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Summer Coming - Bikini

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Hi all,


As I am just starting transition, would you advise against beach holidays and bikinis for now? Letting the hormones settle for a while?





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It took me a year to feel ready for that. I still wear shorts on my bottom half for obvious reasons, but after 6 months of hard training and a year of breast growth I thought I could at least pull off the bikini top. And no issues last week for my first bikini beach trip. 


I will say that even almost a year into full time, wearing that top was a little nerve racking for me still. But not too hard. Do what you will feel comfortable doing. If that means a bikini then that’s awesome. If you need a tee or a rash guard (that’s what I used last year and they are cute) then that’s good too. 

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Although I have never been out in public in a bikini I have been out in very skimpy wear, such as my shorts which have been described as hotpants and usually wear a summer dress or short skirt with basic undies in the hot weather. My opinion is that, yes there is the hormonal development but one thing I have noticed when being out dressed so skimpily is that I feel essentially naked. With me it sometimes takes a bit of adjusting to. I would plan to, and suggest you wear a beach dress or tee on top, then take it as it comes.



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Thanks Kirsten and Tracy for the tips! I may leave the hormones to work for now! I cannot wait to be confident on the beach!


Thanks Gals

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