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KymmieL

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I have noticed that some of my classmates I am friends with on Facebook. They are starting to plan our 30th reunion. which is 2023. I believe. I would love to go. I have only been to our 10 yr. Wanted to attend the 20th but it was a week after my sisters wedding.

 

Since I should well be well into my transition. 4 yrs some months. depending on time of year. 1: Should I go as my school self. the old me. Being I will be so far along with my transition. May be easier going as Kymmie.

So my question is what to wear? formal, casual, party, daily?

 

Kymmie

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Duh!  That is so far away.  You'll be attending as Kymmie.  I'm sure the dress code will be announced in accordance with the type of party that is planned.  

 

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Usually reunions are semiformal, so just a nice outfit but not supersmart unless the invite says otherwise.

 

As long as you are comfortable with doing so then go as yourself. Maybe just speak to the organisers so you can be under the right name.

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I know it is way early. Don't know why. Maybe what they call Business casual. Nice skirt and blouse or dress. I will have a sharpie in my purse in case the name tags get goofed up.

 

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Kymmie, in four years this will all be a non-event for you.  You will be comfortable and happy as your true self.  You'll find something to fit the situation that you'll enjoy wearing.  

 

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Check these out @KymmieL

 

She made a film (www.prodigalsonsfilm.com) that I watched on amazon (if I remember correctly) that I enjoyed.  I think it would speak to a number of points you are thinking about.

 

A woman confronts her past, and future, when she is forced to make a trip to her hometown.

 

 

 

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Jani,

Wow. Both videos were great. I hope to have the courage that Kimberly has one day.

 

Thanks for the nudge.

 

Kymmie

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You will, and you will be fine.  And so will everyone else in attendance.   

 

Hugs, Jani

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Kymmiel..ITS 4 YEARS AWAY......I echo Jani commemts..You will diff you bye then..Hell you will properly have a look -alike robot go in yr place. Because you will  be in Mars driving  around in you Tesla rocket.One thing I learn today was to take one day at a time. I am going to try to do that....But just in case this Robot and Mars does not happen ..I would go as hottest (Turn heads)  blacks heels, tight red dress, and made to kill model that you are.....But I am properly sure this Robot thing is  going to happen..Much lv

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It was not too long back when I went to a similar school reunion. I know one or two old friends knew how I now dress and coloured my hair, but was a bit worried about some (particularly male) members reactions. I need not have as everyone just accepted me, no-one commenting at all (well I always was a bit controvertial LOL). I played it down a bit with smart feminine casual / androgyne rather than the semi evening dress style that some of the women wore, but that is pretty much me anyway. I think word had maybe spread especially as people have posted photos including me from time to time online. It was not an occasion in which women fight hard for supremacy like some are. I do remember a female work collegue mentioning that conventions, or at least the evening meals at such, are where women often go to town on looking their best, which she did.

 

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Those two videos are so amazing. I’m nowhere near that but it’s nice to know that she has crossed that threshold. I thought I would check the film out on Amazon but to my dismay they didn’t seem to offer it for download there. Maybe I’ll go ahead and purchase it at some point. 

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Changing gears but kind of the same. I was looking on Ebay for a xmas dress. Just seeing what was out there for the possibility I may be working at the home office soon. I may want to wear a holiday dress the day before xmas to work. the selection is far from great. Most are gaudy prints. Some even Halloween(?) all I saw in my search so far are the asian sizes. were a xxl is a us 14. but of course a us stock.

 

I was thinking just a simple holiday pattern sweater dress. Oh well I will continue my search.

 

Kymmie

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Well all my reunion is in Aug. I have came out on classmates.com. So, some may know others, will be a shock(I bet). Will I lose friends, probably. I am in a current search for something to wear, a nice dress. It is casual. and a pair of low heals. already have a hair appointment a couple days before I leave. Also want to get a mani-pedi before I leave. My toes in the school colors. blue/gold.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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@Hannah Renee Oh, I plan on going. Got a nice blue dress to wear, Just looking for shoes now. Have appointments for hair, mani(clear gel) and pedicure School colors, blue and gold. Will do blue and gold over the nails. Ialso have a make up appointment a 11am the day of the reunion.

 

Since I came out on Classmates. I have seen more people looking at my profile. Most I don't even know. However the last one, was one of the people who teased me. I know she knows people who know me. Including the girl O grew up next to. But no comments or anything on facebook.

 

I am even staying in the host hotel. Hitting the pool the night before. In my woman's one piece.

 

Thanks for the encouragement.

 

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Kymmie

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2 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

Interestingly, she has checked out my profile on Classmates a couple of times recently. Maybe she was looking to see if I'd detransitioned. I'm going to assume newer pictures I have posted there have persuaded her otherwise. 

   Perhaps I'm subconsciously rubbing it in, or maybe I'm not the least bit ashamed of who I am (definitely true). At any rate, I did all that because, even though my old classmates are not in my life, I needed to reach back to my beginnings to put another nail in the coffin of my former (fake) self.

Hannah,

 

You may be the only transwoman she knows and you're showing here that we're not over the top flamboyant drag queens. We're real people. I don't think you're rubbing it in. I think you're setting a good example. You're a real woman she has to learn more about and deal with it.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋🏳️‍🌈

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Good morning everyone.:coffee:

 

I'm up early without an alarm. I had a very exciting conversation yesterday with the vice president of production about getting set up to be a manufacture for the sales and training division of a global cargo tank equipment company. What I'm hoping is that they will see the value in what we do, and buy us out. They're located only a few hours away from where I live. I'm going to take one of our completed training props to their location, and show them how we demonstrate their products to the emergency services, Fire, Police, Motor Carrier Enforcement, DOT, and Clean Up Contractors. When we build these props we currently use a competitors domes and valves. We want to change that and exclusively use there tank truck components. Again I'm hoping they see us a potential acquisition, and income stream.

 

@KymmieLI'm also excited for you and your attending your class reunion. In my best Bill Murray voice as Private John Winger "Stripes". Razzzzle Dazzzzle.  

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋🏳️‍🌈

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Well my reunion is a week from this Saturday, Aug 19. Getting nervous about it. Tomorrow is my hair appointment. next week my nails. Still haven't found shoes yet. Being Aug in Mich, a nice sandal should do it. Also trying to figure how to keep some protection with me. at the reunion and while on the trip.

 

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Kymmie

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34 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

 Also trying to figure how to keep some protection with me. at the reunion and while on the trip.

 

Well, protection comes in many forms.  If its self-defense you're thinking about, Michigan has concealed carry reciprocity with Wyoming.  For other means of self defense like pepper spray, you can check their state and local laws.  Whatever you choose, there's all kinds of ways of carrying a little something. 

 

Emotional protection is probably tougher.  I hope that the people you knew in your old life will be accepting of you as you are now.  I avoided my 10-year high school reunion, as the people who are no longer in my life are that way for a reason.

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I understand how nervous you feel.  I remember going to the 50th reunion of my all male prep school.  I was amazed and pleased by the mostly positive support i received.  It was certainly different than it would have been.  Those years have changed so much for the better.

 

Hugs,

 

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Well I am on my way to my reunion. The dress code is casual, do you think a dress is a little over board? It is just a plain dress nothing fancy. Not a LBD, mini or formal.

 

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