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Zoey-Alice

I am a trans woman, pre-OP.  I'm posting on here, to get others opinions.

My lower half cause a lot of dysphoria,  some days worst than others. I've been looking into surgery but it still a few years out, between finding the right surgeon and getting the money. 

 

So, I started looking online and found fake vaginas, used mainly for crossdressing. I've considered buying to wear to try and cut down on my dysphoria. However, they can get very expensive. I am also concerned with it making me feel like a fraud or even more dysphoric.

 

So, many other thoughts & feelings around it. 

Was just wondering others opinions were about this or if anyone using them. How does it make you feel etc. 

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VickySGV

From someone who tried one of those rubber VJJS, please save your money for the real experience.  If anything they make your GD worse.  Spend the money if your still must spend it on some support panties, and then a cute dress or skirt that does not emphasize your tween hips area.  Looking down on the flowing skirts and feeling the firm support of the panties will put your problem out of sight.  The VJ prosthetics look great in glossy ads but are highly conducive to jock itch problems, and other cleanliness problems. 

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Raven1981

I can say myself, that I have bought one and used one.  I got the one that allows for restroom use and sexual intercourse use.  However, the fact that they are made out of silicon, it is not ideal for long term wear.  The most you can wear it for is 3 hours.  They do get very hot and sweaty down there.  It does help my dysphoria out a little but not 100%.  If you want to get one you can, just be warned that you wont be able to wear it for the whole day and can only wear for 3 hours.

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VickySGV
8 hours ago, Amy LeBlanc said:

It does help my dysphoria out a little but not 100%. 

 

In quick time, with the additional personal cleanliness and limits, it made my GD much worse.  YMMV.

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Zoey-Alice

The ones I was looking at, you could use the restroom in them, but no sexual activity.  It wasn't a full lower half just the vagina with straps almost like a strap on.  

Thank you for your feedback, I will continue to consider my dysphoria options. 

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