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Sally Stone

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I'm always on the lookout for a good deal, so when I stumbled across a website selling my favorite wig style for a very low price, I was intrigued.  I like to think I'm smart enough to know that when something looks too good to be true, it probably is.  I guess my curiosity more than anything pushed to me to order the wig.  So using PayPal, I risked ordering from a website that wasn't familiar to me.  I did some online research to verify the website was real and that it was a secure site, but I couldn't find any reviews of service or merchandise quality. 

 

The day after ordering it, I received confirmation through PayPal that my order was being processed, and two days after that, I received confirmation the order had shipped.  This was when I learned the wig was being shipped from China.  Uh oh!  The package arrived today, surprisingly fast service, but when I opened the package it was obvious the wig I received was a cheap knockoff, not the real brand advertised on the website.  I had a premonition while placing the order, that I was probably going to be disappointed, so I wasn't shocked or surprised by the product I received.

 

This just goes to show that when ordering online, you can't be too careful, and if you find a price that is just too good to be true, you can bet it probably is. Buyer beware.

 

Hugs,

 

Sally

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1 hour ago, Sally Stone said:

This just goes to show that when ordering online, you can't be too careful, and if you find a price that is just too good to be true, you can bet it probably is.

Sally, been there...done that.  Don’t beat yourself up about it.  It happens to the best of us.  These days “Temptation” combined with “Wants” can cause a buying disaster with only a few keystrokes.

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China can be a real minefield. There are lots of fake goods but even most of the good stuff seems to be made there now.

 

Tracy

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Yeah, I used to work for a company that did regular business with China. Their practices are... not like ours. I've gotten some lovely things that came from there, but quality can vary wildly. For example, my wife got this great dress for Halloween. It looks awesome for what we needed it for. I can't wash it. There are no tags.

 

At least you didn't spend too much on it. I'd miss going to the wig store and trying things on though. I don't always go for the same style. As long as I have to do it, I'm going to enjoy the flexibility. Besides, I like to play a little.

 

Hugs!

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Jackie,

 

I've had so many different wig styles over the years, but when I found this current style (Glow-Girl by Forever Young), it just fit me.  So, it is my go to style. I do though, have several of these wigs in different shades, which allows me some variation. 

 

Hugs,

 

Sally

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Even some cheap(er) wigs can give you good service and be useful for back-up or special use.   If you have learned to care for wigs in general you did not totally waste your money,   Worst case is that you can use it for learning to do the care and some simple maintenance.  The big problem the cheap knock offs have is the wefting is pretty stiff, but you can care for that by washing them and using a regular liquid  laundry softener on them.  

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41 minutes ago, VickySGV said:

Even some cheap(er) wigs can give you good service and be useful for back-up or special use.

This is true.  I had purchased a couple of $60 wigs way back when so I could change it up early in my transition before my natural hair was long enough.  They became a great backup if my main & more expensive wig needed a wash.

Sally as you know, you can never have too many..lol.  Vicky is spot on...as long as you take care of them, they seem to last pretty well.  They do seem to require more maintenance than my higher quality wig.

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Ladies,

 

I actually wrote a post in the Beauty section about my personal wig care regimen.  Check it out.  I have learned a lot about caring for synthetic wigs, and I shared it in that post.  As for this latest wig purchase, not worth even experimenting with, so I discarded it. 

 

Hugs,

 

Sally 

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Yea I too have been zapped by online shopping and got far less then I thought I would.  
Ive always had the guys “gut” feeling about things but still forged boldly ahead and got burned.  
Now that I realize those guy “gut” feelings were actually women’s intuition I pay much closer attention to them now.  
Though it is always irritating to get burned weather you suspected it or not.  
 

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Another story from products from China...

I ordered a hoodie for my sister, it was too small. So I reordered a larger size from the same company, the item they sent said it was two sizes larger than the original size I ordered, but when we compared the two hoodies side by side, the first smaller one was larger than the replacment XXL size that we just ordered.  The larger size was was the first "Large" size, and was larger than the XXL size. As previously stated be VERY cautious when ordering from China, especially vendors that do not refund, or replace.

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