Do All Transgender People Think The Same?

[Maid In Bedlam]

I got a Video in my feed on youtube the other day. It got me thinking on a grander scale.

Is it really an age difference that makes us think differently?

Is it our roots? Maybe the way we grew up?

Do we think differently in the first place?

 

 

Link to the Video here

 

 

The questions asked were as follows;

 

 

1.      1  Children are capable of understanding their gender identity?

2.       2 Gender Roles are necessary?

3.       3 Gender Reassignment surgery is necessary to be transgendered?

4.       4 Dating is difficult for me?

5.       5 There are Risks to being transgendered?

6.      6  I love my body

7.      7  Sometimes I wish I was never Transgendered

 

Watch the video. Walk away have a think then come back and if you fancy. Show what you think in the thread. Be nice to also give a few reasons but its not mandatory.

 

Some have been discussed in other threads and some are alien. But I think its really interesting.

I would perhaps ask that you do not quote someone and state why you think they are wrong. We are all entitled to our own opinions.. We are all adults and are capable of a rational conversation.  

 

 

My own answers are as follows should you wish to read them.

 

                 1.       Children are capable of understanding their gender identity?

 

Yes they are. I was about Seven or Eight when I first knew I was different from the other boys. However before that I had no real sense of gender. All I knew was I liked to go over to the park and play or ride my bike. So in reality. The question is vague. How old is it before a child is really aware of gender should be more apt.

 

                2         Gender Roles are necessary?

 

Yes they are. We we didn’t have gender roles then in reality we would not have transgender or transsexual.

I never felt comftable playing the male role and knew for many years it wasn’t right for me.  Granted if gender never existed then how would the world actually be as you aretoday? There will always be gender roles as I see it. Until science makes it obsolete. Women have Children. Men at this time cannot. Born Men are stronger then women. A biological fact.

 

 

                3         Gender Reassignment surgery is necessary to be transgendered?

 

I may have had surgery to correct my undercarriage but it was more a personal choice.  It did not make me feel any more female then I did before it.  But it did end my transition in my personal mind.  There is a lot of emphasis sometimes put on grs. But in reality you do what fits  you. So no it isn’t needed but makes it more complete.

 

 

              4        Dating is difficult for me?

 

I have never really dated From beginning my transition. I met my partner during my transition and we fell in love. I would imagine according to many it is a hurdle. But for me it never was. So no in my case.

 

5         There are Risks to being transgendered 

Especially if you are and never embrace it. I stuggled  for Forty Five years. All that time I should have been happy but never really was with myself or my life and would not even wish that on my worst enemy. Sometimes i feel if you are really Transsexual or transgendered and want to live in peace and harmony with the world then you should be willing to understand you may have to make big sacrifices. Losing family and freinds for your transition. I had to. It was hard but in reality i would have sacrificed myself for my transition.  There is the obvious of ignorance and fear from others. So hell yes theres risks.

 

6         I love my body

 

 

 Yes I do now. Even if some parts are going south. Not every day but most days I can look in the mirror naked and say. Wow you are looking good girl. But that was after Five  years of   Hormones and surgery. I hated it pre transition.

 

 

7       Sometimes I wish I was never Transgendered

 

Yes I do. I wish I had been born into the right body and didn’t have to work on it. My life would have been very different. However the experience I have gained from transition is a precious gift. You could think of it as reincarnation and rebirth but without forgetting your previous life. Not many get to do that.

 

 

As I said watch the video then if you like tell us what you think.  It made me think about it all.

 

 

 

 

[ShawnaLeigh]

I plan to watch this later in private.

I will say I feel your answers are spot on.  Very well thought out and they make perfect sense to me.  

[SaraAW]

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

1.      1  Children are capable of understanding their gender identity?

I believe they now how they feel, generally around gender. I do not believe they understand fully everything that relates to gender. Without the life experience to witness gender at large, i don’t think they understand fully what the perceived roles in society are and how they will be affected. I do fully support blockers and social transition to allow a child to understand more of how they feel and how they will be impacted by making a decision. 

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

2.       2 Gender Roles are necessary?

No. I believe identified skill sets are necessary, but not gendered roles. The ability to give birth is currently a skill that cis men and trans woman may hopefully  someday be able to master through scientific advances. Outside of that particular example, there really is nothing that should be truly gendered. Everything is acquired knowledge or skill. 
 

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

3.       3 Gender Reassignment surgery is necessary to be transgendered?

In the eyes of many currently, yes; however, it should not be. It really is about being comfortable with oneself, change what you absolutely need to in order to survive, beyond that it is really no different than cis plastic surgery to meet some sort of perceived beauty standard. 

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

4.       4 Dating is difficult for me?

Not applicable at the moment, but maybe in the future I will need to find out. 

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

5.       5 There are Risks to being transgendered?

Yes. There are also risks to being cis. Some of the risks overlap, some are unique. In almost every part of the world there are unique social risks to varying degrees. As many of us also move forward with medical interventions in our journey and the science is not very strong in most cases, we also have some unique medical risks. 

8 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

6.      6  I love my body

I love parts of my body more than others. Overall, due to conditioning, I’m overall unhappy with having the “wrong” body. I am working with my therapist on body image. 

 

7.  Sometimes I wish I was not transgender?

most days I do. It is a struggle to feel and see the disconnect between mind and body. It also comes with many unique challenges as mentioned in question 5. Overcoming those challenges or any challenge, for that matter, does change you and make you better equipped to handle more challenges. Life would definitely be easier in some ways, although who’s to say I’d be where I am with certain aspects of my life if I didn’t have the almost 40 years of male privilege I’ve had so far. 
 

Thanks for starting this thread, I thinks it’s a valuable set of questions to think about and discuss. 
 

*hugs*
 

Sara

[Lexi C]

you had me at Hello

 

[Maid In Bedlam]

On 10/30/2019 at 2:26 AM, Alex C said:

you had me at Hello

 

 

Then Hello Alex

 

Still got you?

[TommieAnne]

I am blushing, because all I could think through the video was about the woman with the long blonde hair in the white dress - oh, honey that dress looks great on you, come here let me see how it's made, is that shirring all around the body, etc.?

Being older, I have more wishy washy answers, I guess, because I am in the somewhat agree category for most things.

Except #2 Gender roles have come down to us from the division of labor in primitive societies. I'd like to think society has moved past that. Since I'm a non-conformer, I don't see gender roles as important or necessary at all.

And #6 I love my body. No. No. No. No. Since I was a toddler, things just felt wrong. Those feelings have waxed and waned through the years. Strongly disagree.

And there you have it. I want to go through my fabric stack and make that dress. I wouldn't be caught dead in it, but still...