over (or under depending on your point of view) most people's heads. It's like how could they know ? Unless you've lived such things, many of what a person transitioning experiences is hard to describe to the person on the outside.  Have a look around the forums and join in the conversations, great to have you here dear.

 

Hugs

 

Cyndee -

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DeeDee
5 hours ago, Hannah Sunai said:

Overall, the whole experience is a real adventure.

Hi Hannah, pleased to meet you, that is a wonderful approach to take! I get your statement about frames of reference though, the folks here understand the questions and many of the answers while some people with the best will in the world just do not get why you need to ask in the first place. 🤔 

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to the Pulse, Hannah.  I'm happy for you that things are going well, and I hope that the rest of your journey goes equally well.  Whatever issues concern you, or you want to talk about,  please know that we'll be  here to help however we can.  There is a  great breadth of experience among the members and the staff, so the base of knowledge is pretty danged good.  I hope you enjoy the time you spend here.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Timber Wolf

Hi Hannah,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf 🐺🐾

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Hannah Sunai

Wow! Thank you all for the awesome welcome. It seems like a really neat group.

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Jani

Hello Hannah and welcome!   It sounds like life is going well.  Please join in the conversation.  We're all here to support each other.  

 

Jani

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