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Cindy Truheart

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Okay, I keep asking this question and I never get a satisfactory answer. I even asked it here once upon a time, but I'm back to try again!

 

I need a bra! STOP RIGHT THERE! Before you make a comment, please read the rest of what I have to say. I've been trying to get a suggestion on this for the past three years and I'm sick of hearing the same things. So please, read everything here because more than likely, I've already tried whatever it is you're about to tell me.

 

According to my measurements, I wear a 42B. But any time I've purchased a 42B, my breasts don't even touch the insides of the cups, the same is true for a 42A. The reason for this is because cis women who have a band size of 42 are overweight and thus have more flesh to put inside the bra. Testosterone poisoning did it's evil work on me for almost 30 years though, and my chest has very little fat, it's just an extra, extra, extra large rib cage. What I need is a bra designed for this, it doesn't have larger than normal cup size, and the band is still big enough to go around me.

 

Now, I know that there's at least one company out there that claims to make bras for trans women. But at $80 or more, I want some reassurances that I'm not wasting my time going through yet another return process. So, what I would appreciate SO, SO, SO, SO, SO MUCH!! Please, my trans sisters, please tell me that you have this same problem and what, if any companies you know of who make a bra that MAY fit halfway decently! So far all I wear are sports bras because it's the only thing that will fit, but I would LOVE to actually have some nice looking, pretty bras instead of something that screams "fitness room reject".

 

Thanks in advance for your help!

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Cindy I know finding a good fitting bra is a challenge.  You are right that sizes don't necessarily correspond to our bodies, or anyone's body!  When I was ready to give up on sports bras I just went into Walmart, then Kohls and tried on lots of sizes and styles.  I avoid ones with underwire as they never fit me well.  I like Warner's.  Its called "Blissful Benefits" and it has a slightly padded cup with enough curvature to make things interesting.  The price on these are great. 
 

Even though I measure a solid B their A cup fits me well.  But I also have a B that fits good so you have to try them on.   You might have a hard time finding the smaller sizes but be diligent and try different stores.

 

Cheers, Jani

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My best fitting bras are actually the front closure models.  I am at 10 years on HRT though, and my subcutaneous (just under the skin) fat does push into the cups a bit more than it did at first. My boob tissue also goes under my arms and I need it pushed forward a bit, which needs "boning" right under the armpit.   The front closure's that fit me best are Just My Size brand, but I also have bras in about three nominal sizes from different brands.

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Hi Cindy, I’m a 75 year old transgender woman who is no on HRT.  I wear a bra everyday and have found that the Hanes Comfort Fit Flex bras work best for me. I’m a 40A so the large size fits well.  I don’t have much breast tissue but these bras fill my need to be feminine.  I’ve also learned that we have a sister size in bras.  I purchased a Bali double support bra in size 38B.  It fits great and actually creates a boob that nearly fills the cup.  This bra is very pretty and they sell matching panties as well.

 

Good luck.

 

Sandra

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I e gone through the saaaaaame thing, and size issue too. When I first started measuring and trying to buy bras, I started at size 42B. Cups were useless, the cups ended up looking like a deflated nerf balloon, ?. I read up more and tried a “Hanes Women's Convertible Seamless Wire Free Bra,” on Amazon (Price around $12.94, so It’s not a big money loss I feel it doesn’t work right) . They are wire free, unlined/ no cups. I’m wearing a pink one right now. They fit great and are comfy too. The convertible part means “Adjustable straps easily convert from regular to criss-cross for convenient versatility,”  which offers more support if desired. My breast have been forming and growing slowly so I’m waiting until they grow a bit more before I bother getting one with any padding. I have several sports bras I put on depending on the weather, a couple have lace on top that look nice.

I am thinking about getting an unlined push up bra to see if that might work, since it would not have cups. Plus I’m about a 39B now, since I’ve lost weight in my back, so I’m curious how the newer sizing would look. 

As mentioned try unlined/no cups, and wirefree type. Some bandeau bras have removable padding or non at all. 

Best of luck finding your bra(s)! 

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yeah I do the 70's thing burn my bra and walk around free as a bird.....it only hurts when I touch something or something touch me or if there's a strong wind or powerful AC, but beside that all good

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I use a company called dainty lady. They have bra's for the smaller woman (trans not mentioned anywhere as far as I have seen) and actually do down to AAAA size cups with 42 band (not sure about Uk / US size differences) so may be helpful. I find their products well made and not too expensive (around $30 in Uk). They are made to order, I think, so deivery is slow (~1 month), but they do deliver worldwide.

 

https://www.daintylady.co.uk/

 

Tracy

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That third love company Mary mentioned seems like it could be great. I have looked into it myself but it comes with that hefty price point. I also think the extenders on a smaller bra could help as well. I’ll ask some of my friends too. If they have any better ideas I’ll message you. 

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I"m surprised that no one has suggested Her Room yet.  (http://www.herroom.com)   They have a ton of different sizes and colors, and are super helpful.   They also constantly have sales, so their prices are as good as you would get at Kohls.

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