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Kim1

So I have some questions!

what surgeries are a good start for my transition (MTF)?

and how can we find good and affordable surgeons? 

I did start on laser hair removal and it hurts bad lol! But I have to finish all my sessions!

anyway I can’t afford all the surgeries at once but I’m thinking to start having some surgeries on my face before starting my HRT!

any  suggestions?

 

thank you!🙂

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MarcieMarie12

Depends on where your dysphoria lies. For me, I had GCS and not the others. FFS is not needed, and breast augmentation is something I want to wait on. Others I know have done FFS and BA first and waited on GCS. So it is probably something you want to consider for yourself. There is really no one set path to transition.

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MaryMary
Just now, Kim1 said:

and how can we find good and affordable surgeons?

 

IMO you have to find the best with the technique you want. Those surgeries are risky and you have to deal with the best.

Also, it's better to wait for HRT for some surgeries, especially BA.

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Kim1

Thank you girls! So is it always a requirement to be on HRT to be eligible for SRS?

can the SRS be done before being on HRT?

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MaryMary

well here you need one therapist letter to have HRT and 2 to have SRS. I guess you could just do the SRS. Some surgeries like breast augmentation require HRT if you ever plan to have it because you don't want breast to develop with the implent present. I don't think it would be a good thing.

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VickySGV
14 hours ago, Kim1 said:

what surgeries are a good start for my transition (MTF)?

 

NONE are good to start transition.  They should be the culmination of many steps taken one step at a time.  No surgeries are needed to fully transition anyway.  Although it happened several weeks ago, a person I knew slightly died three days after a two day series of the surgeries and I am still grieving for her and her partner and child.  I am post op of GCS for six years and know what they do not do and dreams that do not come true from having them.  In one sense you are lucky today because waiting times for then are in YEARS, not months and you have time to find out how NECESSARY they really are.  I will suggest one element of health care you can do however: See a dentist and have that part of your body put to rights, it will help in the long run.  It is those who have surgeries too early in transition that become the regretters who do not have to be.  Sorry if this is rough sounding but I do care.

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Raven1981

Hello Kim:

 

Normally doctor's and surgeons would like to have the person on HRT and living full time as there desired gender for 1 year before any surgeries.  As someone that would like to get FFS and GCS that has been on HRT for 15 months and living full time for 20 months, the doctor's that I have seen are good doctors and they have asked and checked to see if I have been on HRT for 1 year and living full time.  That is where the letters from therapist come in from and the hormone doctor.  

 

For myself, there are times that I feel like that I am rushing on wanting to get surgeries, but also how there is the typical wait list you have to get on.  Also these surgeries are not exactly cheap.  For example, for my FFS, I was quoted $38k and for GCS I was quoted $25k.

 

But typically there are steps that you do need to take that are in place and that the good doctor's usually follow the WPATH.  Do not rush into surgeries and any good doctor will not do them without seeing HRT for 1 year.  Like how Vicky said, the ones who rush into this are the ones that typically are the regretters.  Sorry to be so rough on this but there is some areas that you just cannot rush and need to follow the process.

 

 

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