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     Hello all! It’s wonderful to meet everyone here. You all seem amazing and so so supportive. I’ve been looking for a while for a place to be welcomed, as people in school and just in regular life aren’t always accepting to me; a gender-questioning rather young individual. 

     (Excuse me in advance for possibly posting in the wrong forums or chats, surprisingly for my age I’m not good with technology.)

     Just for some background information, I have a larger friend group where almost everyone there is either an ally or part of the lgbtq+ community. However there is not a single transgender/questioning person (that I am aware of except from me) in our friend group— and I haven’t quite come out yet, so I’m unsure what to do or say.

     Even just coming out as pansexual (which I am. Surprise!) to my friend group, terrified me. And I still am uncomfortable and nervous to speak up and talk about how I am gender questioning. I really do hope that I can find a bit of comfort in having a place like this to talk to.

     I’ve been uncomfortable with how I appear and dress, even people calling me she/her pronouns, for a while now. And even though I’m young I just want to express myself and be me! I’d love any advice you have,

Hello all! It’s wonderful to meet everyone here. You all seem amazing and so supportive. I’ve been looking for a while for a place to be welcomed, as people in school and just in regular life aren’t always accepting to me; a gender-questioning rather young individual.    

 

     Thanks, Tyler.

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Tyler.  I'm glad you're here.  Even within this community, a lot of people aren't very familiar with folks who are questioning or gender fluid.  But there is space here for everyone.  Please have a look around the forums and post wherever you like.  I also encourage to download the Discord app so you can venture into our Chat Room if you like.  I look forward to hearing more about you, and from you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hey Tyler, I know it’s a big step posting about yourself on a thread but I can tell you from personal experience that you could not have found a more affirming forum on the web.  The people here are great.  There’s no judgment here... only love and support. I would enjoy reading more about you and your journey.  We are all posting here for the exact same reason...so don’t be shy.  We’re all here for you!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Salutations the Tyler!

 

It sounds like you're off to a good start: You have a collection of allies and you've figured out that the key to happiness is being yourself, whomever that might be. You realize that you're a little uncomfortable trying to squeeze into the mold society wants you to fit into and you're seeking help in doing something about it. Bravo!

 

Coming out, even to friends and people you trust, is always nerve wracking. No matter what the evidence, the goblin in the back of your head keeps screaming, "Ahh! Keep it quiet! They'll get the torches and pitchforks! Run! Hide!" It gets better with time and repetition though. The first one is the hardest. After that it gets easier. It gets easier slowly, but it gets easier.

I wouldn't worry about not having another trans person in your friend group. First of all, how do you know you don't? You haven't come out yet, maybe somebody else is questioning too. Secondly, we're not super common. Homosexual is about 1 in 10 odds. Trans is about 1 in 200. I actually grew up (well, since Junior High) with another trans friend, but I didn't know until my 30's when they finally started to come out. They identify as bigender, btw. I'm not being mean with pronouns. We don't do that here. Also, they've been a friend since 1982 so, yeah, rude.

 

You don't need to be in a rush to come out either. Do it at your own pace. It sounds like your friends are a good bunch, they'll be understanding when you're finally ready. In the meantime, explore and figure out who Tyler is on the inside. There's no rush. There's no timetable. You just do you.

 

I hope you like it here. The company is a little weird, but we're good people.

 

Hugs!

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Greetings Tyler and welcome to the forum.  Please do join in the conversation.  I think you'll find others with similar thoughts as yours to speak with.  Its okay to question.  Thats what exploration is all about, discovery.  

 

3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I hope you like it here. The company is a little weird, but we're good people.

Well, some are a little weird! 

I know you'll like it here. 

 

Cheers, Jani

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Hi Tyler,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

You've taken some good steps already. I'm glad to see you're not keeping hidden away in the closet. I've found the support here to be a miracle. We are a friendly bunch here.

 

It's perfectly fine to be questioning. Take your time to get to know yourself, and try not to stress too much over it. You're doing great!

 

Lots of love, 

Timber Wolf ?

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Hi Tyler,

 

I'm fairly new to this site myself, and everyone here is wonderful.  I think you'll find a wonderfully supportive group here.

 

Hugs,

 

Sally

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Welcome Tyler.  Glad you have joined us.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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