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Hi All, my name is Sarina (for now). I’m beginning my MTF transition, not yet on hormones and not yet out to family and friends. I’m 41, live in Southern California. I have a wonderful wife and three kids aged 21, 9, and 4. I just wanted to say ‘hi’ and intro myself to the forum.

 

So far all of this has been super informative and positive (I even found solid tips for helping to grow out my hair) =) I look forward to learning more about this journey I am beginning, and meeting some great new peeps along the way!

 

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Welcome, you do not live far from me, and I know that while your area is somewhat under-served by LGBT Community services for social activities, that they are on the way, including programs that will include your wife and children.  <I am on the Board of a group working on getting them going is how I know> This Saturday the Los Angeles LGBT Center in Hollywood at Santa Monica Blvd and McCadden will have Trans Pride and there will be  spouses and children (both cis and Trans) there as well.  It is a lot of  fun. . 

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Greetings Sarina and welcome.  There is lots of good information and folks to converse with here.  Please join in! 

Cheers, Jani

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Sarina.  There is a lot to learn about the journey you're on, but plenty of time to learn it.  This site will go a long way to accomplishing that.  Finding a gender therapist is one of the first important things you might want to do.  Coming out is a very difficult and fraught process, but it is possible to transition and keep your family intact.  Many of us here, including me, have done so.

 

Please ask any questions you'd like.  We'll be here for you.

 

Carolyn Marie

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I LOVE your name, Sarina! You look so happy in your pictures. Best of luck to you during your transition and beyond.

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Welcome to Trans Pulse.

Your smile radiates the joy you feel in this journey.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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On 6/13/2019 at 1:22 PM, VickySGV said:

Welcome, you do not live far from me, and I know that while your area is somewhat under-served by LGBT Community services for social activities, that they are on the way, including programs that will include your wife and children.  <I am on the Board of a group working on getting them going is how I know> This Saturday the Los Angeles LGBT Center in Hollywood at Santa Monica Blvd and McCadden will have Trans Pride and there will be  spouses and children (both cis and Trans) there as well.  It is a lot of  fun. . 

 

On 6/13/2019 at 1:34 PM, lauraincolumbia said:

You look lovely!  Welcome to the site!

 

 

23 hours ago, Jani said:

Greetings Sarina and welcome.  There is lots of good information and folks to converse with here.  Please join in! 

Cheers, Jani

 

23 hours ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Sarina.  There is a lot to learn about the journey you're on, but plenty of time to learn it.  This site will go a long way to accomplishing that.  Finding a gender therapist is one of the first important things you might want to do.  Coming out is a very difficult and fraught process, but it is possible to transition and keep your family intact.  Many of us here, including me, have done so.

 

Please ask any questions you'd like.  We'll be here for you.

 

Carolyn Marie

 

15 hours ago, Kamarka said:

I LOVE your name, Sarina! You look so happy in your pictures. Best of luck to you during your transition and beyond.

 

8 hours ago, Charlize said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse.

Your smile radiates the joy you feel in this journey.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Thank you all for the wonderfully supportive comments and information! It really helps to know there is a community of people engaged in this area, that I’m not alone.

 

@VickySGV that’s cool you are close by! Maybe down the road we can do a Starbucks run? As far as this weekend, WOW! What a world of difference between LA County and San Bernardino County right? Luckily I have good health care and am finding resources relatively available. I’d love to come this weekend but...that’s right wait for it....I’m not out yet. Wife and kids don’t know. I owe it to them to open up before I take to social gatherings like this. I am super excited to check it out though. Thank you for letting me know.

 

@lauraincolumbia @Kamarka @Charlize Thank you for your kind words. I do find it funny my smile changes a bit when I’m happy!!!

 

@Jani @Carolyn Marie thank you too. Your guidance is awesome! I have started therapy locally and also online with the lady that runs Transition Channel on YouTube. I believe I am On my way to blockers, HRT and for the love of god smooth skin and longer hair (lol)!!!

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