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Kaidyn

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Kaidyn

So my school has this course (JROTC) and it is a military based classes to help citizens become better citizens (and are no way signing up for the military, navy or any of the sort.) I feel like a class like this would help me with my future career ( criminal profiling). The uniforms aren't too feminine, but I would still like a male's uniform (the females have tie tabs and a slightly different jacket while males have an actual tie). I don't necessarily want to come out to him. I know and trust the teacher, but I feel like he'd forget that I'm closeted (only to my family) and call me he/him while discussing with my parents something. I haven't started transitioning, because I'm closeted to my family, but I do go by a male name and I'm just really nervous. I've tried coming out to m parents a few months ago and they didn't react ideally. The told me I was confused, that it would all be over, and that it was just because I have trauma from being abused. Any tips on how to handle the uniform predicament or my parents?

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Jani

Hello and welcome Kaidyn.  First I would say the JROTC program probably has fairly rigid uniform rules so that they would not bend them for you. I would drop any idea of getting that changed.  As to your parents, this is a second issue that should be addressed separately.  You should talk to them again about how you feel and that this is not a confusion issue.  I can't offer much more information based upon what you've written. 

 

Cheers, Jani

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