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By Pema · Posted
Hi, Joanie. Welcome to our family. I'm sorry for the pain you've experienced on your path to becoming who you (really) are. Your story is very similar to many others', so we understand much of what you've been through. Everyone's journey is slightly different, so I'm glad to hear that you're staying open to finding what is actually true and works best for you. As you're able, please continue to share what you learn and how you feel. -
By Pema · Posted
There's a lot I could say about these people's beliefs and behaviors, but I think that's irrelevant compared to the much more important point that this is workplace harassment. As Toli said, you don't have to tolerate this. You may feel like complaining to your supervisor isn't something you want to do, but you do have that right. Nobody should be treated this way, whether they're gay, transgender, or not. -
By Pema · Posted
Congratulations, Amey! Please report back and let us know what you experience. -
By LarryNStar · Posted
I will talk to a therapist because I’m not sure, maybe both? But here’s a bit of what I’ve written down: I've always had a problem with relationships, maybe it's my autism, maybe not, who knows? But I've always been too "intense" and called crazy or yandere. I'm only 15 years old. I need to discuss with a professional, but here are some things I wrote. "I'm gonna get professional help and find out what's wrong. It'll be hard though since I have autism and I'm a teen and I heard they don't diagnose autistic teens but a person who hates me said that so IDK if I can accept his comments as fact or not, we used to be friends until he started hurting me and being rude. Anyway, IDK what it could be but I do have problems. If you come here to damage my self-esteem, please don't, but you can share your experiences. I already acknowledge I'm a bad person. I do respect her boundaries, but I also feel like I can't form a connection with her. She says we're friends, but people have said she wants nothing to do with me and that she's "just being nice", especially since she's an art account who doesn't want to look bad for her fans or whatever. IDK how true that is, but she never knows what to say when I talk to her, but then again she wants me to make art for her, so that means she doesn't hate me, right? I feel like a disgusting creep like I've been called my whole life by people for being too intense and clingy. I'm insanely obsessive, no joke. And at first, I felt rejected and decided I wouldn't talk to her, but I've calmed down and I'm too attached to cut contact entirely. She said I could message her but not every day and that she'd tell me if she didn't wanna talk. I know it's not her fault, probably not mine, maybe it is, so why do I feel so bad?? Or maybe, why DID I since I'm better now? We're friends regardless, right? She didn't just outright ghost me and call me names." “Prone to obsession Prone to attachment Self-aware, lucid, doesn’t jump to conclusions when not attached to said person. Would be suspected to be “normal” or without any disorder. Intense attachment and fixations on people Non-crystallized sense of self Derealization at times or “shifting” into my favorite character All-or-nothing attachment I can see you as a normal person one day, and the next you’re everything to me. I stay online anxiously waiting for your text, I can flip my lid if rejected and go to thinking “they hate me!!! And they want me to SUFFER!!!” Attachment is source of stress and can cause anger but also happiness. I will find reasons to not like you or think you’re mean even if I like you at the same time. Impulsive and indulgent, won’t pull away from something or someone that makes me happy. Doesn’t self-harm but thinks about it when having intense emotions (used to impulsively hit/punch arms or head but then got on medication and seems to maybe be calmer but symptoms/signs are still there)” (therapy notes) -
By Toli · Posted
I am sorry that this is happening for you. it is not legal to harass you or make it hard for you to do your job for these reasons, so you could see your HR manager / boss / union rep. Especially if it is a concerted effort by 4 people to make you uncomfortable. If HE would have to leave because of the clothes you are wearing that is genuinely ridiculous. I mean, I know it is hurtful, but, I promise, it is genuinely ridiculous. And if he is making actual comments about your clothing in that way, that is not acceptable. So far ALL of this has come from some nail polish? Which, SO many cis-het men wear! Honestly, you CAN complain about this. I know you might have feelings about that, but, it doesn't have to continue. -
By April Marie · Posted
Yay, Amey!!! It is the start of a new you!!! My anniversary date is July 6th. -
By Jamma · Posted
Hi all, I didnt want to start a whole new topic just for this but still wanted to ask peoples opinions. So a while ago I mentioned there was a guy at work I was messing with. Well it quite quickly came to light that he was genuinely trans/homo phobic as he automatically assumed that painted nails meant gay and that the next logical step from there was becoming transgender. Once i realised this, i stopped messing with him cause it wasnt worth the hassle. Anyway ive since found put that 3 people i work with have been "stoking the flames" so to speak and now he fully believes and is fully against the idea that i am actually mid transition and am going to come into work in a dress, and that he would have to leave if I did because it would be so offensive to him..... On one hand I dont really care what he thinks because although I am questioning my gender and stuff, so what he says hits a little close to home, im not planning on cross dressing at work and have no currebt plans to actually transition. On the other hand, three colleagues are having a grand time winding up a homophobe at my expense. Apparently he has a conversation with his brother genuinely raising concerns about my transition (that isnt happening) He also was heard saying "oh thank god, hes wearing jeans" when seeing me walk in on the camera. Its quite ironic to be the butt of homephobic jokes when im not gay... but yeah -
By KathyLauren · Posted
Congratulations, Amey! That is a big day, one I am sure you will remember. -
By Lydia77 · Posted
Congrats. Thank you for the reminder that it is a journey we are all on. It will take time, which is hard to remember in a world that loves immediacy. Hugs. -
By Amey · Posted
Well I've just collected my patches from the chemist, got home and put one on! Day one of my new life. So excited and happy. ❤️ -
By Graceful Curves · Posted
Tip o' the hat to my Transgender Pulse friends! It took a long time for estrogen to re-sculpt my body to look this way. I have also changed mentally, sexually, spiritually. Still looking forward to more progress. I am very happy--best thing I've ever done for myself! 😁 If the idea of becoming feminine excites you, go for it! Always be your True Self--that's precious! ❤️ Love, Graceful 🥰 -
By Toli · Posted
I am not sure I know what this means? Do we just mean that it will become safe and normal to be an LGBTQ+ person in society? I HOPE SO. I am not sure we need more than that? I really feel like what we should HOPE is that it will be safe and ordinary. Not even remarkable, and then we can focus on all the much bigger parts of identity? -
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