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Atlas516

Hi, I'm new to the site and hope I'm not going back to an old topic that has been covered... But I am a 27 year old male who has never really felt complete in my body. I have lived my life wishing and dreaming I could one day see what it's like to feel like a woman. 

Fast forward to the most recent months and I have a family of my own and a beautiful wife and her family that supports and understands how I am and what I want. So now I'm "quietly" trying to find ways to look and feel more feminine. One of my major issues is "tucking". 

I have a rather large genital area and cannot physically move it to the rear in any way, nor can I find the "cavity/canal" that so many talk about pushing the testicles into. And all of my support are CIS women who have no idea. 

 

So to my point, is there a way to get the compression and coverage for males that want to look more feminine without tucking backwards? I found a company called LeoLines that has a seemingly fantastic line of underwear for this matter, but they are a bit expensive. 

 

So to sum everything up, I need to hide my huge junk and get that flatter front look without going toward the back. 

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VickySGV

If you are still at the point where you are becoming sexually aroused when trying to tuck, it is going to be nearly impossible to do it without a lot of patience until you calm things down and become limp then it is easy.  Google or use you health care system's encyclopedia for Inguinal Canal for a picture of where yours are as far as where to coax your testicles up (one on each side)  this will not work if you have an inguinal hernia though.

 

The best idea for you for a while is going to be simply getting used to dressing etc without thinking of tucking.  Good solution at first is to wear clothing that is not figure hugging and is loose in the genital areas. Full skirts feel and look great for that. A regular jock strap can help in the early stages to keep you contained. After a while it will lose its erotic effects and you can get by with a support panty to smooth things out a bit.

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lauraincolumbia
On 6/22/2019 at 11:18 PM, Atlas516 said:

 

I have a rather large genital area and cannot physically move it to the rear in any way, nor can I find the "cavity/canal" that so many talk about pushing the testicles into. And all of my support are CIS women who have no idea. 

 

 

Hello,

Its kind of a nice problem to have, but I can understand the frustration.  I know some well endowed girls that have no problem.  In fact, I think it might work better if there is more to be tucked.  There is more to hold it in place.

Even though, I'm average endowed, it took me a while to figure it out.  You really should be able to tuck it to the back.   

As Vicky said, you're going to have to make sure you're limp or it's going to hurt like the dickens, and you might actually break something.

There are also plenty of videos online.  I would have search for a good one.

However, with some practice and guidance, you really should be able to make it work.  

Laura

 

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Atlas516

So I have spent some time watching videos and doing more research since this post and have possibly found the canal.... But not being limp makes it rather difficult to do more that that. I will work with it more and hopefully one day I will have the completely flat front I am looking for!!! Thanks Laura and Vicky for your support and information!

 

Also, check out LeoLines on ETSY. Chris makes some fantastic panties for both trans women and men! And their reviews are top notch!!

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VickySGV
53 minutes ago, Atlas516 said:

I will work with it more

 

That may not be the best thing to do, depending on how you meant that..   Get dressed, forget about it and have fun.  Then the panties will work.

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Atlas516

When I say I will work with it more, I was referring to the hardness issue. I can't seem to get limp enough to actually tuck. I did find the canal, but still have not been able to move the shaft backwards. That's what I need to work on.

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Janeshannon

I have a few pairs of Leo Lines undies. Overall they are well made and smooth things out some. You will never be cis smooth. Being absolutely flaccid is important to tuck well. Try it immediately after going to the bathroom, as that tends to calm things down. Also seeing this as a clothing thing and not a sexual thing helps the mindset. I've tucked most days for the last 2+ years; it gets easier. 

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lauraincolumbia
On 6/28/2019 at 10:45 AM, Atlas516 said:

When I say I will work with it more, I was referring to the hardness issue. I can't seem to get limp enough to actually tuck. I did find the canal, but still have not been able to move the shaft backwards. That's what I need to work on.

Maybe if you thought of something not exciting, filing your taxes, getting a tooth pulled, reciting the entire Beowulf poem in old English....

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