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It certainly is sad when something like this happens.  The current climate and rhetoric may well contribute but unfortunately the LGBT community has always been targeted. 

 

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I grew up in that crap.  Admitting even that you're gay down there is a death sentence.  Trans is way worse.  That area is hard core bible belt material.   Dallas may look like the big city life compared to the rural towns north and south of it, but it's still got a large share of people who believe the same way.  There's a reason I hid from everyone and just purposefully dressed up as the classic businessman for the entire time I lived there. 

 

I moved to get away from that type of hate.  I live in Michigan now and it's not a lot better, but it's not a death sentence.  I feel for anyone still living there.  It's taking a chance on your life to come out there.  Sometimes, I wish they'd ban religion altogether, though I doubt it would do any good and that would be unconstitutional anyway.  Honestly though, that is not a good area to be stating that openly living there.  It's like walking around with a sign in south side Chicago with a sign that says "I hate <insert racial slur>" or something equally stupid.  It's sad, but I can't say I'm surprised.  I'm more surprised it actually hit the news.  There's quite a bit of that happening down there.   The viral video is the only thing that got attention I'm sure.  Otherwise, no one cares.  It's really that bad. 

 



 

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