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Park

Well i was curious about how you guys feel for my issue here. i have a very masculine hobby and i also feel i would have to give up on that hobby if i decided to come out. my hobby is mini bikes and go karts and im afraid if i did wear womans clothing while riding them i might lose some freinds and be looked at weird. also its a very dirty hobby because something always is broken or greasy. But if i were to come out it would 100% be on a go kart but i would have to get all dressed up first and get a wig and figure out makeup.

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ToniTone

Careful if you wear a dress, they can get got in the chain/belt or spokes. Major wardrobe malfunction, you'll REALLY be out then, lol! xp

 

Motorsports are often labelled masculine, but you see alot of gals into it these days too. I think it's awesome! 

 

On a side note, I always loved woman's bike frames, that lowered crossbar makes it so much easier to get on the old Schwinn's. It'd be pretty rad to put a little twin cycle engine on one (transition goals)... 

 

❤️

~Toni

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Charlize

I've found with time that i can do everything i did as a woman that i enjoyed doing as a man.  Times have definitely changed.  It would have been different when women were more homebound but today it's not an issue.

Just now, ToniTone said:

On a side note, I always loved woman's bike frames, that lowered crossbar makes it so much easier to get on the old Schwinn's. It'd be pretty rad to put a little twin cycle engine on one (transition goals)... 

I've got a cute '64 Vespa 150 that fills that role so well.  It's just getting licensed and while  i know i should wear protective clothing i'm looking forward to going to the market in a skirt.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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ToniTone

OMG I so want a cute lil' scooter!

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Ellora

Most Tomboy’s  that I’ve seen riding  mini bikes and go carts, do not dress too feminine, they wear clothes able to take the dirt, mud and oil. I’m not saying how you should dress, just giving you my own observations. Check out other women that have similar hobbies, and maybe that could help?

Best of luck with your transitioning! 

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Kirsten

I am an avid rider. That was always thought of as masculine. But there’s plenty of girls that ride now. There’s plenty of girls into motor sports and racing too. Don’t let society pigeonhole you. Do your thing and done apologize for it. 

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Jani

There are no boundaries as long as you are safe.  Lots of women enjoy "masculine" activities and many men like "feminine" activities.  Don't fret over it.  

 

BTW I am still active with my car hobby.

 

Jani 

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KymmieL

I am a car nut,pure and simple. Will I stop it once I transition. Not on your life. I also ride Harley Davidson Motorcycles. If that isn't masculine  I don't know what is. I will still wheel my Street Glide. Building model cars, yep still gonna do that.

I haven't seen a hobby or sport a female hasn't done. I wouldn't worry to much. Who says you have to dress any different from what you do already. Whose to know what you wear underneath  either. 😁

 

Kymmie

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Park

Well for just normal riding i wouldnt wear a long dress and i would still wear a wig or long hair but ponytailed most likely it would be in some leggings but i would have a dedicated pair. You guys really make me feel like i could come out but i dont think im quite ready.

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Ellora

I love to play World of Warcraft, Dungeons & Dragons. I love to throw the football, play some basketball, build sandcastles, ski, make things out of paracord, ride bikes, and other things. If anybody told me it was too masculine or too feminine , I would put them in check. If my friends had a problem with me, I would tell them they do t have to join.

Although it would be hurtful, I don’t want people that are mean or @$$*’s in my life. Don’t need it, don’t want it. 

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tracy_j

There are lots of women around here who ride bikes. It's very uncommon for them to wear skirts though. Generally the clues are almost down to slight differences in build or even riding style as the clothes they wear are pretty much identical, even men occasionally wearing feminine coloured helmets (eg pink!).

 

Tracy

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Charlize

While in the closet i spent some years as a licensed buckle racer.  I loved the fact that i could wear skin tight leggings over shaved legs and colorful team shirts.  Unfortunately my heart couldn't take it. Fortunately the growth of blood supply to my heart due to the intensity of the sport probably kept me alive through several heart attacks.

I have a cute skort cycling outfit in my drawer that i hope to be able to wear someday if my Dr. says yes.  I'll just have to lie back and watch the kids go past.

 

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Charlize

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Jani

@Charlize, did you mean Bicycle Racer?  I think the autocorrect gremlin got you! 

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Ellora
Just now, Jani said:

@Charlize, did you mean Bicycle Racer?  I think the autocorrect gremlin got you! 

😂 I was going to ask the samething, but secretly I was hoping it is “buckle racing.” 😝 

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Charlize

Those buckles are hard to race!

Bikes go faster 

:D

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Jani

Yes Ma'am they do! 

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Park

I feel like coming out so bad but cant bring my heart to it. Most likely when my mom becomes a truck driver if ever i will come out to my dad as transgender im a very strong confident person usually but when my girly side comes out im a bit shy and shake alot. I have already ridden a toy on my mini bike but thats the most ill ever do outside besides mabey wear legging under pants but im too scared of doing that. It feels so natural to cross dress and i really feel like exploring beyond in my room but dont have the guts to do it.

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Charlize

It is often best to stay in ones comfort zone.  Times may change and in the future you may or may not feel like you need other ways to feel right about yourself.  I know i waited much of my life to even start a gender exploration.  

I was afraid of going out even in a pair of well hidden panties.  It just wasn't my time.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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